Too Busy, Too
Loud, Too Bright
#sensorydefensive #sensoryoverload
#sensorydefensive #sensoryoverload
An old friend of twenty-two
years came to visit this weekend. We met out for a drink at a local video bar.
The music was loud, the people wore too much cologne, and the local watering
hole was crowded. For someone like me, a sensory defensive man, in a situation
such as this, I go on overload in about an hour. Most days, if I just get accosted
with a pungent perfume or have to push through a crowd, I’m done for the day.
Honestly, one hour at this bar wore me out. I came home and wanted to just
crash, with all the lights out and no sound or stimuli.
Sensory Defensiveness is an
actual disease that I see very often in my client base go undiagnosed. People
who have SD tend to feel like outcasts because they feel different than the
rest of the people around them. If you don’t know you have it, you tend to
self-medicate. So, many of my addictive-based clients end up having SD. Once
they discover that their brain is simply firing too quickly, the issue can be
treated without addictive behavior. But, if you don’t know that you or your
child have this disorder, you can end up with a very troubled human being.
I had a partner once, who
treated me very nicely. We dated for two years, but he ended the relationship
because I didn’t enjoyed antiquing, and it was his passion. I wasn’t much into
it, but I tried. Interestingly enough, I would get very tired and exhausted
after about an hour in an antique store. I would often have to sit down while
he browsed. After being diagnosed, I realized that I was simply allergic to the
dust and moldy smells of the antique stores, which sent me into sensory
overload. When this happens, your body just completely shuts down, mostly to
protect you. So, despite my attempt at appeasing this kind person, I failed
miserably.
I have always been a
sensitive man, even as a child. I hung out with the adults because I didn’t
like to get dirty. I stayed in my bedroom and played the piano because it felt
safe there. I simply didn’t want to get accosted by people and things that were
unfamiliar or harsh to my mind and body. Much of my life, I thought I just didn’t
fit it and considered myself some kind of misfit. Of course, I overcompensated,
and tried to be just the opposite. But, most times, I would end up on the couch
alone at a party, because I just couldn’t stand to be around a lot of people
for too long.
A sensory defensive person
can feel sensitive to light, to sound, to taste, to smells, and to touch. I
remember the first time I was picked for a team for football. The first time someone
ran into me and knocked me down, I didn’t think I could get up. I don’t just
feel a touch. I sense it in every part of my body.
On the good side of the
diagnosis, sensory defensive people make great and passionate lovers because we
are so sensitive. But when it comes to being real and honest with us, our
hearts are just as sensitive. In my book, Finding Authentic You, I have many
discoveries about how to deal with sensory defensiveness.
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