Bo Sebastian's Finding Authentic You!: January 2015

Friday, January 30, 2015

Bo Sebastian's Finding Authentic You!: Sleeping Humans #addiction #awakening #spiritualad...

What is a SPIRITUAL AWAKENING? Read on...

Bo Sebastian's Finding Authentic You!: Sleeping Humans #addiction #awakening #spiritualad...: “Most people walk around and live as if they are asleep!” What this phrase means is that some people live in their Ego minds and not from a...

Sleeping Humans #addiction #awakening #spiritualadvice

“Most people walk around and live as if they are asleep!” What this phrase means is that some people live in their Ego minds and not from a spiritual perspective, giving them the self-centered appearance of being asleep to their purpose on earth. However, when someone wakes up from this Ego perspective, he or she gains a new knowledge of life through the eyes of God Consciousness. Once you wake up, living asleep is not an option.

I have been a hypnotherapist for over twenty years. During trance, many clients experience an AHA moment that changes them forever. They might not get it that they experienced a spiritual moment, but they never see life the same after that awakening. I have been fortunate to watch and to listen as, one by one, I see friends and family and clients awaken to their purpose. What a true delight to see someone open his eyes and recognize life has more dimensions than just one.

I had a man, recently, share with me that, after 20 years of addiction and self-centeredness, he has found a unique and wonderful perspective—outside of himself—that has allowed him to see his life and the world with some distance. He considered this space a place of observation. He called his new point of view a miracle. He told me that after he experienced this place outside of himself, he stopped running from his purpose, embraced his human faults, and now lives in unison with his spiritual being. He, also, shared that, after all of these years, this awakening has led him to become sober for two years, as well. This experience is what the 12-step programs talk of in Step 2: “Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.”

My best friend, Keith, told me that “a true spiritual awakening” will change any addict into a new person, having a clear perspective of the human state of addiction, compared to the constant state of Oneness with Spirit. Having had 20 years sober and having had gone through years of collegiate training to help addiction, Keith also shared that the 12 Steps do not work without Step 2. If you don’t have a spiritual experience, you will never be able to quit any addiction.

I asked him how someone could tell if an addict has had a spiritual experience. He shared: “if the steps are working!”

So, basically, if you discover that you are overwhelmed with life and have no strength to get past an addiction, you may need to search for the perspective of a greater and higher power.

This is much different than “turning your life over” to a higher power. The change in perspective allows you to live in your decision with cognizance. This same place of cognizance is where we learn to separate our humanness (powerlessness to a condition we have no control over—our humanity) with a new place of being a conduit of Spiritual energy and wisdom.

This is an exchange of sorts for “power from light and love,” instead of power from ego- or self-control. Ultimately, ego will lose all battles to self-control, because Ego has no power over the human condition. Only combining the human nature with a spiritual component can take a human mind and heal it completely.

A Single Session

A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian

What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

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Also, if you are a gay man or woman, you may want to direct your gaze to my newest blog: Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. This blog is an extension of my Facebook page (https://www.facebook.com/UncommonGaySpiritualWarrior/) and group meetings about the rare combination of spirituality and "being gay" defines the most important part of us, even in relationship. Join me at: http://uncommongayspiritualwarrior.blogspot.com/.

A Cookbook, a Novel, a Self-Help Book, a Yoga DVD! All great gifts from your friend—Bo Sebastian. Simply go to this link at www.Amazon.com or type in my name. Find great gifts for yourself, family members, and friends by supporting another friend in the process! Thank you.

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Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]

Thursday, January 29, 2015

Bo Sebastian's Finding Authentic You!: The Power of You #drchrismichaels #raceconsciousne...

You have an amazing power within your metaphormosize and change, not only you, but the world. Will you use it? Read on...

Bo Sebastian's Finding Authentic You!: The Power of You #drchrismichaels #raceconsciousne...: I have had the pleasure of helping a friend, Dr. Chris Michaels, with his 4-week series on forgiveness. Dr. Michaels is the author of a won...

The Power of You #drchrismichaels #raceconsciousness

I have had the pleasure of helping a friend, Dr. Chris Michaels, with his 4-week series on forgiveness. Dr. Michaels is the author of a wonderful book, The Power of You. In the last session of the four weeks on forgiveness, Michaels talked of the evolvement of the earth and its reciprocal force on the humans inhabiting it.

We understand, metaphorically, what humans go through when we reach into the pocket of society and race consciousness. Existing in every human on earth is a part of the whole, right now, growing and expanding beyond our old beliefs, moving towards our greatest creativity, restless in our pain, hating our old lives, and having an overwhelming feeling of sadness and despair. We are gestating in our own sadness, as we metamorphosize into beings that are ultimately more powerful. All of us who have awakened to Spirit’s movement on earth have a part of our soul that experience these feelings. We own them because the earth and its population cry for help and need a new way of thinking for these times in our greatest duress.

Dr. Michaels shared that 25% of women from 40-60 years old are on mind-altering drugs. Another fact: Americans make up only 5% of the world’s population; yet, we use 80% of the world’s painkillers. Whatever we, as a whole, are going through, we are going through together. Some are anesthetizing their pain. Some are welcoming it and asking the great question: How do I find the answers to make my life more joyful and powerful?

Dr. Michaels suggests these four points to help all of us move through these uncomfortable feelings:

Accept yourself, gaining full command of your talents;
Silence the voice of the inner critic;
Gain Self-Command; and
Find your soul fearless and deeply routed in its purpose.

Learning to love and accept your Self is a wild ride. Taming the inner critic takes a lifetime of poise and self-analysis. However, we know that God does not want us to live in pain. In fact, God wants us to be joyful, living in bliss every moment of every day.

When you find this place of mental rest and joy, you will realize, then, and only then, that your authentic self is able to release into your humanness and into the world all of your greatest talents and attributes—giving way to your wonderful gifts to humanity: compassion, love, an your important contributions.

A Single Sessionw/ Bo Sebastian

What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

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If you are a gay man or woman, you may want to direct your gaze to my newest blog: Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. This blog is an extension of my Facebook page (https://www.facebook.com/UncommonGaySpiritualWarrior/) and group meetings about the rare combination of spirituality and "being gay" defines the most important part of us, even in relationship. Join me at: http://uncommongayspiritualwarrior.blogspot.com/.

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Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Wednesday, January 28, 2015

Bo Sebastian's Finding Authentic You!: Giving Way to Healing #grief #healing

Most men feel too ashamed to cry. Maybe it's time. Read on...

Bo Sebastian's Finding Authentic You!: Giving Way to Healing #grief #healing: I spent three months getting to know and falling in love with someone only to find out that he was in the throes of a terrible addiction. I...

Giving Way to Healing #grief #healing

I spent three months getting to know and falling in love with someone only to find out that he was in the throes of a terrible addiction. I had to leave the relationship, suddenly, and without my heart understanding the death of a soul-friend. I spent an entire month trying to compute and process the grief and the questions, only to discover that no answers existed to help the pain. When I took my feelings to God and let go, my grief gave way to healing.

Pain from a death of any kind—a personal relationship, a passing of a soul, or the trauma of an accident—can lead to incredible pain and self-analysis. Did I do something wrong to make this happen? Am I ever going to experience truth and empowerment? Will relationship ever grace my doorstep? These are all questions that go through every well-meaning person’s mind who has experienced a loss. You are not alone. Your soul is simply processing the pain of another loss in your life. Soon, you will gain strength and feel empowered again, but it’s time to grieve now,. Go ahead and let yourself cry, for a time.

Grief is actually a great tool to cleanse the soul. I had a healer tell me that, “crying was like the body getting cut. Just after, the corporal body bleeds to cleanse the wound. This is also true for the spiritual body.”

This quote has helped me become an observer in the most trying times of my life. If you don’t let yourself grieve, you will end with a terrible soul infection, which will later have to be reinjured to heal. We don’t want that. Grieve your loss! You will be better for it in the end.

Grief has a beginning, a middle, and an end. You be would be well to know the difference between the stages, as you go through the seasons of grief. Eventually, your soul cleanses, and it’s time to move on with your life in a new way with a different perspective. You will be the better for your loss, even though your body and mind feel like a puzzle with a missing piece.

The truth is: we are all puzzles with many missing pieces, but we could fill this empty space with new love and with Spiritual understanding. In the doing, you find that the missing pieces you experienced were actually always God, guiding you, leading you, and teaching the hardest lessons of life. You are complete, now, my friend. You always were whole. God just has to take time to teach you the lesson of being human.

A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian

What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately, the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

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Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Tuesday, January 27, 2015

Bo Sebastian's Finding Authentic You!: Listening vs. Analyzing #compassion

What is the difference between listening and hearing? Read on...

Bo Sebastian's Finding Authentic You!: Listening vs. Analyzing #compassion: Nowhere is the skill of listening more important than in expressing compassion. Who hasn’t been in a situation, when all you needed was an ...

Listening vs. Analyzing #compassion

Nowhere is the skill of listening more important than in expressing compassion. Who hasn’t been in a situation, when all you needed was an ear to listen; but, instead, you got someone who tried to solve your problem. Sometimes, being heard is just enough to make you feel secure and loved.

We have different voices that operate in our minds to keep us in check. The voice of our body operates with hunger, physical needs, aches, and pains. The voice of the deductive mind helps us be able to add 2 + 2 and manage our appointments throughout the day. Lastly, we have our inductive or spiritual mind. This part of our mind dreams, imagines, and observes without judgment. We call this part of our thinking our God Mind.

This God Mind is the mind with which we listen in times of compassion. We don’t have to listen with our deductive mind, because we want to observe rather than deduct and be more of a conduit for love. In other words, when we act in a loving and compassionate way, we want to channel God through us, instead of using our Ego to help another person.

Yes, in this God mind, you may find yourself saying something out of character, but flow with it and allow yourself to fully express as Spirit. You will be dumbfounded by how different you feel in times of duress. You may even experience complete joy and fulfillment, even when someone else is feeling bad. What you now feel is the pure abandonment of loving with the Spirit of God through you. How different we all feel when we let go of the idea that we have to do anything to manage others. When we simply take the hand of someone in need and reach deep into the pocket of our soul, we find that God is more than willing to do the rest for us and as us.

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Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Monday, January 26, 2015

Bo Sebastian's Finding Authentic You!: Patterns That I Face Everyday #codependency

f you have a psychological problem that keeps recurring in your life, you may be following an old pattern. See what to do...

Bo Sebastian's Finding Authentic You!: Patterns That I Face Everyday #codependency: We have often heard that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. This is a patte...

Patterns That I Face Everyday #codependency

We have often heard that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. This is a pattern. For example: I begin a new job and, immediately, don’t like how the boss treats me. I complain to others around me. People always persecute me. Why can’t I find a job where others treat me fairly?

If this pattern happens over and over again, you probably are living in an old story that needs changing. You could also use a new way of looking at this picture. I had a friend who would always found a reason to quit a job after only a month or two. Sometimes, she would be everyone’s favorite person at her new employment for the first few months, because ultimately she was a hard worker. Then, suddenly, her boss would persecute her again. Often, she would have to take her problems to human resources and sometimes to the police. If it wasn’t sexual harassment (she was gay) then it was others getting her hours.

She had a mother who tried hard to support her. This was one of those symbiotic relationships that continued until my friend was about 35. The mother nurtured and loved her child beyond the scope of reason. She needed her daughter’s love and approval to co-exist, so she bent the rules where her daughter was concerned, often giving her money when she needed it. What her mother didn’t understand for a long time was that her daughter needed psychological help and that she had been corroborating with her own child to enable her, never to heal her issues.

Eventually, the daughter’s alcoholism and drug abused got to the point that she became volatile and angry, not only making it impossible to gain employ, but also causing issues with the mother’s family life. The mother finally cut off her daughter. The daughter had no more patterns to fall back to. Eventually, she got the help she needed to break her old habits. But, she had to release the pattern of dependency and codependency to make this happen.

Patterns in our life are like programs on a computer. They run like a mainframe on the computer—in the background—and often don’t present as a problem until its too late. So, we have to look at negative patterns in our lives to help cue us to our deepest problems inside the mechanism of our own brains. This would be like noticing that the printouts from your printer are slightly eschewed. Eventually, you need to change the ink cartridge or the alignment to make the copies appear correct. You wouldn’t continue to tear up the printouts. You would look for the problem that caused them.

This is the same issue with life. When you see a pattern in your life that looks wrong or continues in a negative way, you must look for the problem at the source, not blame it on the paper or the resulting printout. When you do this, you begin to take a look at your own life with a little distance. An omniscient perspective is always a much healthier one to gain a much needed change in attitude.

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Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Sunday, January 25, 2015

Bo Sebastian's Finding Authentic You!: “Unsafe” in Relationship #relationship #relationsh...

We have been looking at attending to your safety in relationship... Read on... Look at how the main character in "American Sniper" evolved from his childhood.

Bo Sebastian's Finding Authentic You!: “Unsafe” in Relationship #relationship #relationsh...: The word un safe would be hard to define if you matured in an environment that never protected you. You would believe that life was a batt...

“Unsafe” in Relationship #relationship #relationshipadvice #AmericanSniper

The word unsafe would be hard to define if you matured in an environment that never protected you. You would believe that life was a battlefield, as in the leading role of the movie “American Sniper.” The sniper had an angry father who taught his two sons to protect each other at all costs. He taught these concepts to his children via a swift and sharp belt. So, although the sniper picked a “safe” person for intimacy in his wife, the rest of his world was unsafe and mirrored a life always at risk.

When I find myself doing something my father would have done, I become aghast at my actions. I rarely give myself a chance to do good in my father’s honor; because, in my mind, he caused me so much frustration and turmoil. However, he did have some good traits. Many of his relatives would considered him one of the best people they knew. But, most often, narcissistic behavior flies under the radar, because narcissists usually only treat families and spouses with such disdain.

Still, I have to ask myself some questions about my own behavior when I mirror the behavior of one of my parents or a former partner:

1.) What pattern from this moment mirrors a pattern in my past?

2.) Can I change the behavior of this moment by recapitulating the past or, conversely, by rewriting my story?

3.) What person in my present, mirrors my father’s behavior? Why did I attract this person to my life and to what end?

4.) Is this a person who brings out my anxiousness, because of his/her Narcissism, Obsessive Compulsive, or Addictive behavior?

I absolutely know that my life would be better if I only attracted those to my life who were safe. Unfortunately, everywhere I look is someone angry, but wearing the mask of calm, nice, and spiritual. I only get to see any person’s true colors after getting to know him or her. It is only in the long run, you get to see if the person’s endurance for holding up that mask can be maintained or manipulated. You see, holding up a mask is honorable if you try to change negative behavior. “Fake it until you make it,” we often hear, when trying to alter a negative attribute.

The best we can do is to be authentic to our truest feelings and see if our feelings and thoughts affect others in a positive or negative way. If you are constantly causing others to be angry or sad, then you must look at your behavior and know you have the necessary means to change it. You can decide to change or keep inviting people into your life who anger you. If you decide the latter, then watch the angels cause a storm in your life so big that everything gets blown over.

A choice in this world we do not have is whether to be spiritual or not. Everyone has a spirit; and, therefore, is spiritual. Everyone is moving toward God, not away, even though their lives may look a mess. All things are happening for the Good! So, you have a choice to either be a victim to these things, be a student of life, or live life with the mastery of a sage. You will end up learning any of those ways. The victim learns via sleeping consciously during the struggle. The student learns consciously during the struggle. The master invites the lesson into his life even if it means a temporary struggle.

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Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

“Unsafe” in Relationship #relationship #relationshipadvice #AmericanSniper

Still, I have to ask myself some questions about my own behavior when I mirror the behavior of one of my parents or a former partner:

1.) What pattern from this moment mirrors a pattern in my past?

2.) Can I change the behavior of this moment by recapitulating the past or, conversely, by rewriting my story?

3.) What person in my present, mirrors my father’s behavior? Why did I attract this person to my life and to what end?

4.) Is this a person who brings out my anxiousness, because of his/her Narcissism, Obsessive Compulsive, or Addictive behavior?

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Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Saturday, January 24, 2015

"Safe" in Relationship #relationship #relationshipadvice

The word safe would be hard to define if you grew up with abuse and alcoholism, if you didn’t have parents, or you were rocked in a crib by a nurse, once, every four hours. In fact, safe may become “what you know” and not what makes you feel secure, especially in personal relationships. This substitution happens so many times with people who have had trauma in their past. They pick partners who mirror their past, instead of calm the fears of the past.

I have to ask myself the important questions about anyone I date, especially in the first month of dating:

1.) Are you truly happy, or are you trying to make sure someone else is happy?

2.) When this person leaves, do you feel safe in the departure?

3.) Is this someone who nurtures the best in you?

4.) Is this a person who brings out my anxiousness, because of his/her Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Addiction, fears, mismanaged time, and a myriad of other small problems that cover up, but not settle, your anxiety?

Recently, I dated a man who was simply stunning to look at. He was loving, kind, compassionate, and seemed spiritual, as well. However, as we got to know each other (about a month into the budding relationship), I noticed signs that maybe I was being drawn into something that could make me slip into my own addiction: Anxious Attachment. One issue, for certain, that stuck out was that he was five years sober. Though five years is great, this doesn’t mean that his issues about addiction were resolved. In fact, it may mean that he is only beginning to work on his problems. This seemed to be the case with this man.

In the past, I have described Anxious Attachment disorder as resulting from the inability or unreliability of one or more of the parents to attach securely as a child. The result is an insecure feeling when the child gets involved with the opposite disorder or in any relationship that pushes that insecure button. So, in dating this man, I realized that I had begun to do what no one should ever do in relationship: I began to placate his many issues by trying to solve them and be a healthy helper.

When I asked the questions from above, I had to be very honest with myself. I was way more interested in “not hurting him or making his problems worsen” than I was trying to find a compatible partner. And, to be honest, I was more interested in thinking about what this man would look like on my arm, than I was thinking about how he felt in my heart.

We have to test the waters of relationship slowly. We can’t jump in headfirst and expect to get a proper perspective. This is why we date, initially. We need to see if character and poise accompany the person to whom we have an initial attraction. If problems start too soon, you will need that space to make a secure decision about whether to continue.

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Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Bo Sebastian's Finding Authentic You!

Friday, January 30, 2015

Bo Sebastian's Finding Authentic You!: Sleeping Humans #addiction #awakening #spiritualad...

Sleeping Humans #addiction #awakening #spiritualadvice

Thursday, January 29, 2015

Bo Sebastian's Finding Authentic You!: The Power of You #drchrismichaels #raceconsciousne...

The Power of You #drchrismichaels #raceconsciousness

Wednesday, January 28, 2015

Bo Sebastian's Finding Authentic You!: Giving Way to Healing #grief #healing

Giving Way to Healing #grief #healing

Tuesday, January 27, 2015

Bo Sebastian's Finding Authentic You!: Listening vs. Analyzing #compassion

Listening vs. Analyzing #compassion

Monday, January 26, 2015

Bo Sebastian's Finding Authentic You!: Patterns That I Face Everyday #codependency

Patterns That I Face Everyday #codependency

Sunday, January 25, 2015

Bo Sebastian's Finding Authentic You!: “Unsafe” in Relationship #relationship #relationsh...

“Unsafe” in Relationship #relationship #relationshipadvice #AmericanSniper

“Unsafe” in Relationship #relationship #relationshipadvice #AmericanSniper

Saturday, January 24, 2015

"Safe" in Relationship #relationship #relationshipadvice

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