How Many People
Does It Take to Satisfy You?
#relationshipadvice #dating #divorce
#relationshipadvice #dating #divorce
Today, with the
help of a brave friend, I came to the hard conclusion that relationships are
changing, living things. Just like all living things, relationships can get sick,
bring pain, and even die. On the other side of life, living things can bring
joy, like the newborn baby, a puppy dog snuggling close, or a lover wrapped
around you in passion. Relationship can bring all of these, if you are open and
vulnerable. But, you can avoid one intimate relationship and end up in multiple
relationships trying to satisfy your one lonely heart.
Every human being
has many “parts.” A psychiatric therapy exists called “Parts Therapy.” The
focus is on identifying the Internal Parts of the human mind. You may have a
brave part or an avoidant part. This brave part may comingle with a childish
part, and even an addict part. All of these Internal Parts exists together to
make up the whole.
Worry not! You
are not schizophrenic. That diagnosis is left for those who lose time when one
of these parts is acting out. In other words, a schizophrenic person actually
believes he or she is that one part for a certain time. When s/he comes back to
reality, s/he doesn’t remember slipping into another personality.
So, it can be
fairly normal to have various different sides of your personality coming out to
play everyday, without having a psychiatric diagnosis. You can have a work
side. You can have a family side. You can have a philanderer side. You can have
a religious side. You can have a sports loving, party side. But, unless all of
these parts are working together to make one happy Internal Family, you will be
in psychological trouble trying to manage the family without a leader.
Sometimes in relationship,
we try to satisfy more than one part of personality with different people. Who
knows, maybe some of us can’t be satisfied with just one person. I hope I can
find that one person. But, I know for certain, that without the many different
kinds of friends in my life, I would be lacking somewhere in my social life. I
have some friends who are there for compassion. I have some who make me think
and drive me to my best self. I have some friends who are companions. I have
other friends who like to party hard. Very few of these personalities are all
wrapped up in one person. So, life is likely to lead us to many people to
satisfy the entirety of our personality.
But, when this
happens in intimate relationship without the consent of the people involved,
you end up with a big mess on your hands. My attitude is to find someone for an
intimate partner who satisfies a great deal of my needs mentally and
physically. Then, invite friends into my life whom I need to fulfill the rest
of my psychological needs. If your partner doesn’t like to party, and you’re a
party animal. Then make sure you have the consent of your partner to party one
evening a month or a week. If your partner is loving and compassionate and
passion-filled, but isn’t as smart as you, don’t divorce him or her. Find a
surrogate to fulfill the needs of your intellect.
All of life is
about understanding this consistently changing mechanism called relationship. In
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and psychology. Once you know yourself, then relationship is a fairly easy task.
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