Bullying and
Porn—Connection?
A psychopath has no regard for the pain of others, who is
only concerned about getting his/her own desires fulfilled. By what we accept
and allow in our lives and on this earth, is all of humanity psychopathic?
Where did this behavior originate.
Bullying is simply the ability to make one person feel
stronger and more important than another by abusive words and actions. No one
person can bully unless s/he has also experienced this in his/her own life. We
only learn behaviors, we don’t invent them.
I believe pornography is a graphic example of how masculine
dominance over women and each other produce the idea that to be effective
sexually, we must exert either dominance or be willing to be dominated. Thus,
the terms top and bottom come into significance. Bondage and other demeaning
forms of sexuality only exhibit how extremely tainted the human mind can become
when it combines sexual behavior with egocentric desires.
Over the years, I have had many clients who have been
addicted to pornography. I have dealt with psychopathic behavior, child
molesters, and men addicted to child porn, as well as the husband wanting to
use porn to fill a gap in the emotional relationship. All of the above are
issues that keep a person Avoidantly Attached.
You can’t trust a person who is capable of wanting to
strangle you to satisfy him/herself sexual needs, so the only thing you do is
attach on a physical level. You avoid the heart level and mellifluent love, and
stick with what feels comfortable and will keep the sexually eschewed partner
coming back for more, because your mind doesn’t understand and comprehend real
secure attachment.
I think this recent outflow of bullying in pro sports and at
schools and colleges is just another way this same kind of egocentric behavior
is manifesting in society. We are doing well to bring it to the surface, shine
a bright light on it, and begin to understand the deep workings of our old
belief about strength and power.
Power vs. Force, a
book written by David Hawkins, describes force as an energy that requires an equal
and opposite reaction. Whereas, power is in itself a true model of resourceful
energy, requiring no opposing force.
I like the idea as it pertains to our sports model and the
masculine stereotype. If we begin to teach our minors about developing true
power, instead of force with ideas from yoga and spirituality, we would resolve
the need for anyone to take over and overthrow with excessive force and ego
power.
We might also fix the problem we face with male dominant
pornography that provides a “forceful” model for the male and doesn’t allow for
tenderness and extreme intimacy. Maybe someday we will see companies producing
pornography changing the paradigm of the past to encompass loving and
tenderness during sex. So, those who go to porn for fantasy learn healthier
behaviors. I know that’s asking a lot of the world, but one can only dream!
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