Commitment? Love Is My
Decision
My path keeps crossing people I have dated. Last night I ran
into a man whom I dated, which ended up with him going back to a younger guy,
because the dude had trouble with him saying “I Love You.” When the younger guy
realized my old date loved him back, they got back together, and alas, we
stopped our dance.
I speak about this because I asked him if his relationship
was going well. He rolled his eyes. “I don’t know. I don’t ask for
commitments,” he said, basically.
I actually shook him. “What? Love is a commitment—a good
one. One that expects the best from each other.” I thought of Allen sitting
close by and the kind of love I appreciate without even asking for. And also
the kind of love I ask for and, because of commitment and respect, get in
return.
My old friend looked at me like I was crazy. Can you imagine
what intimate love would look like without the unsaid words of commitment we
expect from those who nurture our hearts? From anyone who loves me, I commit
to:
Balancing his/her needs with mine;
Listening intently with a compassionate heart;
Praying for the goals that would bring them hope, joy, and
prosperity;
Helping when he or she is down; and mostly
Representing what the world doesn’t in relationship—being the
crystal in the chaos.
If love can’t provide my life with some or most of the
above, why even love? I know that the scriptures teach us to love without
condition, but I’m not talking about brotherly love. I speak of committed love.
The love we don’t HAVE to give. This is the intimate love that we CHOOSE to
give, such as in friendships and intimate partners. Without commitment we would
be living in the exact chaos the world has to offer.
And what of that?
Love is patient, love is kind and is not
jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly;
it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong
suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth;
bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
(1 Cor. 13: 4-7 NASB)
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