The Struggle in Our Minds #anxiety #mentalgibberish #stress

Many times, I start out my day by telling myself—with affirmations—all the right things to create a healthy, peaceful mind. I treat for prosperity, joy, and love. Yet, somewhere in the day, my mind begins to tell me the complete opposite of what I want to believe. How do I stop the mental gibberish and chatter to remain at peace?

Wow! Is this even a possibility? Well, I’m here to tell you a story about how my own affirmations have changed my ability to stop the negative chatter. After months and, perhaps, years, I had an experience recently that showed me my negative reactions to life are completely insignificant and that maintaining peace is about changing my normal negative beliefs to TRUTH—each one of them.

Last Monday through Wednesday, my week began to have a series of negative causes, starting with $2000 spent on my car, a blow out on the Interstate, and no calls from my acting agent. Normally, this kind of week would create negative thoughts about not having enough money, not being a good enough actor to succeed in a tough business, or just general “why do bad things happen to me” thoughts. But, every time a negative thought would come to mind—before it had a chance to fester and cause circular negative thinking—I convinced myself that God and I were on the same page. All things were going EXACTLY as intended. All I had to do was believe that and act AS IF I was okay with all of it. Nothing more.

The tide changed when I picked up my niece and nephew from school on Thursday morning. Before I had a chance to tell my nephew my back window was broken and wouldn’t go back up if he opened the window, of course, HE OPENED THE WINDOW. That morning, I had plans immediately afterward, and I didn’t have the money or the desire to spend 350 dollars more this week on my car. After he I got a little grumpy with the kids, but didn’t over react. I simply told them that Uncle Bo should have told them that window was broken, but now it will not go up. I was honest and shared that I was a little frustrated.

We all sat in silence for a short while. They seemed to respect my need for a moment to gather my thoughts. I asked them if they wouldn’t mind if we stopped at the drug store. I shared that the car dealer taught me a trick to get the window to go up if it had ever gotten stuck in the down position. After I stopped the car, I tried the trick 3 times, without it working. In my mind, I began to accept the situation and thought about how I would tape a garbage bag over the window and just get on with my day. “God had my back! Accept the now with grace,” is what I told myself.

Suddenly, from the back seat, my nephew yells: “Uncle Bo, the window went up!”

“Wow,” I said, “Thank you, God! I’m so relieved. Did you pray about that to make it happen!”

He said, “No, but I believed really hard!”

I said, “Well, that is prayer! You did a good job.” Then I turned to my niece, “How about you? Did you pray?”

She answered, “No, but I’m amazed that you didn’t get mad and react badly and blame us for what happened!”

I was able to then explain to them about how I was learning to trust God in every moment, even when things looked bad. They were able to share with me their thoughts about that very adult subject. All in all, I believe we had a teaching moment that changed their young lives all because I didn’t let negativity rule my mind.

As a result, the rest of the day was one of the best days of my life! I spent the entire day at peace and loving every small moment as if it were a present! Well, it was a present—from Spirit!

 

A Cookbook, a Novel, a Self-Help Book, a Yoga DVD! All great gifts from your friend—Bo Sebastian. Simply go to this link at www.Amazon.com or type in my name. Find great gifts for yourself, family members, and friends by supporting another friend in the process! 

Thank you.

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A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian

What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

If you are a gay man or woman, you may want to direct your gaze to my newest blog: Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. This blog is an extension of my Facebook page (https://www.facebook.com/UncommonGaySpiritualWarrior/) and group meetings about the rare combination of spirituality and "being gay" defines the most important part of us, even in relationship. Join me at: http://uncommongayspiritualwarrior.blogspot.com/. 

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]

 

 

 

Loving Someone Who Doesn’t Love You #relationship #relationshipsadvice #dating

“I’ll never love you as much as you love me,” was once said to a man who doted, romanticized, and practically worshipped a woman who could never love him back. He answered with compassion, “You don’t understand, precious one. The love I have for you is mine and mine alone. To feel your presence in my life brings great joy. My love has no expectations.” To that, the woman had no response, but to accept the situation.

When you listen to this story, you realize that our search for love is really a desire for a feeling, not a person, usually. And the feeling is ours to possess. If we have experienced love in the past, we may just want the feeling of a past relationship again, because loving someone felt joyful and wonderful at one time. When we begin to expect a return from love’s investment is when we experience pain and remorse. So, how is it possible to give unconditional love when reciprocity is usually a prerequisite, especially in romantic love?

I may have shared with you before that my mantra for the past year has been, “Relationships are what they are, not what I make of them!” When I speak this phrase as an affirmation, I begin to convince myself that love will unfold if it is there, in me, and hopefully in someone else.

However, I understand that what has been in my way for much of my life is the expectation that the trust and hope and security of an old eight-year relationship will somehow magically appear in the dating process of someone new. Every step of the way, as I date new people, I must realize that my movement toward love should stay steady, forward, and nonresistant. When someone shares that he is not ready for a relationship or would rather be friends, the relationship tells me what direction I need to go.

If I don’t listen and have already made up my mind about the relationship, I will grieve the loss of my dream, not the loss of the person. This is the most important fact to remember as you date, which ultimately leads to uncovering wounded parts of your tender heart.

A Cookbook, a Novel, a Self-Help Book, a Yoga DVD! All great gifts from your friend—Bo Sebastian. Simply go to this link at www.Amazon.com or type in my name. Find great gifts for yourself, family members, and friends by supporting another friend in the process! Thank you.

* * *

 

A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian

What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

If you are a gay man or woman, you may want to direct your gaze to my newest blog: Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. This blog is an extension of my Facebook page (https://www.facebook.com/UncommonGaySpiritualWarrior/) and group meetings about the rare combination of spirituality and "being gay" defines the most important part of us, even in relationship. Join me at: http://uncommongayspiritualwarrior.blogspot.com/. 

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]

The Person Keeping You in Hell #mindgames #anxiety #dealingwithstress

When I’m having a bad day, my mind reels with garbage thoughts from my past or the possibility of my life failing in some way. In other words, my thoughts take me to and keep me in a dark place, until I wake up to the present moment. I realize in that moment that the only person keeping me in hell—is me. Then, I begin the process I’m going to describe below that reaches down into my anxiety and carries me to a safe and secure place.

Some time ago, in a meditation, I heard these words: “You are the only one controlling the thoughts that keep you from believing that you hold the keys to all possibility, prosperity, and peace. Why do you keep arguing with the truth that will set you free? You are the one that holds you captive to your old way of thinking!”

Just as in the Christian theology, Hinduism also has a trinity, which seems to explain the problem of the human mind. In the Hindi trinity Brahma is Creator God, Vishnu is the preserver of all living things, and Shiva is the destroyer. Without going into all of the technical details of the Hindu religion, their triune Godhead brought some vast understanding of the possibilities of my own mind. I realized in that moment that the only part of my mind I had been feeding, in times of anxiety, is the Shiva destroyer. In this paradigm of thinking, our minds have the capacity to create, preserve, and destroy. We must learn to preserve our good and destroy only the negative thoughts. So, this brings me to our spiritual exercise of the day.

In times of circular mental activity pushing toward the negative, the first action we must do is separate ourselves (or become an observer) of the negative thinking. You may think this is a hard chore, but here are a few ways to step out of your mind for a moment, long enough to gain some control:

All it takes is 3 Minutes to change your mind!

1. Take a slow inhale to the count of five or six. Then, exhale with that same count, but do it with exertion, pushing down toward your belly to release every bit of the air in your body and lungs. Do this for three minutes.
2. If you are in a place where you can close your eyes, you can move your eye balls from left to right, as if they are small erasers, clearing away all the negative thoughts.
3. You can tap different parts of your body—your forehead, under and above your eye, above your lip, below your chin, your heart, the space between your forefinger and thumb, and then circle your eyes all the way clockwise and then counter-clockwise. Do this for three minutes. (If you would like to know more about this technique, do a Google search for EFT.)

Once you have successfully moved from inside the mind chatter to outside, as an observer, you can begin to alter the thoughts of your mind by repeating anything that you absolutely know as truth for you. Here are some examples:

• I know that I am one with God, and God cannot reject God.
• All living beings exist in the vast, prosperous land of Spirit. I am rich in God’s glory.
• If God can take care of the smallest bird, Spirit also is taking care of me now.
• All things work together for the Good in this World. I know this because… (bring to mind something wonderful that happened to you as a result of a bad situation).

Ridding yourself of negative thought takes practice. When you are not moving toward a negative spiral, practice all of the above and memorize some powerful affirmations, so that you will be ready with the artillery that you need in times of the great fight of the mind.

Remember, the destroyer always exists within your brain. But, also, the creator and the preserver together will overpower the part of the mind that seeks to destroy something other than the past. Affirmations help you out of hellish thoughts and into the calming thoughts of truth, which always exists.

A Cookbook, a Novel, a Self-Help Book, a Yoga DVD! All great gifts from your friend—Bo Sebastian. Simply go to this link at www.Amazon.com or type in my name. Find great gifts for yourself, family members, and friends by supporting another friend in the process! Thank you.

* * *

 

A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian

What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

If you are a gay man or woman, you may want to direct your gaze to my newest blog: Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. This blog is an extension of my Facebook page (https://www.facebook.com/UncommonGaySpiritualWarrior/) and group meetings about the rare combination of spirituality and "being gay" defines the most important part of us, even in relationship. Join me at: http://uncommongayspiritualwarrior.blogspot.com/. 

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]

Walking on Eggshells #relationshipadvice #gayrelationships

Have you ever been in a relationship, where you had to be careful about everything you said or did? One wrong word would send your lover or mother into a tailspin or an angry tirade? I believe this type of person may be manipulating you with passive-aggressive behavior. If so, then here are some steps to remedy the situation.

First of all, figure out if the person is, indeed, using your fear of his/her anger to manipulate your behavior. Here are some questions below to ask yourself:

• Is this person’s behavior bully-like when he/she gets angry?
• Does this person fly off on bitter tangents at certain word cues or actions you do?
• Does this person threaten you with his/her own demise or leave (for instance, threaten that he/she will hurt himself if you continue the behavior)?
• Does this person threaten you with harm?
• How psychologically stable on a scale of 1-10 is this person, with 10 being very unstable?

If you answered yes to two of the above questions and the person is 6 or above on the psychology table, you have a manipulative person with some psychological issues keeping you walking on eggshells. This person is usually a family member or a partner, using your close relationship to manipulate you into behavior that is palatable to him/her. This needs to be remedied! You deserve to have an opinion without having to be yelled at, argued with, or spurned.

An example of this kind of behavior might be:

You have a husband who has taught you—by behavior modification—that every time you try to resolve the issue of why you are not having regularly sexual relations, by flying off of the handle with anger.
Your husband may be too embarrassed to talk, doesn’t want to deal with his sexual dysfunction, or is having an affair and wants to keep you from the pertinent information that might give you some clues to his misbehavior.

The social, verbal, or physical act that could trigger this kind of Post Traumatic-like stress usually causes the partner or family member to get so angry that he or she (and you) are unable to really resolve anything. Usually, the irrational behavior doesn’t compare to the normal situation or conversation. Also, this person may using your history of bad behavior to keep you from doing anything “bad” again.

In either of these cases, the only way to work on the situation is to get into therapy and resolve your issues, first. Probably stemming from your past parental or relationship issues, your anxiety about being abandoned leads you to tolerate being manipulated by this person. So, ultimately, you have to find help before you can understand the relationship breakdown with this person.

You may indeed be perpetuating the problem. But, you will never know unless you get into therapy or Life Coaching. In my Life Coaching business (check out the advertisement below), many clients come seeking advice about how to handle situations that involve other people’s bad behavior.

Of course there are steps to helping you immediately. But, ultimately, the initial movement forward in helping this kind of situation is to understand the problem with your attraction to it.

No one should be walking on eggshells in any relationship. Don’t let your life be stymied by someone’s psychological problems. You can learn to be stronger than that person. You are made of the essence of Spirit God. You already have the wisdom and guidance to find your way through it and beyond it.

A Cookbook, a Novel, a Self-Help Book, a Yoga DVD! All great gifts from your friend—Bo Sebastian. Simply go to this link at www.Amazon.com or type in my name. Find great gifts for yourself, family members, and friends by supporting another friend in the process! Thank you.

* * *

 

A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian

What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

If you are a gay man or woman, you may want to direct your gaze to my newest blog: Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. This blog is an extension of my Facebook page (https://www.facebook.com/UncommonGaySpiritualWarrior/) and group meetings about the rare combination of spirituality and "being gay" defines the most important part of us, even in relationship. Join me at: http://uncommongayspiritualwarrior.blogspot.com/. 

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]

 

 

 

A Flat! #theunexpected #nothingpersonal

When you prepare for life and prepare for the worst, you subconsciously feel that the unexpected doesn’t have a right to happen—like a blowout on the Interstate going 80 miles an hour, right after you had the tire checked at Universal Tires.

Yes, indeed, that is exactly what happened. I got up early to get to the tire dealer to make sure that my passenger’s side tire that appeared low wasn’t running with a leak. The repairman filled the tire with air, checked it for about 30 seconds and assured me that it appeared to be just fine. He told me that if it loses air to come in the next day and get it repaired. However, when my car hobbled to the first gas station off of I95, there was a large tear in the tire. I’m sure had the tires not been “run flat” wheels, my car would have flipped over on the road. The tear was that large.

Of course, I was on my way to play the piano for three hours. After dealing with the mess of trying to find an exact match to a BMW run-flat tire and having it replaced, I only got to play for my gig just one hour. Even so, I felt lucky to have achieved that small feat, after this tire fiasco.

The entire time, I stayed calm. The friend who helped me was getting pissed off. Not me. I was frustrated inside, but I wasn’t about to let it show and more manifest anything my graciousness to the new repairman, who convinced me to buy four tires and to get the struts fixed, because they also were about to break to the tune of $2000 total. I was prayed up, had asked Spirit to show me the way to get rid of my distrust of the NOW that morning, and was willing to living in that moment and figure out my divine lesson—if there was one.

“What was this about, God?” I asked.

You gave me a commercial shoot this month, which got me back on track financially again, only to have taken most of the profit away. I assumed that the financial deficit was there for Spirit to show something, but what might that be?

This is what I got from Spirit as I sat quietly and received the message of the moment: I am never poor, never without, and always living in abundance. I believed this message with gusto and trust, because I know I have never lived a moment in poverty, as long as I have understood my place in God’s kingdom as a creator and a small piece of heaven living on earth. I am a Son of God and a conduit of prosperity, truth, wisdom—all founded and framed in pure and unadulterated LOVE. This is my gift to the earth. No one can take away my birthright. And so it is!

A Cookbook, a Novel, a Self-Help Book, a Yoga DVD! All great gifts from your friend—Bo Sebastian. Simply go to this link at www.Amazon.com or type in my name. Find great gifts for yourself, family members, and friends by supporting another friend in the process! Thank you.

* * *

 

A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian

What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

If you are a gay man or woman, you may want to direct your gaze to my newest blog: Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. This blog is an extension of my Facebook page (https://www.facebook.com/UncommonGaySpiritualWarrior/) and group meetings about the rare combination of spirituality and "being gay" defines the most important part of us, even in relationship. Join me at: http://uncommongayspiritualwarrior.blogspot.com/. 

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]

 

 

 

THINK #MINDFULspeaking #Thinkbeforeyouspeak

Yesterday, I heard a great acronym from Dr. Chris Michaels for the word think. With the idea of mindfulness about what you speak and with what intent you convey it, use these 5 tools to decide whether or not what you have to say is worth putting out into the universe:

T - Is what you are about to say T-rue? Are you sure it’s true, or have you just heard it from someone else? Remember that untruths about another person can hurt them badly. If you’re never been on the opposite side of a false accusation, you will never know how painful untrue words can be.

H - Is what you are about to share H-elpful? Are your words going to undergird someone’s confidence with heartfelt compassion and praise? If we spent more time using our words to give people praise and confidence, more of the world would be smiling. Choose someone you may not have even spoken to today and give them a word of confidence?

I - Will what you say I-nspire someone to do better, think with more acuity, and move them forward in their life’s pursuits? Remember you can pass on positivity in the world by using your words to inspire people to better, kinder, and more loving.

N - Is what you’re going to say N-ecessary? This is a big one for me. I have someone in my life who feels she has to say whatever is on her mind—negative or more negative—simply because she needs to have an opinion on every subject. Sometimes, what you have to say needs to be kept inside your own mind to fester, instead of stinking up the world with your negative opinions. (I’m talking to myself here, too.) If we use our words carefully, we may find that we talk a lot less and listen a lot more!

K - This is the most important one. Is what you’re going to say K-ind? Let’s face it, when we watch television, chat with friends, and write on Facebook, we are always looking to find the brunt of a joke or something to criticize. Most of the time people are doing the best they can. And when they are not, is it our job to point out their faults? What if someone watched you with this kind of critical eye? Would you want all of that negativity spewing out into the world everyday?

THINK maybe the acronym you write on a piece of paper and tape to your refrigerator this week to keep you mindful of every word that comes out of your mouth. Remember what sacred scriptures say about that which proceeds from your mouth: “Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks!” We definitely want our hearts to be full of love, compassion, peace, and joy! We all can do without the judgment!

A Cookbook, a Novel, a Self-Help Book, a Yoga DVD! All great gifts from your friend—Bo Sebastian. Simply go to this link at www.Amazon.com or type in my name. Find great gifts for yourself, family members, and friends by supporting another friend in the process! Thank you.

* * *

 

A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian

What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

If you are a gay man or woman, you may want to direct your gaze to my newest blog: 

Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. This blog is an extension of my Facebook page 

(https://www.facebook.com/UncommonGaySpiritualWarrior/) and group meetings about the rare combination of spirituality and "being gay" defines the most important part of us, even in relationship. Join me at: http://uncommongayspiritualwarrior.blogspot.com/. 

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]

 

 

 

Living Life with No Expectations! #livingNOW #expectation #noexpecation

Living life with a purpose—no problem. Getting rid of the past—starting to get easier every day. Spending time alone and in meditation—I actually look forward to it. Living life with no expectation—DAMN… I’m not sure I’ll ever be able to manage this one.

Managing your life without expectation is like living life without being codependent on God. I can’t believe how hard it is to learn the lesson to let go and release from the idea that I should have what I THINK I should have—not what is best for me—according to the perfect will of Spirit God. Early last week, my acting agent told me that I would probably have some SAG extra work (double time pay) this Saturday. On Thursday, I texted her and asked her if she had heard from the production company. She had not. I remembered the last two times I got this kind of work, I didn’t hear until well into the evening before. So, I kept my hopes high and the day free so that I would be available to work.

This morning, I woke up, checked my phone, and felt a grave let down when I had no response from the agent. In my mind, I realized I had already got the job and spent the money without any real confirmation the job was mine. My question is—and continues to be—how do I manage to stop living life before it actually happens?

A great therapist friend taught me about the neurological impulse of anxiousness as a result of Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome (PTSD). Without delving too deeply into terms that you won’t understand, the impulse to feel anxious actually comes before your mind computes and deducts what happens to you in every situation.

So, in laymen’s terms, no matter how hard you try to NOT feel anxious about anything in life, if you have been stymied by a terrible incident in the past such as rape, abuse, abandonment, robbed at gun point, you will probably feel anxious the rest of your life, before you ever get the chance to see the issue clearly with your deductive side of the brain. So, knowing this, how can we begin to manage our anxiety?

What I do (and I’m not always successful) is start my day with affirmations and acclamations that confirm who I am, what I want to feel, and that God cannot reject Itself. Then, when an incident like yesterday happens, I confirm in my own mind, after the fact—because the anxiousness will come first—that I am okay, that Spirit God is in perfect control of my life, that the will of God never goes against my best interest, and that the NOW is waiting for me, as soon as I let go of my anxious feelings. When you do this, you mentally prepare yourself before your anxiety presents, which allows you to bolster your own will to live life free of anxiety. Eventually, you will understand that the anxiety is merely a human instinct that was there to protect you. Now, you simply must manage it like a hurt arm or high blood pressure.

 

A Cookbook, a Novel, a Self-Help Book, a Yoga DVD! All great gifts from your friend—Bo Sebastian. Simply go to this link at www.Amazon.com or type in my name. Find great gifts for yourself, family members, and friends by supporting another friend in the process! Thank you.

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A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian

What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

If you are a gay man or woman, you may want to direct your gaze to my newest blog: Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. This blog is an extension of my Facebook page (https://www.facebook.com/UncommonGaySpiritualWarrior/) and group meetings about the rare combination of spirituality and "being gay" defines the most important part of us, even in relationship. Join me at: http://uncommongayspiritualwarrior.blogspot.com/. 

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]