Tears of Joy and Sadness: Part II #tearsofgrey #sadness #expressinggrief #holygrail

I found a beautiful sterling silver locket in a mud puddle. The sun pierced the murky waters and awakened my mind to the beauty laying there, unattended. When I took it home, I clean it and polished it to find that it had a message tucked inside. The words were simple, but profound: Look Deeper!

As I sat with the message from the locket, I realized that most of my joy, my sadness, and my boredom in life had come from living on the surface. My fear is that if I look too deeply into anything, I’ll find ghouls and monsters from the past that will betray my perceived happiness and peace in the present. However, as I reached down into my heart, I found something new today. I discovered that just beyond my profound fear of lack, bad health, and loneliness was the key to happiness.

Searching for your personal truth is much like the search for the Holy Grail in the movies. It is wrought with monsters and seemingly impossible tasks to reach the goal. However, even in the movies, most of the peril to finding the Holy Grail is in the mind of the seeker. Once you decide to conquer the demons and pursue the Grail, you realize that the monsters are specters and have no substance at all.

I believe the same is true with our own sadness and even our joy. It will never be complete and understood until we stand at the precipice of our heart and call out to the future: I am not afraid! I believe all of this life has a purpose, including whatever challenge I’m dealing with today! I choose this moment! I choose the NOW to learn and enjoy and grieve and to experience all of my humanity.

So, I learned that the partition between joy and happiness and my heart is simply fear. When I move toward my challenge unabashed, life explodes with new purpose. But most importantly, I understand that I am a co-creator with God. When I release from the idea that I am a tool for the universe, I can suddenly become a conduit instead—a willing participant in the purposeful unfolding of the universe.

 

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Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]

 

 

Fortified with Desire #relationshipadvice

When someone goes through a traumatic break-up, a death, an accident, he or she usually needs the desire for change to go forth with enough strength to face change. Often, what precedes this desire for change is anger. I’ve rarely met anyone willing to move forward with change when he/she is still in the throws of sadness. Sometimes sadness takes months and even years to complete. Is there is a way to move beyond this sadness quicker to get to the desire and strength to change?

I recently met a man who had been blindsided by a breakup, similar to me on Valentine’s day of last year. I could still see the sadness in his eyes. He looked as if he could break out in tears at any moment. I don’t believe anyone else could see it. But, because I had experienced what he had, I could see the same brave face covering the pain that he felt. I wanted to just hold him for an hour and tell him we would both be all right.

The rule has always been, it will take half as long as you have been together to get over the person whom you have divorced. So, if you’ve been together 15 years, you’re looking at 7.5 years of sadness. That just doesn’t seem right to me. I remember a psychologist sharing that information with me when I had broken up from an 8-year relationship. I just smiled, absolutely knowing that he was wrong. But some eight years later, I was still going through the pain of that same relationship, even as other relationships came and went. It’s as if, with each new relationship, all of the ideas and dreams of the old relationships get compounded into one large disappointment. They merge like the Dead Sea of dreams. You begin to wonder if you’ll ever see the shore.

Then you meet someone new who takes your attention off of your hurt and pain for a season. Suddenly the balm of new love overwhelms you. But, just wait until your first big fight. There the old friend of pain will be again, bigger than ever.

The smartest source of pain relief from trauma is to simply sit still and ask yourself a few questions: 1.) What is happening here? 2.) What is the lesson this situations offers me? 3.) What is the gift I bring to the situation?

If you can sit silently and let your emotions go for a moment and observe, you will be better off than to let your mind sink back into the mire of disappointment. In my book about meditation (Meditation, Meditation, Meditation), I explain about the ways you can release from the functional realm of the ego or the physical body to observe your pain, instead of dwelling in it. This is the fast track to finding peace. If you can become an objective observer in times of pain, you will always find the lesson. When you discover the lesson, you understand that the situation is there to help you, not hinder you in your life.

 

A Cookbook, a Novel, a Self-Help Book, a Yoga DVD! All great gifts from your friend—Bo Sebastian. Simply go to this link at www.Amazon.com or type in my name. Find great gifts for your family members and friends and support another friend in the process! Thank you and happy Holidays! --Bo

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Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]