Bo Sebastian's Finding Authentic You!: Precrastination: Is It Worse than Procrastination?...

ARE YOU QUICK TO DO A CHORE OR ENTER A COMMITMENT BEFORE IT'S TIME? Read why this might be so... 

Bo Sebastian's Finding Authentic You!: Precrastination: Is It Worse than Procrastination?...: The very new term coined by Pennsylvania State psychologists from a study published in Psychological Science defines  precrastination  as ...

Precrastination: Is It Worse than Procrastination? #precrastination #procrastination #guilt #spirituality #SOM #cognitiveprocess

The very new term coined by Pennsylvania State psychologists from a study published in Psychological Science defines precrastination as the tendency to complete or at least begin tasks as soon as possible, even at the expense of extra physical effort. The Precrastinator will quickly empty the dishwasher and throw all of the Tupperware lids in a cupboard, causing an avalanche of lids and bowls to fall to the floor as the first person opens the cupboard door. Won’t this cause more work later? Or, the precrastinator may park in the first spot that she sees, even if it is far away from her destiny, only to cause her to have to walk farther each way? These kinds of behaviors would fit under the new psychological category as Precrastination.

Familiar adages also warn of the hazards of precrastinating:

• Measure twice, cut once.
• Marry in haste, repent at leisure.
• Look before you leap.

I would add, by doing a task right away, you don’t have to remember to do it later, such as bill paying. I know, as soon as I get my mail, I put bills directly into my banking Bill Pay function the day I receive them, so I can shred the bill and get it off of my desk. I like a clean desk, my list of to-do’s checked off, and do not like the idea of any job or chore looming over my head. Yes, I suppose, I am a precrastinator.

Yikes. I don’t know if I like this term, right now. I certainly know I have never been a procrastinator, which is a person who delays or postpones an action for various psychological reasons. If you are procrastinator, you know why you wait to finish things. I have had clients who are afraid to put the final period on anything because they are perfectionists and afraid to be incorrect. Some clients just do not have a good perception of how long any activity takes. And others like the control procrastination has over others, when the task involves getting something done for another person, such as a partner or spouse.

Studies would show that the reason I precrastinate is because of reward! I get a sense of great satisfaction from doing the chore and getting it over with, so I don’t have to leave it on my metaphorical plate for later. When, though, can this behavior be detrimental? This is the big question for psychologists.

I’ll give you an example in my own life when I’ve had to work against my desire to get something done quickly. Sometimes, I will have the need to complete a task before, organically, it is ready to be done. For instance, let’s say that I am working on a new book. Knowing that the editorial process can be quite daunting, I might hire two editors and also edit the book myself. So, when I get all of the edits back from the editors, I make one clean sweep of the book and assume it’s done.

However, the better choice would be to set the book aside for a week or two and reread it with the new edits to make sure that the edits had achieved the right resolve. In the past I have been quick to get the job done and have been left with more errors than expected and have had to delay publishing because of my Precrastination.

Can you find places in your life where you are too quick to get something done, only for you to open the metaphoric cupboard door and have an avalanche of stuff fall to the floor?

Maybe it’s time we precrastinators take a little more organic time to complete the said tasks and stay in the NOW as we do these chores. Each task can be a pleasure when you fully immerse yourself into the process, instead of just doing something to accomplish it. Where is the true gain in completing something half-ars?

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This year, if you desire to commit to a change for a New Year’s Resolution, do it with your MIND first. Remember, as in the title of my new book coming out just in time to help you with this (in January)… lol… that all change happens in your mind, first. You must change your Old Story, to make a consistent and long lasting change in Your Life.

Please be looking for “YOUR NEW STORY, YOUR NEW LIFE, Unlock Your Seven Spiritual Discoveries” in bookstores and in online bookstores in January 2016!

***

Are you in need of Life or Spiritual Coaching? I've been a life coach and clinical hypnotherapist and minister of New Thought for 25 years. I do my sessions online, so you can even have your session in bed, so that you can go directly to sleep during the hypnosis session. You must have a laptop or a notebook to do these sessions, either on Skype or Facetime. You can give me a call at 954-253-6493. My fee is $95 for an hour.

You can find all of my Books by Category at http://www.bosebastian.com/new-page/ All of these books have been birthed from my own spiritual growth. I guarantee you'll enjoy how each will help you maintain a positive mind, body, and spirit. Also, if you click on the Amazon site, you'll see all of my 15 book— Cookbooks, Novels, Self-Help Books, a Yoga DVD! All great gifts from your friend—Bo Sebastian. Simply go to this link at www.Amazon.com or type in my name. Find great gifts for yourself, family members, and friends by supporting another friend in the process! Thank you.

* * *

A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian

What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]

Bo Sebastian's Finding Authentic You!: The Force vs Power of the Parent #parents #narciss...

In a world where most of us have been manipulated, forced, and guilted by a parental figure, what kind of parents will be and how will we make the shift to become better role models? Read on... 



Bo Sebastian's Finding Authentic You!: The Force vs Power of the Parent #parents #narciss...: I have known many parents who have done a stellar job of raising their children. Their adult kids now are wonderful people. But, even when...

The Force vs Power of the Parent #parents #narcissism #parentallove #guilt #overcomingguilt

I have known many parents who have done a stellar job of raising their children. Their adult kids now are wonderful people. But, even when the child is completely successful as an grown-up, anyone who knows the parent can see the results of where the children have been guided by parents or forced by them. In talking with the children who have now become adults, even they can easily see what parts of their lives have been overthrown by parental guilt or force.

So, why discuss this issue today in a spiritual blog? When we speak of force, there is always an equal and opposite response, even scientifically. When we use power, though, we come from an authentic place of authority that gently guides us and those we direct to the right decisions and ultimately the correct paths.

I have never raised a child on my own, but I have helped raise my sister’s children at different times of my life, meaning that they lived with me for long periods of time. So, without actually getting to know the feeling of having my own child, I did get to experience what parenting feels like in the absence of having my own. As a result, I became a father figure when my nephew’s own father died and when my niece needed housing as a young adult. Parenting is the greatest responsibility, which I never took lightly.

However, looking back, I may have used force a few times when I could have gently helped the child learn his own lesson. I remember a specific time when my nephew did something wrong that I was there to witness: he broke something in the house because he was playing with a ball he should have been using outside instead of inside. The object was something precious and expensive, because I was very angry. I sent him to his room for a time out.

After I cooled down, I went to my nephew’s bedroom room and heard him whimpering still, even though a half an hour had passed. I opened the door and sat next to the four year old. I took his hand and said, “Do you understand what you did wrong?”

He still couldn’t speak. He just cried and shook his head affirmatively.

“What did you learn from this?” I asked him after another long moment.

To my surprise, from his heaves of tears he said, “Uncle Bo, it’s so… h--h-h-hard to be good!”

I hugged him tightly and said, “Yes, it is, my precious angel.”

In those moments when Spirit’s brilliant lesson passed from my anger to my nephew, I think of that young mind and the positive mark that moment left on his soul. As opposed to taking away a toy for a week, or paddling, or manipulating some other response, my own need to cool off left me allow my nephew to learn his own lesson in the privacy of his pact with the universe and God.

His lesson was simple but profound. It was from an authentic experience of making the wrong choice in a world where it’s often difficult to make the best choices that benefit all of those around us.

Let’s use power, not force in our lives, today. I guarantee that you will definitely see the difference in the people who are subordinate to you and those you love.

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This year, if you desire to commit to a change for a New Year’s Resolution, do it with your MIND first. Remember, as in the title of my new book coming out just in time to help you with this (in January)… lol…that all change happens in your mind, first. You must change your Old Story, to make a consistent and long lasting change in Your Life.

Please be looking for “YOUR NEW STORY, YOUR NEW LIFE, Unlock Your Seven Spiritual Discoveries” in bookstores and in online bookstores in January 2016!

***

Are you in need of Life or Spiritual Coaching? I've been a life coach and clinical hypnotherapist and minister of New Thought for 25 years. I do my sessions online, so you can even have your session in bed, so that you can go directly to sleep during the hypnosis session. You must have a laptop or a notebook to do these sessions, either on Skype or Facetime. You can give me a call at 954-253-6493. My fee is $95 for an hour.

You can find all of my Books by Category at http://www.bosebastian.com/new-page/ All of these books have been birthed from my own spiritual growth. I guarantee you'll enjoy how each will help you maintain a positive mind, body, and spirit. Also, if you click on the Amazon site, you'll see all of my 15 book— Cookbooks, Novels, Self-Help Books, a Yoga DVD! All great gifts from your friend—Bo Sebastian. Simply go to this link at www.Amazon.com or type in my name. Find great gifts for yourself, family members, and friends by supporting another friend in the process! Thank you.

* * *

A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian

What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]

Bo Sebastian's Finding Authentic You!: Augmented and Virtual Reality: The Difference, the...

Are Augmented and Virtual Reality (AR and VR) seeking to eventually replace the human mind? And what does this mean for our future? Read on... 



Bo Sebastian's Finding Authentic You!: Augmented and Virtual Reality: The Difference, the...: In a world where, sometimes, we cannot see the difference between reality and a created reality, we must stop and wonder how our future mi...

Augmented and Virtual Reality: The Difference, the Use and Our Future #ARvsVR #VR #Augmented Reality #Virtual Reality

In a world where, sometimes, we cannot see the difference between reality and a created reality, we must stop and wonder how our future might look if technology continues to lean toward augmenting our reality. Will we see real change and categorically allow ourselves to use computers to think for us, do for us, and deduct for us? Eventually, will we even need our human mind?

I know with absolute certainty that if I were to do an algebraic problem that I would be tempted to use a computer to see if I was correct with my answer. Why? Because I’m absolutely certain the computer will be correct. If we know that computers have mainframes that are based on pure fact, then we also know that the result of those facts will reap more fact. The truth is: some computers are beginning to think past the logic they have been programmed with. This, of course, excites the technological world, but where does this leave humans as more computers do the work of simple minded humanity?

So, what are Augmented and Virtual Reality (AR and VR) and what exactly are the differences? According to TechTimes.com, “Augmented reality is the blending of virtual reality and real life, as developers can create images within applications that blend in with contents in the real world. With AR, users are able to interact with virtual contents in the real world, and are able to distinguish between the two.

“Virtual reality is all about the creation of a virtual world that users can interact with. This virtual world should be designed in such a way that users would find it difficult to tell the difference from what is real and what is not. Furthermore, VR is usually achieved by the wearing of a VR helmet or goggles similar to the Oculus Rift.

“Both virtual reality and augmented reality are similar in the goal of immersing the user, though both systems to this in different ways. With AR, users continue to be in touch with the real world while interacting with virtual objects around them. With VR, the user is isolated from the real world while immersed in a world that is completely fabricated. As it stands, VR might work better for video games and social networking in a virtual environment, such as Second Life, or even PlayStation Home.”

Does this VR world sound a little like dreaming or like living in a perfect world that is not the one we perceive in our daily lives? These augmented and virtual worlds are creating, perhaps, the world we have all been praying for—one that is subsumed with our own desires and lacks all of the outside negative forces.

Listening to interviews with people who have tried the technology, some were quoted as saying, “If I could have this technology all day, I would simply get up in the morning, sit on my couch, and live in the VR world the entire day.”

Who wouldn’t? You get to create your world as you go along, and computers do the work for you. This becomes a life of irresponsibility, relying on the reality of a more intelligent brain.

Isn’t this what we have been saying about Spiritual work the entire time? Spirituality comes from the dreaming part of the mind. This is where we connect with the one perfect mind. So, what technology produces now is simply an easy fix for our own spiritual growth.

I am not against any technology. I love it like a child at Christmas. But, I wonder if what is expressing as technology is simply coming from the mind of man to reproduce what is difficult to create with volition of one’s own mind. Just like I said about the Algebra equation: With the AR, I can easily see if my answer is correct.

Eventually, students and I will go directly to the computer and completely circumvent our human brains. We have already proven that the brain is not as smart as a computer or as efficient. So, what is left for the human mind and body to do in a world where computers are taking over?

****

This year, if you desire to commit to a change for a New Year’s Resolution, do it with your MIND first. Remember, as in the title of my new book coming out just in time to help you with this (in January)… lol… that all change happens in your mind, first. You must change your Old Story, to make a consistent and long lasting change in Your Life.

Please be looking for “YOUR NEW STORY, YOUR NEW LIFE, Unlock Your Seven Spiritual Discoveries” in bookstores and in online bookstores in January 2016!

***

Are you in need of Life or Spiritual Coaching? I've been a life coach and clinical hypnotherapist and minister of New Thought for 25 years. I do my sessions online, so you can even have your session in bed, so that you can go directly to sleep during the hypnosis session. You must have a laptop or a notebook to do these sessions, either on Skype or Facetime. You can give me a call at 954-253-6493. My fee is $95 for an hour.

You can find all of my Books by Category at http://www.bosebastian.com/new-page/ All of these books have been birthed from my own spiritual growth. I guarantee you'll enjoy how each will help you maintain a positive mind, body, and spirit. Also, if you click on the Amazon site, you'll see all of my 15 book— Cookbooks, Novels, Self-Help Books, a Yoga DVD! All great gifts from your friend—Bo Sebastian. Simply go to this link at www.Amazon.com or type in my name. Find great gifts for yourself, family members, and friends by supporting another friend in the process! Thank you.

* * *

A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian

What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]

Bo Sebastian's Finding Authentic You!: What Stands in Your Way? #happiness #prosperity #f...

What stands in the way of your PEACE has to go! Read on... 



Bo Sebastian's Finding Authentic You!: What Stands in Your Way? #happiness #prosperity #f...: If we believe that we are made of the very substance of the ever-growing universe, the abundant ocean, the silent desert, the beauty of an...

What Stands in Your Way? #happiness #prosperity #findingpeace #spirituality

If we believe that we are made of the very substance of the ever-growing universe, the abundant ocean, the silent desert, the beauty of an exotic orchid, and the energy of the sun, then why are we not embracing our good? Something must be inhibiting our happiness, prosperity, peace, and spiritual connection, if we do not currently perceive it, use it, and manifest it. So, what could possibly stand in the way of an All-Powerful God?

As in all paradoxes, we must unhook from the logic and sit apart from the circumstance to challenge our minds to find the answer. For me, I start with changing the question. If God and I are one, as the Master Jesus taught, then I must be doing something… thinking something… or praying amiss… because, at present, I am not exhibiting the peace, wisdom, and prosperity of a child of the Creator.

So, I go back to those great masters of spirituality and walk with them on their paths to peace and knowledge. I listen to the words of those who have found oneness with God and begin to reflect upon how different my walk is from theirs. You may think this is a logical beginning. However, imagining the truth and walking on the path to truth is quite difficult in a world that could cover our days with duties, trials, work, and challenges that encompass our entire mind. With a 12-hour a day job, 2 children, and a house to tend to, when are we to sit quietly in a world that give us no time for such peace?

My friends, it has taken me 55 years to say this. If you do not accept the challenge of owning your life and your choices, you will never become a responsible spiritual man or woman. Yes, a flood of daily duties are set before us to see what we will choose. Will you wake up an hour before the rest of the family to read a little, meditate, ask for guidance for the day, and write in your journal, or will you delight in that one extra hour of sleep, because you are totally exhausted?

What I have found is that releasing that one hour of sleep feels as if it is multiplied by ten when I take the time for peace to enter into my being during meditation. Think of contemplation as a time for divine guidance to accompany you during the day.

If you knew that all of the angels in the universe could change the course of the day so that you would flow with traffic, be directed to your chores in a way where they could be done with ease, and that all of the wisdom of the universe was on your side by meditating, would you—could you—choose NOT to meditate and pray?

I get more done everyday by being led than I ever have by parcing out my duties and letting them bog me down. When I release my life to positive universal force that want to work with me, I not only get my chores done, but I gain spiritual insight while doing them. When I put myself in the place of being open to spiritual insight, then I automatically become at peace.

Here is a prime example of this. One morning I meditated. After the meditation, I felt completely at peace. On the way to work, though, I got in a car accident. It was not major, but it did rattle me for a second. When I parked my car on the side of the road, assessed the damage, and dealt with the matters at hand, instead of bitching about my situation, I wondered, instead, why my path had been altered that day. I became acutely aware of my next steps, because I believed that all things were happening in my favor.

I did not complain. I ended up making a friend of the person who collided with me. She was so amazed that I was not furious with her and the situation that she asked me how I attained such peace. As a result, she ended up becoming a coaching client (gaining prosperity). She was a woman of means and did not want me to take out a claim with my insurance, so she paid in cash for all of my out-of-pocket expenses, which included $500 out of my pocket for my deductible and a rental car (more prosperity). The experience ended up leading me to many new paths, because I was awake for them (peace of mind and spiritual insight). I did not see life or the NOW as something that was to be fought against. I saw it as a flowing energy that I needed to become a part of to experience peace (releasing tension).

I hope you can see the difference. This entire circumstance came from taking the daily time to meditate and memorize the life patterns of peace. It’s only with daily practice that you can allow for these patterns to manifest in your life.

****

This year, if you desire to commit to a change for a New Year’s Resolution, do it with your MIND first. Remember, as in the title of my new book coming out just in time to help you with this (in January)… lol… that all change happens in your mind, first. You must change your Old Story, to make a consistent and long lasting change in Your Life.

Please be looking for “YOUR NEW STORY, YOUR NEW LIFE, Unlock Your Seven Spiritual Discoveries” in bookstores and in online bookstores in January 2016!

***

Are you in need of Life or Spiritual Coaching? I've been a life coach and clinical hypnotherapist and minister of New Thought for 25 years. I do my sessions online, so you can even have your session in bed, so that you can go directly to sleep during the hypnosis session. You must have a laptop or a notebook to do these sessions, either on Skype or Facetime. You can give me a call at 954-253-6493. My fee is $95 for an hour.

You can find all of my Books by Category at http://www.bosebastian.com/new-page/ All of these books have been birthed from my own spiritual growth. I guarantee you'll enjoy how each will help you maintain a positive mind, body, and spirit. Also, if you click on the Amazon site, you'll see all of my 15 book— Cookbooks, Novels, Self-Help Books, a Yoga DVD! All great gifts from your friend—Bo Sebastian. Simply go to this link at www.Amazon.com or type in my name. Find great gifts for yourself, family members, and friends by supporting another friend in the process! Thank you.

* * *

A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian

What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]

Bo Sebastian's Finding Authentic You!: Living the Dream of Peace #findingpeace #spiritual...

WHAT IS MORE IMPORTANT IN LIFE, THE GOAL OR THE FEELING YOU GET WHEN YOU REACH THE GOAL? Read on....



Bo Sebastian's Finding Authentic You!: Living the Dream of Peace #findingpeace #spiritual...: Almost twenty years ago, I took a class on attaining my life’s dream. Everyone in the class started off with a huge piece of poster board....

Living the Dream of Peace #findingpeace #spirituality #attainingadream

Almost twenty years ago, I took a class on attaining my life’s dream. Everyone in the class started off with a huge piece of poster board. We began a graph that would look similar to a family tree when finished. The words on the left were all the things we dreamed of wanting in our lives and connected to those dreams was one of the most ingenious insights I’ve ever had in my life.

• From that first list we were to connect the dreams that were similar and create a smaller list with more define ideas.
• From this new list, we were to ferret out our three biggest dreams.
• The most interesting and most insightful step, however, to this process was the next:  Beside each of the remaining words on the list, share one word that you believe you would attain as a result of gaining that insight or goal. So for instance: If I ended up three words:

Becoming a Rock Star-------(fame),

Being a millionaire----------(financial security), and

Getting married-------------(feeling loved),

beside each of those words I would write what is in parentheses.

As the workshop proceeded, we actually dropped the initial goals and attended only to the feelings that the goals would give us. The teacher would ask, out of those three feelings, which is more important to you? out of those two feelings, which is more important to you?

So, at the very end of my graph, I ended up with one word: PEACE. What I realized I wanted in life was not to be a Rock Star. I wanted peace.

Ever since I did that class, I have always used the word peace as a litmus test to see if I were headed on the right road to success in every way. If I lacked peace, or if the pursuit of any goal moved me away from peace, I would release it completely.

When you assess the many ways that you think will give you happiness, you often realize that “the thing” itself has nothing to do with the quality of life or feeling you want to possess. You simply have attached the feeling to the idea.

What would happen if you completely took away the dream of the GOAL and simply left the feeling, the emotion, or the secure idea of peace?

Today, this is your goal. Even if you only have a few minutes, think about what you have considered as your biggest dreams in life and reduce them down to a feeling that they would provide. Once you do this, release the dream attached to the feeling and simply begin to ask Spirit to lead you to the feeling, instead.

See how your life immediately begins to change!

****

This year, if you desire to commit to a change for a New Year’s Resolution, do it with your MIND first. Remember, as in the title of my new book coming out just in time to help you with this (in January)… lol… that all change happens in your mind, first. You must change your Old Story, to make a consistent and long lasting change in Your Life.

Please be looking for “YOUR NEW STORY, YOUR NEW LIFE, Unlock Your Seven Spiritual Discoveries” in bookstores and in online bookstores in January 2016!

***

Are you in need of Life or Spiritual Coaching? I've been a life coach and clinical hypnotherapist and minister of New Thought for 25 years. I do my sessions online, so you can even have your session in bed, so that you can go directly to sleep during the hypnosis session. You must have a laptop or a notebook to do these sessions, either on Skype or Facetime. You can give me a call at 954-253-6493. My fee is $95 for an hour.

You can find all of my Books by Category at http://www.bosebastian.com/new-page/ All of these books have been birthed from my own spiritual growth. I guarantee you'll enjoy how each will help you maintain a positive mind, body, and spirit. Also, if you click on the Amazon site, you'll see all of my 15 book— Cookbooks, Novels, Self-Help Books, a Yoga DVD! All great gifts from your friend—Bo Sebastian. Simply go to this link at www.Amazon.com or type in my name. Find great gifts for yourself, family members, and friends by supporting another friend in the process! Thank you.

* * *

A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian

What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]

Bo Sebastian's Finding Authentic You!: 50 Shades of Bo Sex vs. Intimacy #bondage #relatio...

Can a simple fetish be a sign of a deeply-seated Attachment Disorder? Read on... 



Bo Sebastian's Finding Authentic You!: 50 Shades of Bo Sex vs. Intimacy #bondage #relatio...: I watched  Fifty Shades of Grey  last night and actually came away feeling empowered. Why? Because—spoiler alert—the lovely ingénue of the...

50 Shades of Bo Sex vs. Intimacy #bondage #relationshipadvice #spirituality #fetishes #masterslave #gaymarriage

I watched Fifty Shades of Grey last night and actually came away feeling empowered. Why? Because—spoiler alert—the lovely ingénue of the movie (Anastasia, played by Dakota Johnson) walked away from what looked to be the perfect lifestyle and a loving man to take back the one thing her “master” needed of her to be happy—her personal power. And what was Grey, the master, left with? A deep-seated mental disease, a strong detachment disorder, and a sadness that no amount of domination could satisfy.

Yes, the movie spoke the truth about fetishes and dominance. Though, they may be intriguing and sexually satisfying for many people, they also reveal a deep misalignment in the brain’s wiring that would prohibit many from accepting pure love. Sexual fantasy is and probably will always be the easiest way to accept mental detachment from the past, because it allows the person to convert attachment disorder into sexual pleasure. Though it may seem harmless, in the end, it is a smokescreen, at best.

My last relationship actually broke up after I fell in love, lived with, and had a seemingly great relationship with a man who was willing to forgo love for a fetish. His desire seemed simple and harmless—a foot fetish—but in the end, it was either the fetish or love. He rejected what he considered the best relationship of his life for a pathway into gratifying the needs of the misfiring in his brain from childhood trauma.

Three years ago on Valentine’s Day, I had the rare opportunity to see the effects of this dominance on the brain in someone I had loved and wanted to marry. The answer was simple for him. It was either he got to live inside his fetish or release love completely—there was no in between. He chose the fetish. His choice was very sad for me, and I often wonder if he ever had any regrets about his choice. Unfortunately, after two happy years, he left the day after, collected his things, and I never heard from him again.

The only thing I did see, a few weeks after he left, was a profile of him on a dating site that explained a great deal. It said: “Looking for a dominant male, foot fetish, master-slave relationship.” Honestly, no one would have believed it of him, unless, of course, they were privy to this profile and our soaking wet conversation in the shower, when he broke up with me.

I do not share this story for anyone to feel sad. I share it because of the empowerment I finally gained from watching a movie I never thought I would enjoy. Sometimes… most times, understanding and compassion comes from the most unlikely sources. This, indeed, was the case for me.

If you begin dating someone, and they happen to mention in passing about fetishes or fantasies that they want to happen (3-ways, foot fetish, master slave, being tied up), this inherently speaks of deep-seated, unresolved mental issues that have resulted in and expressed as sexuality.

This is an FYI for those who are dating. The more you know about the cues people give you in the getting-to-know-you phase of the relationship, the more you are apt to say, “Hey, this just ain’t for me.”

I wish I had known this five years ago. It would have saved me two years of my life.

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This year, if you desire to commit to a change for a New Year’s Resolution, do it with your MIND first. Remember, as in the title of my new book coming out just in time to help you with this (inJanuary)… lol… that all change happens in your mind, first. You must change your Old Story, to make a consistent and long lasting change in Your Life.

Please be looking for “YOUR NEW STORY, YOUR NEW LIFE, Unlock Your Seven Spiritual Discoveries” in bookstores and in online bookstores in January 2016!

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Are you in need of Life or Spiritual Coaching? I've been a life coach and clinical hypnotherapist and minister of New Thought for 25 years. I do my sessions online, so you can even have your session in bed, so that you can go directly to sleep during the hypnosis session. You must have a laptop or a notebook to do these sessions, either on Skype or Facetime. You can give me a call at 954-253-6493. My fee is $95 for an hour.

You can find all of my Books by Category at http://www.bosebastian.com/new-page/ All of these books have been birthed from my own spiritual growth. I guarantee you'll enjoy how each will help you maintain a positive mind, body, and spirit. Also, if you click on the Amazon site, you'll see all of my 15 book— Cookbooks, Novels, Self-Help Books, a Yoga DVD! All great gifts from your friend—Bo Sebastian. Simply go to this link at www.Amazon.com or type in my name. Find great gifts for yourself, family members, and friends by supporting another friend in the process! Thank you.

* * *

A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian

What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completedyou trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]

Bo Sebastian's Finding Authentic You!: The Straight Facts: Inclusivity What Words to Chan...

STRAIGHT ADVICE from a Gay Man about which words to choose when talking about relationship and marriage in these days when you cannot assume anyone is either straight or gay.



Bo Sebastian's Finding Authentic You!: The Straight Facts: Inclusivity What Words to Chan...: It’s been said that behind every good  man  there is a good  woman . In these days of gay marriage, we need to reframe this statement to s...

The Straight Facts: Inclusivity What Words to Change When Asking About Marriage #gaymarriage #relationships #relationshipadvice #spirituality #SOM

It’s been said that behind every good man there is a good woman. In these days of gay marriage, we need to reframe this statement to say, “Behind every good spouse is equally supportive spouse!” We have a lot of reframing to do in our use of traditional phrases around marriage where our gay friends are concerned. In one day, I cannot believe how many people say things to me that are exclusive, or do not make room for the idea that marriage is not just for men and women anymore.

Let’s look at a few examples you can help make your world a little more inclusive to this change:

• One simple word you can exchange for husband or wife is the word SPOUSE. You will never be prejudiced if you see a wedding band on someone’s hand and use the word spouse, instead of husband or wife; and
• When asking about a spouse, you may consider simply saying the optional choice, “Where did you meet him or her? or simply stop at “Where did you meet?”

If you’re concerned about finding out if this person is gay or not in asking these questions, ask yourself, Is this your business?

I’m sure if this person wants to share, you will eventually find a pronoun in your conversation that will lead you out of the mystery. However, it’s important to remember that not everyone is open about sharing these kinds of details with strangers. So, do not be surprised if you never find out if the person is gay or straight. If that person wants you to know his or her personal business, you will be provided with that information. Remember, the world is still full of prejudiced people. Gay men and women still protect their rights to be out or not.

If you discover in your conversation that the person with whom you speak shares if he or she is gay, then do not be afraid to use words that refer to that particular relationship as being gay. Gay people are not afraid of the word Gay. We do not like to be referred to with derogatory terms such as homosexuals or homos or dikes or fags, or anything else that may infer something is wrong with us. In your conversation with gay men and women, choose words that are simply inclusive.

You will never go wrong with searching your heart for compassion and love when you approach anyone who is different than the norm in this world. We need more people who reach down deep, past the old norms, and look for ways to include everyone in this wonderful world that’s big enough and strong enough to support all kinds of individuals. We all want to live in a world that is “YOU AND I,” not “you or I.”

Seek to be one of those people who help those individuals, whomever they may be, to feel comfortable around you by reaching out of exclusivity and into words that are always inclusive and loving.

****

This year, if you desire to commit to a change for a New Year’s Resolution, do it with your MIND first. Remember, as in the title of my new book coming out just in time to help you with this (in February)… lol… that all change happens in your mind, first. You must change your Old Story, to make a consistent and long lasting change in Your Life.

Please be looking for “YOUR NEW STORY, YOUR NEW LIFE, Unlock Your Seven Spiritual Discoveries” in bookstores and in online bookstores in January 2016!

***

Are you in need of Life or Spiritual Coaching? I've been a life coach and clinical hypnotherapist and minister of New Thought for 25 years. I do my sessions online, so you can even have your session in bed, so that you can go directly to sleep during the hypnosis session. You must have a laptop or a notebook to do these sessions, either on Skype or Facetime. You can give me a call at 954-253-6493. My fee is $95 for an hour.

You can find all of my Books by Category at http://www.bosebastian.com/new-page/ All of these books have been birthed from my own spiritual growth. I guarantee you'll enjoy how each will help you maintain a positive mind, body, and spirit. Also, if you click on the Amazon site, you'll see all of my 15 book— Cookbooks, Novels, Self-Help Books, a Yoga DVD! All great gifts from your friend—Bo Sebastian. Simply go to this link at www.Amazon.com or type in my name. Find great gifts for yourself, family members, and friends by supporting another friend in the process! Thank you.

* * *

A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian

What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]