Bo Sebastian's Finding Authentic You!: May 2015

Sunday, May 31, 2015

Bo Sebastian's Finding Authentic You!: Far From Over How Deep Is Your Wound? #wholenewyou...

Have you ever had one of those wounds that just kept oozing from your past? This discovery may help!

Bo Sebastian's Finding Authentic You!: Far From Over How Deep Is Your Wound? #wholenewyou...: In most of our lives we go through times of incredible change, no matter if we want to or not. Usually, we have some sort of AHA moment,...

Far From Over How Deep Is Your Wound? #wholenewyou #relationshipadvice #breakups #whatstrending

In most of our lives we go through times of incredible change, no matter if we want to or not. Usually, we have some sort of AHA moment, a great epiphany, perhaps. Then, we let go of whatever it is we had been struggling with. However, if you have lived long enough as a spiritual seeker and working on your own humanity, psychologically; you know that where there is one layer of struggle, there is usually another, and another, and yet even another.

I have never met anyone who hasn’t had numerous healings from the say instance in his/her life. Healing is a process. Just because you made amends or forgiven someone, doesn’t mean that resentment isn’t still lingering in the inner recesses of your mind. A deeper healing may be on its way, using someone or something completely different from the original source of pain.

I once had a dear friend who had struggled with women and relationships, to the point where he was about to give up. He never seemed to be able to settle into a relationship without major struggle. He was jealous and needed way more intimacy than any one woman could give him, which led him to confusion and a bad temper. Eventually the relationships would end tumultuously.

After every relationship, as good life coaches and therapists do with each other when they just happen to be best friends; we would always decompress with each other. We would share what we learned from every situation. With his relationship situations, because they were as a result from Anxious Attachment Issues from birth, his lessons were like chipping away at Antarctica. Honestly, I never thought he would get through the thick layer of icy cold resistance to love that kept him from finding a real relationship.

Alas, after many years of digging through the rubble to find solace from yoga, meditation, and weeks away at silent retreats, I believe he has finally gotten to a place where he can have a normal relationship. He got married a few months ago.

I share this story because, as “humans being” we simply never stop learning on this earth plain. If you think you are finished, think again. However, to temper that statement, just because you are still in your third year of residency to be a physician, doesn’t mean that you can’t teach your younger students and begin heal patients. As we become masters at being human, we can, also, still use our gifts that we have learned along the continuous path of psychological and spiritual schooling, which has definitely been directed right from Source!

Today's featured book is “Meditation, Meditation, Meditation” It's a book birthed from my own spiritual growth and many years of struggle with getting my mind quiet. I guarantee you'll benefit from this easy-to-use manual to help you get to and stay in practice with your meditation. Also, if you click on the Amazon site, you'll see all of my 15 book— Cookbooks, Novels, Self-Help Books, a Yoga DVD! All great gifts from your friend—Bo Sebastian. Simply go to this link at www.Amazon.com or type in my name. Find great gifts for yourself, family members, and friends by supporting another friend in the process! Thank you.

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A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian

What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

If you are a gay man or woman, you may want to direct your gaze to my newest blog:

Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. This blog is an extension of my Facebook page (https://www.facebook.com/UncommonGaySpiritualWarrior/) and group meetings about the rare combination of spirituality and "being gay" defines the most important part of us, even in relationship. Join me at: http://uncommongayspiritualwarrior.blogspot.com/.

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]

Saturday, May 30, 2015

Blame Is Lame! 3 Steps to Take Back Your Power #wholenewyou #relationshipadvice #blame #breakups #whatstrending

Most of us have spent our entire life avoiding our own hurt and discomfort, blaming others. If you think hard enough, you’ll find someone responsible for the bad things in your life. I certainly have played the blame card far too often. Today, is a new day, though. Blame is just lame. It’s unhealthy for you and certainly doesn’t serve the world in any positive way. I seriously doubt it has affected the person you are blaming one iota. So, here are three wonderful ways to let go of your resentments forever.

Take responsibility for everything in your life right now! See how it feels to say, “Yes, this happened to me. But, life just happens—always.” I’m not responsible for the rain and the thunder, but I certainly don’t blame the sky. Today, I take back my power!
Write down each situation in your life when you have used blame as an excuse. Find a way that each situation has forced you to grow and become stronger.
This is probably the hardest step: Begin to thank the person and God for being in your life for that time period.

When I look at my life and see the people who have caused me the most pain, I also see the biggest times of growth. This is the way I like to look at life:

All of our spirits set out to learn specific lessons in this lifetime. We all got together before we entered into our human bodies and decided which part we would play in each other’s lives. The spirits that were the closest to us, loved us the most, were the ones who made the biggest sacrifices. They played the hardest roles in our lives to teach us our biggest lessons. So, now I see people who have hurt me—spiritually—as the ones who have the deepest spiritual connection to my growth here on earth.

This may sound like a fairytale. But, it works for me. Let’s face it, if you want to take your power back, you must always find a way to make life work for you, not against you. Everything is working together for the good! The foundation of life is love. If this is true, then we must act like it. These words alone will change a blaming heart into one that loves!

I want that for all of us!

Today's featured book is my Gluten-Free cookbook. It's a book birthed from years of helping people lose weight and also my own arthritic problem. I guarantee you that going gluten free will change your health, your mental acuity, and release muscle pain. Also, if you click on the Amazon site, you'll see all of my 15 book— Cookbooks, Novels, Self-Help Books, a Yoga DVD! All great gifts from your friend—Bo Sebastian. Simply go to this link at www.Amazon.com or type in my name. Find great gifts for yourself, family members, and friends by supporting another friend in the process! Thank you.

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A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian

What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

If you are a gay man or woman, you may want to direct your gaze to my newest blog: Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. This blog is an extension of my Facebook page (https://www.facebook.com/UncommonGaySpiritualWarrior/) and group meetings about the rare combination of spirituality and "being gay" defines the most important part of us, even in relationship. Join me at: http://uncommongayspiritualwarrior.blogspot.com/.

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Friday, May 29, 2015

What? Leave You? 6 Ways to Leave an Unhealthy Relationship #divorce #relationshipadvice #breakups #whatstrending

Stephen Sondheim wrote a song called “Could I Leave You?” that is from the musical Follies. A woman kept by a rich husband in an unhealthy relationship, sang the song. She patters sarcastically, “Leave you, leave you, how could I leave you? What would I do on my own? Putting thought of you aside in the south of France. Would I think of suicide? Darling, shall we dance? Could I live through the pain on a terrace in Spain, would it pass? It would pass!” (You get the picture?)

So, you find yourself in an unhealthy relationship, and you want out. You’ve been thinking about your liberation for years, but the thought of giving up all that you have and starting over keeps you from your true desire to find authenticity and real love. So, what do you do to take that large hurdle into the unknown?

Make a list. On side, put all the items, including emotional ones that you would truly miss. On the other side, put all of the things you need to get rid of, including emotional baggage. Make the list long and painfully articulate, because you will use this list every time you second-guess yourself during the hard break-up process. On this list, you must include actions and in appropriate behavior you saw in the beginning, which worsened during the relationship, but dismissed. This is important, because you don’t want to make the same mistakes again… Usually, someone in this position is dealing with a partner who wanted you to be dependent so s/he could manipulate you. This is, by definition narcissism. Read all you can about narcissistic and co-narcissistic behavior, because you have become a co-narcissist, if this is the case.
Get a counselor of some kind or a life coach to keep you on track with your move and the challenge of separation. You will find solace in the fact that someone else’s suggestions and thoughts about what you need to do and how you do it are EXACTLY on point. In fact, you’ll depend on this counsel, sometimes, which is perfectly okay.
Begin to get healthy spiritually and mentally. Of course, getting a counselor is one way to start the process, but, also, take classes in spiritually to begin the challenge and practice of getting to know a higher, better you. Remember, somewhere along the line you lost that person you once knew as happy. Even if your relationship started out with true love, somewhere you took a u-turn. Having a spiritual base and even a spiritual home will also support your strong decision to move on. You will need all of those new relationships to hold you, support you, and keep you standing during the inevitable painful times of divorce.
Make a careful plan of everything you need to do in the breakup, including getting legal advice. Actually, you might even start here. Who knows, if you’re thinking of divorce, it’s quite possible your partner has, too. Begin looking for alternative places to live, stay, and move. Have a financial plan in place. Most people, especially women supported by rich husbands, are more frightened of their financial ruin than they are of anything else during a divorce. So, hiring the best legal council is on the top of your list. You won’t be sorry. You might even begin taking classes to start the new career you’ve been wanting to have for so long.
Though all of this seems cold and calculated, we get nothing in life unless you first make a plan and can see it clearly. Divorce or leaving a long-standing relationship is no different than creating something new in Divine Mind. This new move is also a seed you plant in Divine Consciousness and water and tend to, just as you would a dream. See your new life—free of the pain—in your meditation and prayers, everyday. Don’t miss one day! You will need a clear picture of your new life without your partner.
Make a plan to stay OUT of intimate relationships for at least a year, while you get your life and your mind healthy again. Some therapy suggests that you will spend exactly 1/2 of the time you were in the relationship, getting over it. Let’s try not to take that long, by doing all this good work ahead of time. But, you will, of course, need to take time to grieve, even if you’re the one leaving. So, as you can see, the worst thing someone can do while leaving one bad relationship is to leverage a new intimate relationship. This is only an attempt to buffer pain and not look at what you really want—authenticity and spiritual growth. First relationships after a divorce usually end in disaster and cause more problems than you intended. Don’t bring someone else into your smelly relationship. Clean it up, first; clean yourself up, first, then move on with grace.

Today's featured book is one of my novels, “The Leaving Cellar.” It's a book about waiting too long to take what you deserve from life. Also, if you click on the Amazon site, you'll see all of my 15 book— Cookbooks, Novels, Self-Help Books, a Yoga DVD! All great gifts from your friend—Bo Sebastian. Simply go to this link at www.Amazon.com or type in my name. Find great gifts for yourself, family members, and friends by supporting another friend in the process! Thank you.

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A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian

What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Thursday, May 28, 2015

What’s Trending?: 5 Ways to Keep You Focus #whatstrending #dreaming #lawofmind #spiritualadvice

In a day, I rarely pull away from what’s important in my life. Yet, I hear from many friends and clients that maintaining focus is one of the hardest chores, when everything can change in an instant. For example, you decide you on three simple tasks before work. You have a doctor’s appointment. On the way you want to pick up a prescription that you’ve completely run out of and shouldn’t miss. And you must buy gas.

When you get to your doctor’s appointment a little ahead of time, in hopes that you’ll be seen quicker, you’re told by the lovely attendant that, mistakenly, this appointment is at the doctor’s other office—across town. You still have time to make it to the other office, if you don’t get stuck in traffic. But suddenly, everything you had to do after that falls back a step.

Unfortunately, getting gas is a must and so is the medicine, so you need to find time to do those tasks as well. Suddenly, you have to go to the bathroom, really badly. You don’t think you’re going to be able to wait until you get to the doctor’s office. You realize, then, that when you get to work, immediately, you have a conference room meeting with the Board of Directors that you can’t be late for. You begin sweating in your new blue suit. As you drive, you wonder more about running out of gas, then you do about your important presentation to the Board.

So, here are five steps to take what looks to be a mess of a morning into a blessing:

When plans change without your doing, FIRST, always know that there are angels changing your path for a Divine Purpose.
Know that the outcome from this change will also be Divine. Someone, perhaps, will be late for the meeting or it will be cancelled and rescheduled altogether. Maybe you’ll avoid an accident that would have happened had you left the building at another time. You really don’t know. But, accepting that this change BENEFITS YOU, is part of the beauty of these five steps.
Keep your eye on the path that is directly in front of you. Do what you need to do, exactly by order of the path that is set in front of you. In other words, if your plans have been changed, make sure you follow the change exactly. Don’t fight it or resist it. Everything usually falls into place when you don’t resist. Fighting it or getting angry, just stops the divine flow that has been put in place.
Simply call the people that are affected by this change and share your issue. You will find that most people are very forgiving whenever you immediately share that you are going to be late. People often find other things to do while they are waiting. If you just show up late without calling, those same people in your life have every right to be angry. Just take responsibility for your life in that moment and watch the rest of it work out perfectly.
Most importantly, learn to love that not every decision is yours to make in life! The important ones are God’s. So, when a shift in plan takes place, absolutely know that Spirit has gotten involved in your mundane plans for a Divine reason. This should keep you awake and in the Now. There is a Divine Plan in place. You are a part that Divine Plan!

Today's featured book is “Finding Authentic You.” It's a book birthed from my own spiritual growth. I guarantee you'll love the 365 daily readings that will help you maintain a positive mind, body, and spirit. Also, if you click on the Amazon site, you'll see all of my 15 book— Cookbooks, Novels, Self-Help Books, a Yoga DVD! All great gifts from your friend—Bo Sebastian. Simply go to this link at www.Amazon.com or type in my name. Find great gifts for yourself, family members, and friends by supporting another friend in the process! Thank you.

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A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian

What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Wednesday, May 27, 2015

Focused Passion: 5 Ways to Keep Your Dream Alive #pursueyourpassion #dreaming #lawofmind #spiritualadvice

If you have ever pursued something as daunting as writing a novel or training for a 10K, you know that you can’t let up anytime or any day. Your passion for your goal must be so great that you forgo your own wants and desires and train or write until your dream is fulfilled. Oftentimes, during the process of moving toward your dreams you, may get stymied by problems, life situations, and stress that either puts your dreams on hold or wipes them completely away. Here are 5 ways to keep your dream alive.

Start with a blueprint or a plan of what you would like to see happen in your life. Writing a novel will be our example. You may want to make a vision board about what you want to achieve with your novel. Remember: writing the novel is only part of the passion. Actually, living the dream of being a prosperous writer is probably even deeper in your soul. Bring that passion to the surface.
Once you have the big picture on the table then discover what it is you want to write about. Your subject must be as passionate as your drive to write. So, if you choose to write about blood and guts, because this kind of book make big bucks, but you’re a spiritual person and have no stomach for that sort of thing; you’ve already squelched your passion, before you started. Your first big project should be a book that you MUST write, filled with authentic passion and drive. It seeps from your skin. It’s so powerful. Decide on that passionate subject and create a working title.
Begin to sketch out your process. Put a plan in place. For me, it was to get up and, after breakfast, and write for two hours. I sat at that computer and wrote—still do—even if all I wrote was worthless. Begin to create a habit of writing. Some people (mothers, for instance) have to get up at 5 a.m., before their kids, to get quiet time to write. You may work for 10 hours a day and have to write in the wee hours of the night. But, if you want your passion to come forth, you must provide space for it.
When you carve a niche out for your passion, you’ll find that little gets in the way of it. If you decide to write whenever you have time, it will never happen. I promise you. Anything you truly want deserves time to develop and grow, like a seed planted in the consciousness of Divine Mind. It takes planting, nurturing, watering, and believing that something will grow from this process. This is Law. It is not fantasy! Set your faith on this Divine Spiritual Law.
Finally, whatever comes out of you is okay. For the first month, be satisfied with things that don’t make sense or pages that you may throw out in the end. Nothing matters at the beginning, except that you believe in yourself, in your dream, and in your craft. Keep moving forward. If you were training for that 10K, you know that, sometimes, it rains and you feel like crap. But, to succeed, you must put on that raincoat with a hood and plod forward, even if you walk half of the distance. Especially, at the beginning of your process, you have to give yourself room to be a novice. Eventually, you’ll get better and better, until one day you wake up to find that you’re a professional at what you do. I promise.

With all these steps in place, I assure you, you will find a novel or a book or new career in your future within a year. Give yourself ample time to make a vast change or create something huge. Some great works of art have taken years to grow. But, they were certainly worth the effort in the end.

Today's featured book is my big novel, “Fatal Virtues.” I found a way to make writing my passion and also prosper with a contemporary theme, by using my Italian family culture and their crazy antics to make this book come alive, even though it's about murder and a female mafia in Pittsburgh. I guarantee you'll love this page-turner. Also, if you click on the Amazon site, you'll see all of my 15 book— Cookbooks, Novels, Self-Help Books, a Yoga DVD! All great gifts from your friend—Bo Sebastian. Simply go to this link at www.Amazon.com or type in my name. Find great gifts for yourself, family members, and friends by supporting another friend in the process! Thank you.

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A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian

What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Tuesday, May 26, 2015

5 Steps to Going from Pain to Gain #growingfrompain #divorce #abandonment #spiritualadvice

Recently, I saw myself take a completely different road than I normally would have taken after a painful breakup. In times of hurt, I would usually pout, mourn, then pout and mope, then get really angry, before any healing began. This most recent time, I walked through the door of being vulnerable into whatever change Spirit was calling me to do. As I did so, I discovered one of the most valuable parts of my subconscious grieving in the background, like a young child left in a dark hallway for forty some years.

I shared my story about this situation a couple of days ago in my 5-24-15 blog entitled “Finding Resolve from My Insane Ego.” What I didn’t explain was how a great friend and therapist had to share how differently I had reacted before I was even able recognize my own refreshing resolve to an old problem.

So, how do you get from pain to gain? Most people think that the old paradigm of grieving, then getting angry, then pouting, then moping for days, and then taking lots of time off from life will resolve almost any kind of hurt. In my case, I made a completely different choice, spiritually. Here is the difference in the process:

When something or someone causes you pain in your life, ask this questions immediately: What do I have to learn from this, God? Get out of your pain for long enough to simply ask. Don’t expect an quick answer!
When you get clear about your lesson, ask the second question: How do I get my ego out of the way to learn this lesson? This is the time to spend lots of time quiet in meditation. Clear your mind for divine inspiration. (I know that your ego mind will want to rant and rave and be angry and hurt, but settle into the quietness by continually repeating a mantra such as, “I am so blessed, I am so blessed. I know I’m blessed.”)
Call a friend or a therapist who can support your SPIRITUAL growth around this subject. Don’t call someone who will support your grief! This is important. (You may eventually need to talk with a grief counselor of some sort, but right now, we are hoping for a different resolve than the old way of living through pain.)
Write an intention about the process. It may look like this: “I know that God is all in all, as big as the ocean and as small as the tiniest particle in physics. I, also, know that I am a piece of that whole, always complete—spiritually, mentally, and physically. Nothing or no one can take away from God. I am complete because God is Complete. What I’m feeling physically and mentally, now, is just an effect or a memory of pain—a neural pathway firing from my past like an old computer program. I choose to use this ego feeling to understand a bigger picture that may be lying dormant underneath this temporary pain.”
Allow yourself and your body time to grieve. Death and separation from love is like going through an operation where something is removed from your body. If you have had surgery, you would have to take time to heal. Just imagine that what you went through physically REQUIRES TIME TO HEAL. Pamper yourself. Read a good book. Lay in bed for a couple of days and do very little. All of this is part of the physical process of healing. You will be amazed at how much quicker you recover from the mental anguish, when you treat your body as if it were healing from an operation.

I guarantee that if you do all that I have shared, your time of grief will be exponentially shorter, as mine was. Growing from pain doesn’t have to mean years of torture. Remember: Spirit wants you always to be happy. The reason why you experience pain in the first place is to eventually COMPLETELY resolve the pain from your past.

Today's featured book is “Learning Alone.”
It's a book birthed from my own psychological growth. I guarantee you'll grow from understanding how to learn from your relationship paradigm in ways you never thought you could— mind, body, and spirit. Also, if you click on the Amazon site, you'll see all of my 15 book— Cookbooks, Novels, Self-Help Books, a Yoga DVD! All great gifts from your friend—Bo Sebastian. Simply go to this link at www.Amazon.com or type in my name. Find great gifts for yourself, family members, and friends by supporting another friend in the process! Thank you.

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A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian

What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

If you are a gay man or woman, you may want to direct your gaze to my newest blog:

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Monday, May 25, 2015

Sheroes and Heroes” A Memorial Day Tribute #whatisahero #memorialday #heroes #sheroes

I was amazed when checking the dictionary for the word HERO. I realized that even Webster leaned toward the masculine for the meaning of this word, which we have all come to celebrate on Memorial Day. Wikipedia defines hero as: “a person, typically a man, who is admired or idealized for courage, outstanding achievements, or noble qualities: a war hero.”

Don’t you think it’s time we include women to be a part of a term for which we have ascribed to courageous acts? As always, with women, our terminology has ascribed a separate word for women’s acts of courage, heroine, but that just doesn’t do it for me, and it certainly removes women from the conversation, when we talk simply of heroes?

When I think of heroes such as Susan B. Anthony, Martin Luther King, Harriet Tubman, Amelia Earhart, and Abraham Lincoln, they are all heroes—equally heroic—despite gender or race. As you know, many women fight as men do in wars, and still we seek to create gender bias, or worse yet allow high-ranking male officers to mistreat them sexually and get away with it.

Women fighting for our country have, to not only face a battle for religious and political rights, but also face the injustices of sexual abuse from fellow enlistees and high ranking military officer. In an article in the New York Times Magazine, “The Military’s Rough Justice on Sexual Assault” (Nov. 26, 2014 issue) we learn of the many civilian women affected by the militaries own “special” legal system, releasing countless male military officers from conviction, because of the red tape around military legal proceedings.

One woman, Kim Hanks (a medical assistant) and her lawyer, (Colonel Don Christensen fought back. Ms. Hanks had accused Lt. Col. James Wilkerson, Aviano’s inspector general and a highly regarded F-16 fighter pilot, of rape and won, only to find out three months later that the jury trial had been overturned. Wilkerson had been released from his year jail sentence and returned to his full post as Lt. Colonel.

The next act is what I would consider heroic! Instead of Kim Hanks and Colonel Christensen, her lawyer, hunkering down in defeat, they fought back for justice, not just for Ms. Hanks, but for every woman who would subsequently face the same injustice. They not only got Wilkerson dismissed from duty, but subsequently got the president involved in changing the law protecting rapists like Wilkerson for the future. This is heroism in action.

Our fight in this world is not just with guns and battle artillery. No, in fact, it is with our strong wills to see justice for all, especially those downtrodden and under supported by our legal system. In the past we’ve seen Russian GLBT people imprisoned for being gay, but have also felt the power of Ireland’s recent support for gay rights, amending Ireland’s definition of marriage.

We can see that the fight for rights around the world is a long and arduous one. Our real heroes are not only the ones going to actual battle with guns and artillery but the ones who face injustices to change the infrastructure of laws for all of our benefits.

Today we celebrate all of our heroes!

Today's featured book is “Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior.” It's a book birthed from my own spiritual growth. I guarantee you'll love the 365 daily readings that will help you maintain a positive mind, body, and spirit. Also, if you click on the Amazon site, you'll see all of my 15 book— Cookbooks, Novels, Self-Help Books, a Yoga DVD! All great gifts from your friend—Bo Sebastian. Simply go to this link at www.Amazon.com or type in my name. Find great gifts for yourself, family members, and friends by supporting another friend in the process! Thank you.

* * *

A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian

What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

If you are a gay man or woman, you may want to direct your gaze to my newest blog:

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Sunday, May 24, 2015

Finding Resolve from My Insane Ego! #neuralpathways #psychology #anxiety #releasingthepast

Even the simplest of materials, broken down to its smallest ingredients is created from voluminous amounts of different combinations of atoms from the periodic chart. While most people generally go through life not even considering the combination of atoms that created milk; the majority of adults, however, wonder how certain insane thoughts came into existence in their own minds. Most of us wonder about what gave us the eschewed beliefs that have caused so much anxiety in our minds.

When you relive a thought over and over again in your mind hoping to come out with a better outcome, we define this as insanity. Yet, knowing this, we close our eyes to sleep and the scenario begins again. An answer occurred to me when I asked myself a very simple question: When was the first time that you remember feeling this powerful negative thought or emotion? As I went back into the recesses of my mind, I discovered a story I hadn’t remembered before, one that was hidden from my own consciousness.

Our minds are clever. When a thought is too painful, we have parts of our consciousness that protect us from that particular thought. This is why memories often come back in bits and pieces, especially painful ones that caused Post Traumatic Stress.

My particular thought came as I meditated quietly, asking for guidance about a circular thought of insecurity and abandonment that I often feel. I saw a vision of young boy—me—in a baseball dugout, anxious and angry about being forced to be there. My turn to bat was about to arrive. My heart raced and my stomach screamed out in pain, because I was never ready for that moment. No one had ever helped me practice, not even the coach. I was the kid who only got put in the line-up in the ninth inning when my team had no chance of losing.

In my dream, I would strikeout over and over again. But, the worst part of the dream was looking out into the bleachers for my remiss parents who never were a part of the crowd of supportive ones cheering in the bleachers. I was angry, abandoned, and left to support my own self at seven years old. At the end of the night, I walked home for one long, lonely mile in the dusk, alone, usually crying.

What I discovered in my dream was a sad scenario, yes. But, what excited me about this revelation was that I finally began to understand the impact of those moments as a child. As an adult, I can now help that young child inside of me to heal that feeling of abandonment, which wasn’t my fault at all. What a relief to know that the compound mixture of emotions that is now what I call insecurity, actually has a beginning.

As a chef, I know that if I can define all of the ingredients in a particular dish that I had tasted, I usually can come up with a recipe to create a similar result. So, too, knowing the ingredients of my circular thoughts, helped me to recreate a scenario that could finally be healed. I can now relieve those parts of my mind that seek to protect me from the painful inception of my insecurities—from their long appointed posts—and let the memory be healed.

Now, every time I feel insecure, I can talk to Bobby—my inner child—and tell him how precious and wonderful he is… was. I can share with him that, despite his feelings of being abandoned, he was not the cause of this pain. I can, also, assure my inner child that I—the adult—will never put him in a situation like the one from my childhood.

This is a start—a great start to heal the wounds of my insane ego. Yes, I know, with my deductive brain, that I am whole and complete, always, as a part of God. But, oftentimes, we all need to come out of our own ego bodies and minds long enough to treat the wounds of our past. This is my resolve and treatment for you:

“This is what I know. Spirit God is whole and complete, as am I, a part of this wonderful, loving creative energy we call Source. I’m thankful for this truth and for the Law of Creation. I’m knowing for myself and for anyone reading this that you, too, are whole and complete, right now. Nothing can add or subtract from the love that you are, wherever you are right at this moment. Feel this love in every part of your body and mind, seeking to enlighten and enliven you.

“I’m also knowing that anywhere in your ego mind that pain still exists as an effect from something in your past, that—in a time of divine inspiration and protection—you, too, will find the inception of your circular thinking, the story where the pain began. When you do find this story, you will also find the grace to forgive yourself, the people in your life who caused the feeling, and begin to walk on the awesome pathway to healing. I know this for you and for myself, right now, as I release this prayer to the Law. And so it is!

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