Relating
Illness and Relationship
For the last few days I have been helping my mother recover
from a stomach virus that started vehemently and ended rather quietly in the
middle of the night. I camped out by her side and got up whenever I heard her
grab the garbage can by her bed. She hadn’t been this weak since she was in the
hospital for a triple bypass.
What is the difference between listening to your body and
having to deal with the reactions of the body post not listening? When you
don’t listen in any relationship, you usually end up, first, with
misunderstanding. Eventually, if you keep avoiding communication you lose an
integral part of the relationship called trust. When that happens, the
relationship begins to unravel or move away from your life in, sometimes, harsh
ways.
I believe the body acts in the same way as a person in
relationship when you don’t listen to it. The body starts off whispering its
needs. When the needs are not met, it begins to talk a little louder—small
pains, nausea, no energy.
When you have not listened to the body after this amount of
communication, the body begins to scream. This is when you feel heart attacks,
the body shuts down, parts of your body have to be removed.
The body will treat you like divorce if you don’t listen, as
in relationship. “If you can’t take care of me, I will find someone else to
take care of me (doctors or hospitals) or leave you (parts of the body, such as
organs and cancers, having to be removed),” is the basic message.
Soon after my mother recovered, I got the same illness.
Sickness didn’t affect me as it did her. I had to get very quiet and sleep a
lot, but I never had the same reactions as my mother did. I felt pain in my
stomach, I felt on the verge of illness, but never had the full reaction as she
did. Still, as I listened to my body, I heard that I simply needed to be still
and rest. As I did what my body asked, I never really had the turbulent
reaction. However, I did have a few severe moments of dizziness. When that
happened, I simply got quiet again.
The flu is going around these days. A great deal of my
friends and clients have contracted it. I’m sure I was just in the way of some
transient microbes wanting to find rest in a warm human body. I didn’t consider
this an affront to my luck or my general health. I simply dealt with the
present. Some moments were quite nice, as I spent a great deal of time in
meditation and contemplation.
I also ended up having a few wonderful moments of intimacy
with my partner, as he sat quietly with me sharing a bit of our lives we had
never talked about before. Had I not listened, I wouldn’t have had the
opportunity to grow, nor would I have had the moments of depth in relationship
we all yearn for.
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