We all have set out to switch lanes while driving and felt an ominous car just inches from the left side of our vehicle about to collide with us. Yes, that’s your blind spot. The name describes the scenario perfectly. But, have you ever thought about where in your life—psychologically—you may have a blind spot?
Wherever your peace is stripped away unawares is your psychological blind spot. When your mother or spouse says just the right thing to upset or anger you; when you get frustrated and depressed without reason; when you function as if you have no choices in life; and when you simply think you’re not enough for the task at hand, you have reached your blind spot.
You can avoid crashing into that car beside you that you cannot see in your rearview mirror? You must turn your head for one quick second, take your eyes off of the road ahead, and check the side of your car without the aid of a mirror. Most of the time you can see if you have a vehicle beside you.
In the psychology of your life, you, also, have the ability to take your eyes off of the road ahead and look to each side and check for signs of people, things, and situations that may collide with your peace. These are called psychological bias blind spots, coined by a social psychologist named Emily Pronin. Ms. Pronin defines this term as:
the cognitive bias (or deviation in judgment) of recognizing the impact of biases on the judgment of others, while failing to see the impact of biases on one's own judgment.
Some people are motivated to view themselves in a positive light, which usually is a good thing. However, this (bias) causes us to see our own perceptions, decisions, and judgments as being rational, accurate, and free of bias. In other words, we think we are better decision-makers than we actually are.
People also tend to believe that they are aware of how and why they make their decisions. Many of our decisions are formed from cognitive shortcuts, which are unconscious processes that we conclude from having had made the same kind of decision over and over again in our lives. This, of course, sounds like habit. Right? So, if you become unconscious in your decision-making at any point, you have created a BLIND SPOT in your mind.
Though research has shown that, even when a person is aware of a bias blind spot, most people find it very difficult to see the problem and make a shift in consciousness before their triggers are activated. I, however, being a trained man in changing neural pathways by using hypnosis, believe that we can avoid most of these blind spots with a simple glance into our past, then into our future, before we make decisions.
If you take away the premise that you are a great decision-maker, then you may be more apt to take caution in making your next decision. So, start with the premise that every decision is new and take careful assessment of it.
Second, look behind you to your past to see if the way you had made similar choices worked. If they didn’t, then don’t keep making the same kind of decision. This is the definition of crazy!
Lastly, make a careful assessment of what trips you up in your decision-making. If you know that your spouse talking about an affair you had during your marriage causes you to go into a guilt-driven place that causes you to make poor, self-judging decisions, then write that down and be aware of your trigger.
Most of the time in our life, with big decisions, we have a day or two to make a choice. Take all the time you need to completely assess the perimeter of your decision. Look into your past, and into the future before every decision is made in your life. But, most importantly, watch out for your particular blind spots, because they often cause you to make the same poor decision over and over again.
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