Guilt: Ugly and Painful—How
It Affects Our Lives
Mary Jane commits to many people and functions in her life.
She basically forces herself to keep her commitments by guilt. She has a weight
problem. I’m certain that when she overeats, some of the hunger is trying to
feed her guilty feelings about over committing to the people in her life. The
true facts are almost 90% of overweight people are caregivers, giving to
everyone but themselves. If that issue sounds familiar, read on.
Many people have had parents who guilted them into life, never providing firm choices with real outcomes.
For instance, Mom wanted you to favor her instead of Dad. So, she let you know
how much she had done for you and how much she loves you, so that your heart would
feel guilty about betraying her to side with your father. Even though you know
your father is right, out of guilt, you side with Mom.
How many times in your life has a parent, friend, or partner
done that to you? Are you on a guilt conveyor belt that allows you no room to
breathe in relationship? Or, do you have a wife who went through the pains of
labor for you. How much is that worth and for how long, when it comes to
getting your way or hers?
The heavy weight of guilt can cause you to feel sick to your
stomach, eat, start drinking, or add some other kind of addiction to your
repertoire. For me, when I feel guilty about something, I get a stomachache. In
other words, metaphorically, I can’t digest anything because I have created unhealthy
boundaries for my own security and protection. No matter what way guilt creeps
into your life, it’s painful.
I find that the biggest way guilt impedes us is spiritually.
If we have been brainwashed to believe that God is expecting some kind of
“good” behavior from us, when what we want is diametrically in opposition to
the bible, then the result will always be guilt. Some people have stayed in bad
relationship for years because of the guilt that God would send them to hell if
they got a divorce, left the commitment for another person, sought out their
true sexual proclivity, or even left the sacred bounds of marriage because they
were being verbally or physically abused.
Spiritual guilt is probably the worst guilt in our lives.
This is why you need to define what you believe about God before all else. The
amount of guilt you take on in life often relies on your definition of God and
spirit. This must include what you feel God is responsible for in your life. Is
God the father ready to punish you for bad behavior? Is God the mother who uses
guilt to manipulate your decisions? Is God merely a force that has provided
spiritual law to deal with all of the above, and isn’t involved personally at
all?
You have to make your own decisions about these questions.
I’m in the middle about all of it. I pray, but my prayers have changed so much
in the past because of unanswered prayer. I believe now that prayer is more
aligning my own mind to spiritual truth. Don’t believe in asking God to change
the world for my wants. I do believe that angels and spirits work on our behalf
to create a fabric of synchronicity, where all of us are really connected. When
one person needs something, it is not out of the realm of my belief that God
could send an angel to help them. In fact, I count on it.
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The masses search outward for things that qualify them as a
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minister. One day I heard a still small voice say, ‘God cannot be contained in a
book or a law or even in a religion. Dig deeper, reach further to find me, and
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