Bo Sebastian's Finding Authentic You!: July 2016

Tuesday, July 12, 2016

Is Understanding a Prerequisite to Love? #facinglove #yournewstory #psychology #spiritualadvice

I have been in a long-term relationships. Probably, if two of my relationships had been in a time when gay people were allowed to marry, I would have been a spouse. However, despite the amount of understanding I had gained from being in a live-in, long-term relationship, I never really understood love until I continued to have compassion and love, even though I couldn’t and didn’t understand the choice of my partner.

People make decisions in many ways. Sometimes a decision is made quickly, sometimes slowly and painfully, sometimes with graphs and spreadsheets. But, inherently, when life hands you a decision that involves emotions, we react in three different ways:

avoidantly,
anxiously, or
securely.

If you do not understand the qualities of the human psyche, you may look at a partner’s decision as unfathomable, odd or even crazy. But true love takes none of that into consideration, especially when the decision does not involve the relationship. If the decision is a personal one, such as, which presidential candidate to endorse, a career change, or letting go of a long-standing friendship—these are all personal. What part of decision-making actually involves the other partner or spouse?

Many couples get into big trouble when one spouse tries to control the personal life and decisions of the other spouse; especially in the areas I have referred to above. Love has never been about “understanding” another person. Love is always about being “compassionate” in the face of not understanding.

True love is rare in these days. I feel fortunate to count myself among the few who have a relationship with his best friend, confident, and prayer partner. When all of these come together into a place where you also find a physical attraction, you have hit the jackpot! Why is this so?

We all desire to have in relationship:

the strength of a friendship;
the compassion of a mother;
a solid, visceral physical attraction; and
mostly the desire to spend time telling each other truths that you don’t feel free to share with anyone else in the world.

These special qualities in a marital or long-term relationships are paramount to success and ultimately to happiness.

“Your New Story, Your New Life” The Metaphysical Mind.

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Friday, July 8, 2016

What’s Worse: Death or the Fear of Death? #facingdeath #Dallasmurders #psychology #spiritualadvice

I have challenged every significant fight concerning living in the past and facing the challenge of the future boldly. Ultimately, I believe that to face life head-on, you must first recognize that your life is ephemeral. Your physical body will eventually die. You don’t know when. You don’t know how. But there is no one who has conquered death. So, it would seem that facing this simple challenge would give you stamina to face anything on this earth if death is, indeed, the ultimate fear.

From the standpoint of those with a deadly disease or in palliative care, a dying person may tell me of the wonders of life lived with love. My father shared his disappointment of spending too much time wasted in fear or in unforgiveness. But the permeating reality from those who are dying is that a life worth living is not one that would include fear: fear of living, fear of reaching one’s goals, and definitely not fear of death itself.

Without getting into a religious diatribe about if there is life after death, you must recognize that any moment spent in anxiety and stress is a moment lost, especially for those who don’t believe in life after death. Positivity and love, peace and truth are what seem to enrich lives and produce productivity, prosperity and happiness.

I have wasted many days, months and years afraid of death, afraid of rejection, and ultimately afraid of facing pain. Worse still, this fear has kept me from sharing my gifts. I hide from the darkness only to discover that light wants to shine through me and guide me away from danger.

You cannot turn on the television, open up your web browser or walk outside without being hit with news of wars, destruction, and murders. It surrounds me even more today than anytime I can ever remember. Does it bother me? Does it flood my mind with fear that maybe I will be the next one and the end of an assault rifle? Yes, sometimes. But, mostly what happens in the face of death is a dose of harsh reality.

Life is for the living. If you waste the life you have on fears, not reaching your potential, walking in negativity instead of spreading positivity and love, then you have wasted the energy you have been put on this earth to share.

I will not let the Daily News tell me how to think. I will not let the presidential election overtake my life. I will not let terrorist get inside my mind and change my truth. Ultimately, my truth is what gets me through the day with a positive attitude. My truth—gathered from many days and nights of learning what is important in life—brings me joy, gives me the opportunity to spread love to those around me, and leads me to share light instead of darkness.