Woman Tithes One Stick of Gum #tithe #prosperity

Woman Tithes One Stick of Gum
#tithe #prosperity

A young woman from Brazil came to America to intern with a minister friend of mine. She had no money. She worked for a small stipend. Her housing was provided through an agency who helped talented young people from other countries learn in the United States. This woman wanted to thank her sponsor. As she had no money, she chose to give a handwritten note and one piece of gum to show her thanks.

I love this story, because she gave a measure of what she had to begin the flow of resources in her life. I’m not sure I believe in the concept of giving 10% of all your money. I’m more of the ilk that believes you should offer up a percentage of your existence to the greater good—time, clothes, food, education, or money—whatever you can manage to give.

At one point in my life, I was a strong believer of tithing. I took 1/10 of every single cent I earned and gave it to the church. At one point, my finances really began to decline. I still, with chin up, paid my tithe to the Lord. What I realized was that my heart was angry with this concept, because, I felt, God hadn’t come through with the promise to give back what I needed to survive.

I figured, I was the one doing something incorrectly, because I do believe God doesn’t make spiritual law, then decide to test you to see if you believe it. I searched my heart and realized I didn’t “gladly” give my money from an authentic place in my soul. I begrudgingly gave the money.

I asked Spirit what to do. My answer came in a meditation: “Stop giving your money, until you feel your heart desires to give. Remember, your pure heart, connected to spirit, will always lead you in the right direction. Instead, let’s make our own, personal commitment. Spirit said to write this commitment from my heart and it would be acceptable!”

What I came up with was this: “I agree to offer my time, my energy, my money, and my prayers to the work of the Lord, every day, in exchange for a secure amount of money and resources to always be available for me to live an abundant and secure life.”
The prayer is simple and makes the point that I will give unyielding time and money with the caveat that God, also, takes care of all my needs according to the riches of heaven. This is my personal belief. You have to make your giving unique. I do suggest that you begin to give, though, in some areas of your life to the greater good, because giving has a spiritual law connected to it. “If you give, it will be returned unto you, pressed down, shaken together, and running over…” This is law. So, when you give, even if it’s a stick of gum, give from your heart! Give what you can without resentment. Also, expect a return on your investment. God always fulfills every promise.

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Finding Authentic You is my brand and is also a self-help guide, which I wrote, with 365 Discoveries, meant to aid you in facilitating some of life’s most difficult challenges, like sleep, anxiety, spiritual guidance, and relationship problems. But, the discoveries also lead you to what you believe spiritually, understanding your goals, learning to believe in your self, discovering the most distinct you, unlocking all of your negative thinking, and helping you replace it with positive, creative thought using many different modalities, including hypnosis, prayer, and psychology.

For much more information about finding out about the psychology of the human mind and being your authentic self, self-love, and self-esteem, check out my new book below.

http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss_1?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=finding%20authentic%20you&sprefix=finding+%2Caps&rh=i%3Aaps%2Ck%3Afinding%20authentic%20you

* Bo Sebastian is a Hypnotherapist and Life & Health Coach, available for private sessions to QUIT SMOKING, Lose Weight, New Lap-Band Hypnosis for Weight Loss, CHANGE YOUR MIND, CHANGE YOUR LIFE! at 615-445-8861 or www.BoSebastian.com. Please feel free to comment and/or sign up to receive your blog sent to you directly or stream with an RSS Feed. Please spread the word by liking the page or sharing this with your friends. Also, Bo is the senior editor of Findingauthenticyoupublishing.com if you are interested in checking out the bookshelf for books he has written or acquired, or want to submit a book, to this site for help. Thanks for being a part of my tribe.

Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior 2—Discovery 6

Branded: Should Read “Erotic & Disgusting”! #prejudice #GLBT #judgment #personaltruth

Branded: Should Read “Erotic & Disgusting”!
#prejudice #GLBT #judgment #personaltruth

Two days in a row, I have woken up with someone posting to my Facebook page judgmental words in the name of God. Today, to my yesterday’s posting about ridding your life of anxiety and stress, which never even mentioned sex, someone posted: “This should read erotic and disgusting! That’s not what I said. That’s what God said!”

Of course, I immediately blocked him from posting to my site. He was a friend of someone who “liked” the post, so he wasn’t one of my friends. Yesterday, I had someone write me a personal message (thank you for not sharing your ugliness with the world), who was on my friends’ list, which said, “I pray that God shows you the real way to heaven!”

This is actually ironic, because yesterday’s post had two scripture quotes from the Christian bible. I thought I was being a little too religious for most of my readers. But, I guess, the more a gay person says he believes in Jesus’ teachings, the more he is persecuted.

I’ve had 6-7 friends who were also Christian ministers who have come out in the past few years. Some have stayed to honor their ministries, others have moved on to find themselves. Either way, the path to people understanding was difficult. One man in Atlanta was a huge evangelical minister with many books and had a campus—not just a church—because of the amount of people who followed him. His story went public, so it is fine to talk about it here. His wife and children knew of his propensity toward being gay, but for years fought it. Jim says he never even had any kind of affair during those years. He just knew in his heart he was gay. However, it was his wife, who told him that he should practice what he preached and come out! Rev. Jim began to take the hard step of accepting gay people into his ministry with open arms without judgment first, which is what led his wife to divorce him and nudge him out of the closet. She told him she would continue to be a co-minister with him at the church, love him, and support his decision to come out, which, I believe, was amazing. When I watched the interview on television on “The View,” I mostly cried because of Deb’s position in the process of his accepting himself and coming out.

I went to his church after the news. Most of the seats were empty. I would say he had about 30% of his following stay with him. Good for them, probably, hard for the ministry to stay afloat, though. I can’t imagine that with so few members they could pay the bills. Still, he managed to continue preaching every week. Rev. Jim Swilley saw me in the pews that morning and remembered my face from sending him a few encouraging messages on Facebook. In the middle of preaching his message, he asked me if I wanted to come up to the pulpit and sing, without even knowing if I could sing and never even meeting me beforehand. This fellow was listening to his heart, clearly. I did go up and sing, “Amazing Grace.” I felt like crying the entire time. I knew Jim’s heart had been bleeding. You didn’t have to be Svengali to notice how hard it had become to find himself and do it in front of all the people of his congregation, most of whom had turned their backs on him and his forgiving and compassionate, minister wife, Deb.

This past year, many articles and books have been written about scriptural interpretation of the Christian bible and its meaning about homosexuality; especially the scriptures about Sodom and Gomorrah. Before I even began reading the books that appeared on the shelves about why God didn’t care if I was gay, I had to find the truth in my own soul.

I couldn’t look in a book to discover the truth about myself. I had to see it clearly in my heart, first. The road to understanding and loving yourself, in the face of those who will judge you, is a scary road—one only a warrior can travel. I honor anyone who does this, especially ministers who will get the most flack and prejudice. One of my best friends had to let go of 1000s of friends when he came out, because most of his dearest friends were in the church. These friends loved him while he was in the closet, without knowing he was gay. Yet, as soon as he voiced his truth, they despised and mocked him.

Your truth is important, friends! No one should be able to snatch it away. You should hold it close to your heart and make it real for you. If you feel the need to put it out in the open for the world to see, you should expect that men and women “of God” will dispute it. For you, I would say, don’t try to argue with them. They have a right to their opinion. Simply just press “block” and keep them from getting in the way of your honoring your personal path to spirituality. Your authentic connection to God and Spirit is all that matters.

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"Finding Authentic You" is my brand and is also a self-help guide, which I wrote, with 365 Discoveries, meant to aid you in facilitating some of life’s most difficult challenges, like sleep, anxiety, spiritual guidance, and relationship problems. But, the discoveries also lead you to what you believe spiritually, understanding your goals, learning to believe in your self, discovering the most distinct you, unlocking all of your negative thinking, and helping you replace it with positive, creative thought using many different modalities, including hypnosis, prayer, and psychology.
For much more information about finding out about the psychology of the human mind and being your authentic self, self-love, and self-esteem, check out my new book below.

http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss_1?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=finding%20authentic%20you&sprefix=finding+%2Caps&rh=i%3Aaps%2Ck%3Afinding%20authentic%20you

* Bo Sebastian is a Hypnotherapist and Life & Health Coach, available for private sessions to QUIT SMOKING, Lose Weight, New Lap-Band Hypnosis for Weight Loss, CHANGE YOUR MIND, CHANGE YOUR LIFE! at 615-445-8861 or www.BoSebastian.com. Please feel free to comment and/or sign up to receive your blog sent to you directly or stream with an RSS Feed. Please spread the word by liking the page or sharing this with your friends. Also, Bo is the senior editor of Findingauthenticyoupublishing.com if you are interested in checking out the bookshelf for books he has written or acquired, or want to submit a book, to this site for help. Thanks for being a part of my tribe.

Yesterday’s Anxiety Is Today’s Lesson #stress #life’slessons #struggle

Yesterday’s Anxiety Is Today’s Lesson
#stress #life’slessons #struggle

Never has the purpose of life been more apparent than in these past few weeks, waiting to make the biggest move of my life to Florida after 25 years of living in Nashville. I sit in my grief, sometimes for hours, asking for answers that usually don’t come. But, yesterday, something lifted from me. I knew in the moment it happened, that everything around me, even my negative story would change. (Nothing in my immediate reality looked different, but I know that I know something changed spiritually.) When I return to the moments of my recent past, I see lessons, not pain. I experience deep-taught purpose, not anxiety. I move forward with ease, because of spiritually chiseled-0ut paths that lead me, without remorse. to my new life.

As a life coach, I have dealt with many people’s anxiety and pain. Most people start telling their story. Tears fill the room. I sit calmly, not anxious to embrace “their story” as my story. I’m curious, compassionate, and often caring, if I need to be. But, I realized long ago that the only way to help someone is to know a different story for that person. Most people in anxiety have rehearsed their pain over and over again. They feel as if they have no other choices but to live in this exact story over and over again.

The answers to your anxiety do not exist in your old story; they exist in your new story—the one that you haven’t written yet. So, to absolve and extinguish pain, you must experience it, grieve it, and see a different resolve. You may be asking, “How do I step out of a place where I have no money, can’t pay my rent, and don’t see myself being able to afford food for the next two months?” That’s a good question.

I’m not the one who gives the answers, though. Your answer comes when you get quiet and you ask the hard question: WHY? A reason ALWAYS exists for the trial you bear. Trust me on this! I have never had a problem that didn’t require faith and a new outlook on life. Once this happens, I can look back at the issue and see the perfect lesson Spirit had crafted.

Fear and anxiety become a wall of disbelief that stops the truth from changing your life. I have a good friend now dealing with issues about finance and work. Of course, every day, when he gets to his job, his anxiety increases. He must meet a certain demand to get money, but the ability to acquire new business just simply doesn’t exist. So, he gets frazzled everyday and can’t find the faith to stop fearing the worst. Yesterday, however, he had a breakthrough. He told me that he had decided not to bite into the story that is playing out in his financial and work life. He will sit and watch it and see where it leads him. He told me that he would be compliant with the answer. If things changed at the job, he will stay there. If they don’t change, he may be required to move to something different—maybe even a new city.

I believe my friend has done his spiritual and psychological duty to release anxiety. I simply see for him the fear of the present situation lifting to unveil his new outlook. I know for certain his circumstance is only there to teach a lesson. When the lesson is learned, and he acquiesces to God or spirit, all things become new—even his thoughts.

Anxiety and fear is simply a disbelief in God. If you truly believe that God is “the author and finisher of your faith,” (Heb. 12:2) then you will trust that “all things work together for the good of those called according to God’s purpose.” (Rom. 8:28)

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Finding Authentic You is my brand and is also a self-help guide, which I wrote, with 365 Discoveries, meant to aid you in facilitating some of life’s most difficult challenges, like sleep, anxiety, spiritual guidance, and relationship problems. But, the discoveries also lead you to what you believe spiritually, understanding your goals, learning to believe in your self, discovering the most distinct you, unlocking all of your negative thinking, and helping you replace it with positive, creative thought using many different modalities, including hypnosis, prayer, and psychology.

For much more information about finding out about the psychology of the human mind and being your authentic self, self-love, and self-esteem, check out my new book below.

http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss_1?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=finding%20authentic%20you&sprefix=finding+%2Caps&rh=i%3Aaps%2Ck%3Afinding%20authentic%20you

* Bo Sebastian is a Hypnotherapist and Life & Health Coach, available for private sessions to QUIT SMOKING, Lose Weight, New Lap-Band Hypnosis for Weight Loss, CHANGE YOUR MIND, CHANGE YOUR LIFE! at 615-445-8861 or www.BoSebastian.com. Please feel free to comment and/or sign up to receive your blog sent to you directly or stream with an RSS Feed. Please spread the word by liking the page or sharing this with your friends. Also, Bo is the senior editor of Findingauthenticyoupublishing.com if you are interested in checking out the bookshelf for books he has written or acquired, or want to submit a book, to this site for help. Thanks for being a part of my tribe.

Eulogy to Nashville #Nashville #Nashvilleliving #death

Eulogy to Nashville
#Nashville #Nashvilleliving #death

“You would know the secret of death
But how shall you find it unless you seek it in the heart of life?

I imagine myself behind a pulpit, facing a crowd of my dear, friends. Next to me, in a casket, is every memory about Nashville—good and bad. I begin to speak, my throat scratchy and my body ill at ease:

“When we came together, I thought she would never part, like soul mates. As it turns out, I’m the one who must say goodbye today. My heart breaks. My palms sweaty. My disposition, in a state of flux.

“I look out at all of you and see your heart-love surging toward me, hoping your compassionate gazes will help me find the words to speak. But, still, I find myself lost and without.

“We met because of a career move then fell in love. Not with the curves of your hills, at first, but with the humanity I faced daily. But, then, even your mountains and beautiful architecture found me; captured me, and kept me in your warm embrace for twenty-five, glorious years. You invited me in like an old friend. Now, I must say goodbye, and the words to describe the feeling in my heart are unspeakable—yet, I try.

“From the bowels of your warm southern nature to the influx of multi-cultured races, I began to see a city blooming with diversity. The state would stay still in its beliefs, but this thriving, centered city would change with the world. I so loved you for that.
“But, more important than all, I will always remember how you fed me and led me to the most amazing friends I would ever have. You kept me solid, authentic, and true to all that I pursued. When I would find myself going in the wrong direction, you would gently guide me back to wholeness.

“Lastly, my friends and surrogate family, I need you to know that, though I will miss the landscape from which we birthed our love, I will never forget, nor lose touch. Technology has made missing you so easy to bear. I will love you from afar, see and feel your timelines of successes, and know your heart’s longings. I will miss you, Nashville.

“With love, Bo.”

Losing Your Prejudice #religiousright #glbtrights #spirituality

Losing Your Prejudice
#religiousright #glbtrights #spirituality

“God is a circle whose center is everywhere and whose circumference is nowhere.” Hermes

I read a friend’s Facebook entry today about how male actors refuse to play gay roles because of stereotype. Really? I thought our men actors were far away from that premise. But, apparently, (as my college friend is an actor in LA), he has seen this kind of anti-gay behavior over and over again. I do believe he is correct about the prejudice that comes with declining a gay role. Look at Oscar winner, Dustin Hoffman, who surged into the limelight for forging through prejudice by playing a transvestite to keep his children. Our last year’s Oscar winner, for playing a straight man with HIV, who learns to embrace the gay world after being disenfranchised from the straight world. Neither have gotten stereotyped. And that hot tall blonde who played the character Arrow on “Smallville” and a gay character on “Revenge” is now playing a hot straight man on “Mistresses.”

Let’s get down to brass tax. What do you really feel about GLBT people? Are you pretending not to be prejudiced because you want to be in the mainstream, but really feel being different is against your moral belief? If so, then I ask you to put aside your prejudice for a moment and Google the psychological studies that have been done about being gay or transgender. Why do you think that a therapist is never allowed, by law and code of ethics, to exclaim that being gay is wrong? Because it is simply not. God created all of us. And He don’t make no mistakes… It’s not a choice. It has never been a choice. And gay prejudice has ruined more lives and caused more hate than any war. It’s time to put your hate down and let God judge his own children. Okay?

To that end, I have written a couple of really good books about Gay Spirituality and a novel about “coming out.” If you know anyone who may benefit by either of these, here is the information about them.
“Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior” by Bo Sebastian,  you can find on Amazon/Amazon kindle at: http://www.amazon.com/Uncommon-Gay-Spiritual-Warrior-Authentic-ebook/dp/B00KPIVOIY/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1403787140&sr=8-1&keywords=uncommon+gay+spiritual+warrior
And “Billy Ray’s Secret” a gay, coming of age novel, you can find at: http://www.amazon.com/Billy-Rays-Secret-Bo-Sebastian/dp/1499396848/ref=sr_1_1_bnp_1_pap?ie=UTF8&qid=1403787193&sr=8-1&keywords=billy+ray%27s+secret
Also, if you have any interest in looking at a YouTube series I’ve started to move forward with the Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior, go to https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z4yGU-MVCtQ  for the first of five videos. Thanks. Bo

The Circle: Our Spiritual Epicenter #circle #spiritualadvice #spirituality

“God is a circle whose center is everywhere and whose circumference is nowhere.” Hermes Trismegistus.

Circles are everywhere. The idea of everything moving in circles (the moon around the earth; the earth around the sun—creating day and night; years are cyclical; cars and bicycles use wheels; machines use gears that are circles; often, even our thoughts are cyclical) has been around since the beginning of time. What confuses most people is that we have no idea what is in the center of God or where the epicenter exists. Here begins the basic principles of faith.

Recently, my faith had waned around the idea that I felt was inspired to move to Florida by Spirit, but had been stymied by the selling of my home in Nashville. I realized in the center of my own disbelief was an atheistic idea that, somehow, God had forgotten his plan for me. Yesterday, I met with an old friend for breakfast. As we talked about my discontent, she reminded me the simplest principle of faith: God has a plan!

As I repeat that phrase to myself, I realize that, indeed, the plan for my life is always, and has always been perfectly designed for everyone in my life, most importantly—me. I can’t think of one incidence in my life that hasn’t brought forth an important spiritual lesson to lead me to a deeper belief and perhaps to the epicenter of my own spirit. Maybe this is where God exists. Have you ever thought about the scripture in the Christian bible that says, “The kingdom of God is within”?

I remember a time when I lived in NYC. I was in my bed, sitting up meditating on this particular scripture. As I moved deeper into meditation, I felt, as I often do, that I had moved into a trance of sorts. This time, my eyes were open, though. As I looked in front of me, I saw an open vision of a man, perhaps an angel or my image of what Jesus appears as, walking toward me. The wall crumbled as he moved closer. Suddenly, he walked into my body. As this happened, I closed my eyes and felt as if I had been transported into a heavenly place where I was met with many elders dressed in long white robes. I heard a voice say: “You have been chosen for this path to be a teacher and a spiritual leader for the world!”

I remember answering the voice: “But I don’t want to return to my human body. This place is perfect and wonderful.”

“This has been your destiny and your choice since the beginning of time,” the Voice answered. It was then I was transported, perhaps, to my own epicenter, where I agreed to take on this human journey. I will never forget the dream, so real and auspicious that my life changed in that moment.

When my spirit returned to my body, I felt as though the weight of the world had fallen upon me. The heaviness and density of my human body encapsulated the weightless spirit of the moments prior. I wrote down the vision in my journal, as I know many dreams dissipate as life moves us into our conscious, deductive process—daily life. I wanted to remember this journey throughout my existence here.

As I recapitulate the story to you, my entire human self recognizes that I have—in the epicenter of my soul—a basic journey designed, perhaps by my spiritual self—perhaps, by God—from the beginning of time. When I embrace this premise, all disbelief moves away, and I rest in the arms of faith—in the center of a circle of unconditional Love.

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Also, visit YouTube to hear my story about The Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z4yGU-MVCtQ

Are You Traveling to ScareCity #abundance #prosperityconsciousness #wealth #divineappointment

Are You Traveling to ScareCity
#abundance #prosperityconsciousness #wealth #divineappointment

Yesterday, I had one letter to mail. In these days of Internet, e-mail, and Facebook, I don’t find myself using the post office much, especially to mail just one letter. My mother of 82, however, always has a book of stamps. She happens to be in Florida right now. She has gone ahead of me while I take care of the business of selling my home. I had 20 minutes before my next client, so I went on the ten-minute ride to our local post office. When I got there, an elderly pastor from Unity, whom I hadn’t seen in four years, walked out of the building. I knew in that moment that I was supposed to be in that parking lot for this divine appointment. This woman is spiritual power exemplified. Once, I was grieving about something. She simply touched me and spoke a prayer over me, and I literally felt someone tore the grief away. Powerful woman of God!

I was still in my car on my cell phone, trying to quickly end the call before she drove away. I rushed to her automobile and knocked on the window. She said in a very southern accent, “Why, is that you, Bo Sebastian? Goodness sakes alive, age sure does suit you well.”

Who can resist a compliment like that? She got out of her car and gave me the biggest hug. Immediately, she remarked, “Well, I never use this post office. But, today, I needed a money order, which I also never need, so I felt led to come here.”
I admitted, “I believe the reason was for me.” I told her I had been grieving leaving Nashville, and how difficult it had been to sell my home. I shared that the transition was making my spirit very fearful and doubt had set in.

She said, “You know, Bo, fear is just like atheism! Disbelief means you just don’t trust God. Our Lord in heaven wants abundance for all his beautiful children. It’s as simple as that.” Then, without hesitation, she put her hands on me and started praying, like a Pentecostal woman, but she used Unity language. She and I have that in common: we were both raised Pentecostal, but opted for New Thought in the end.

Afterwards, I couldn’t get the words: “Fear is like atheism” out of my mind. It was as if she had branded them to my heart. The entire next two hours, I kept repeating to myself, like a chant, “Fear is like atheism.” Now, I have to say that I don’t care if you are an atheist. It doesn’t bother me when someone has a different belief than I. You are going to be just fine, figuring out your way in this world without the word God. I simply know that for you.

Sometimes, even the word God is misused and abused. So, I understand why people turn away; especially, GLBT people who have been disenfranchised from God and church, simply because of their sexual preference. It’s no wonder you have to hide spirituality in the closet these days, more than being gay.

But, the point here is living an abundant life. You simply can’t do that without the belief that you deserve all that you have, all that you will receive, and the reciprocity from all that you have given in the past. A storehouse exists for all of us and is just waiting for you to use your spiritual bankcard to receive from heaven all the prosperity that you need. I have always believed that. Because I’ve believed in this premise, I have never been without. Not ever! I’m 53 years old, and whenever I want something, it manifests. I have to say that the lottery hasn’t come, but I have had more than enough to survive and live a life that looks very prosperous, even if I have to barter for things in life. I never limit God. So, this fear that had befallen me, of late, is an uncommon feeling. I don’t like it at all.

When my friend prayed her prayer, my fear didn’t disappear, though. I had to mull on her words and wonder why I felt so estranged from the loving arms of Spirit and the universe. Let’s face it; change is difficult. Moving is one of the most terrifying changes anyone can face in life. Moving is even harder than divorce and facing a death of a loved one. Moving changes everything in your life. Every single thing!

My heart sometimes feels like the world has tromped on it and given it back to me to revive on a daily basis. I have been travelling this road of moving for six weeks now, and every day seems to get more difficult. This is the day, life is going to change. Here’s what I did to make that happen:

1.) I went through every room in my house and put aside in a pile, every article of clothing, kitchen gadget, electronic gismo, and pretty stuff, I bought to fluff up the house.
2.) I made three piles. One pile to give to someone who is in need one pile to sell, and one pile to store in a place other than my home.
3.) I took down every piece of artwork and released all gifts that were from any exes in my life and sold them to the highest bidder.
4.) Lastly, I asked some friends for help. This was probably the hardest part for me. I am usually the one helping people. I hate feeling helpless. But, it takes a village to live as a human on this earth. We all must have our rocks that we lean on, once in a while. Three friends are coming over tomorrow morning to help me with the rest of the big stuff.

I actually do feel completely different as a result of rethinking my life. As I have made room for prosperity and purged the negativity from my home, I feel, now, that it will sell immediately.
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Check out my new book: (New Promo YouTube Video—important for all GLBT friends (When you go to this link, if you have already seen the promo, look for the discoveries, as I have been posting new discoveries every week on YouTube):

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z4yGU-MVCtQ ) Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior: http://www.amazon.com/Uncommon-Gay-Spiritual-Warrior-Authentic-ebook/dp/B00KPIVOIY/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1401708367&sr=8-1&keywords=uncommon+gay+spiritual+warrior .

I am moving to Southern Florida to begin a new small imprint publishing company called: Finding Authentic You Publishing: findingauthenticyoupublishing.com. I am accepting submissions now for my January 2015 bookshelf. If you or any friends are interested, please go to the website and read the submission guidelines. Thanks.

Finding Authentic You is my brand and is also a self-help guide, which I wrote, with 365 Discoveries, meant to aid you in facilitating some of life’s most difficult challenges, like sleep. But, the discoveries also lead you to what you believe spiritually, understanding your goals, learning to believe in your self, discovering the most distinct you, unlocking all of your negative thinking, and helping you replace it with positive, creative thought using many different modalities, including hypnosis, prayer, and psychology. Once you know yourself, then relationship with Spirit and people is a fairly easy task.

For much more information about finding out about the psychology of the human mind and being your authentic self, self-love, and self-esteem, check out my new book below. “Finding Authentic You” will answer many of the questions I propose above. The book also has many discoveries about health, both mental and physical, as well as spiritual discoveries to lead you to your highest and best! Thanks for being a part of my tribe and helping get this book and all of my media below into the right hands, helping the right hearts.

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Finding Authentic You: With 365 Daily Discoveries & 7 Steps to Effective Change

* Bo Sebastian is a Hypnotherapist and Life & Health Coach, available for private sessions to QUIT SMOKING, Lose Weight, New Lap-Band Hypnosis for Weight Loss, CHANGE YOUR MIND, CHANGE YOUR LIFE! at 615-445-8861 or http://bosebastian.com/Home_Page.php Please feel free to comment and/or sign up to receive your blog sent to you directly or stream with an RSS Feed. Please spread the word by liking the page or sharing this with your friends.

Guilty ‘til Proven Innocent #Oscarpistorius #trialbyjury #trialbyjudge #Reeva #anxietydisorder #valium

Guilty ‘til Proven Innocent
#Oscarpistorius #trialbyjury #trialbyjudge #Reeva #anxietydisorder #valium

A couple of evening ago, I watched a recording of 48 Hours, which focused on the Oscar Pistorius trial. Oscar’s latest contention is that he has an anxiety disorder and terrible fear about being burgled and accosted, which made him act irrationally, shooting the bathroom door four times without knowing his girlfriend, Reeva Steencamp, was behind it. One other note that I hadn’t heard until watching the documentary was that when Oscar cried in court, his moans and wails sounded like a woman, which would make the testimony of neighbors hearing “the screams of a woman” moot.

But, what gave me the most pause about the entire scenario was that South Africa doesn’t have trial by jury. It has trial by one judge; and she is an elderly black woman, who seems very compassionate, but equally balanced in rationale, as the lawyers and witnesses refer to her as “Ma Lady.” Can you imagine that all of one person’s fate in South Africa lays in the hands of one “trying to be unbiased” judge? I simply can’t believe it.

The legal system everywhere needs a great face-lift, especially in South Africa. One of my dearest friends, Linda, died a few years ago. Before that, she was a trial lawyer for children held in the balance between parents in abusive situations in Nashville. What she told me about the law frightened me. She basically felt that the innocent never really had a fair chance, especially, if they had no alibi; which, when you think about, most people really don’t. I know that most nights I sit alone at home, and no one would know the difference if I were here or out shooting someone. I would have a extremely difficult time proving my innocence in a court of law. I’d be more likely to be able to prove my inability to kill anything, even a fly, as most of my friends and family know; especially my mother, who bitches at me when I catch a fly and release it outside. “Just kill the damn thing!” she exclaims every time.

If life has come down to exercising culpability in all areas of our lives, we might as well get a new IPhone App that keeps track of our every step. Perhaps, our phones do that already, and I’m not up to speed with the technology. But, I know if an App existed that tracked me, I’d feel more secure about being sued or accused of an action I didn’t commit. At the very least, anyone could prove where I had been and for how long.

 This culpability factor gives me a case of what Oscar Pistorius says he has—anxiety disorder. What exactly is anxiety disorder? In true anxiety disorder cases, the situational feelings a person experiences is likened to an angry lion sitting outside your front door all the time. In other words, there is an underlying threat of danger that causes your heart to race uncontrollably, your mouth to get dry, your body and actions to become anxious, and a general malaise in your mind.

I feel I had to overcome an anxiety disorder in life at one point, and certainly have helped many in coaching and hypnotherapy with this disorder. Most times, medications such as anti-anxiety meds are administered when needed most. This is very different than antidepressants, which you take every day so that the medicine becomes systemic and operates all the time. Sometimes, an antidepressant can aid in anxiety disorders, because it causes an over-all feeling of wellness and joy. The anxiety meds (clonazepam and diazepam—known, also, as Klonopin and Valium) are administered only during the times of stress, which, for some, can become a daily dosage. Some also take clonazepam for anxiety when referring to sleep problems. So, this case would require taking the medication every night before bedtime.

I have always been very transparent in this blog, and I will be now. I have been taking clonazepam for three years to help a disease called Sensory Defensiveness. This disease causes the neural pathways in your brain to fire quickly, making your body feel anxious when you become over stimulated and also causes people to have sleep disorders. If you want to know more about Sensory Defensiveness, just do a search in my blog search for the disease. I have written much information about it: www.findingauthenticyou.com.

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Check out my new book: (New Promo YouTube Video—important for all GLBT friends (When you go to this link, if you have already seen the promo, look for the discoveries, as I have been posting new discoveries every week on YouTube):

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z4yGU-MVCtQ ) Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior: http://www.amazon.com/Uncommon-Gay-Spiritual-Warrior-Authentic-ebook/dp/B00KPIVOIY/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1401708367&sr=8-1&keywords=uncommon+gay+spiritual+warrior .

I am moving to Southern Florida to begin a new small imprint publishing company called: Finding Authentic You Publishing: findingauthenticyoupublishing.com. I am accepting submissions now for my January 2015 bookshelf. If you or any friends are interested, please go to the website and read the submission guidelines. Thanks.

Finding Authentic You is my brand and is also a self-help guide, which I wrote, with 365 Discoveries, meant to aid you in facilitating some of life’s most difficult challenges, like sleep. But, the discoveries also lead you to what you believe spiritually, understanding your goals, learning to believe in your self, discovering the most distinct you, unlocking all of your negative thinking, and helping you replace it with positive, creative thought using many different modalities, including hypnosis, prayer, and psychology. Once you know yourself, then relationship with Spirit and people is a fairly easy task.

For much more information about finding out about the psychology of the human mind and being your authentic self, self-love, and self-esteem, check out my new book below. “Finding Authentic You” will answer many of the questions I propose above. The book also has many discoveries about health, both mental and physical, as well as spiritual discoveries to lead you to your highest and best! Thanks for being a part of my tribe and helping get this book and all of my media below into the right hands, helping the right hearts.

http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss_1?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=finding%20authentic%20you&sprefix=finding+%2Caps&rh=i%3Aaps%2Ck%3Afinding%20authentic%20you


Finding Authentic You: With 365 Daily Discoveries & 7 Steps to Effective Change

* Bo Sebastian is a Hypnotherapist and Life & Health Coach, available for private sessions to QUIT SMOKING, Lose Weight, New Lap-Band Hypnosis for Weight Loss, CHANGE YOUR MIND, CHANGE YOUR LIFE! at 615-445-8861 or http://bosebastian.com/Home_Page.php Please feel free to comment and/or sign up to receive your blog sent to you directly or stream with an RSS Feed. Please spread the word by liking the page or sharing this with your friends.

REALLY, GOD, I'M WILLING TO LEARN THIS LESSON! #relationship #dating #relationshipadvice

REALLY, GOD, I'M WILLING TO LEARN THIS LESSON!
#relationship #dating #relationshipadvice

The past few days, a river of tears have flowed through me—a delayed vessel, waiting for take-off orders. My plane will ascend to my next stop when it’s filled with fuel, emptied of the last flight’s luggage, and properly cleaned from the mess that the recent passengers have left. I feel somewhat comfortable with that concept, though, my human self gets antsy waiting for my new journey. This is interesting, because I have little idea of what I’ll be doing when I get to Florida.

I have been dreaming about things I want to do, but have made no solid plan; which is completely unlike me. I am the person for 20 years who would take 2 weeks off every January to make a prospectus for the next year. This is probably why I have written 13 books, recorded 6 healing CDs and video taped and edited one Yoga DVD. I’m tired of the planning and getting only so far. I want to let the wind take me now.

My new destination hold the first time in my life I haven’t had a list of goals waiting to be accomplished. I want this phase to be like a sailboat afloat in the sea, undulating with the waves and carried by the wind.

A client was in my office today. We talked about our similar experience. She, too, is leaving Nashville, to be with family and to get married and have children with her soul mate. My story lacks the latter part, but I can imagine that, too, (the married part) may happen sometime soon. If you are a friend of mine, you know I have a history of dating once and ending up in relationship. I’m just that kind of guy—a serial monogamist, I’ve been told. I like someone and stay focused on that one person until I see if he’s the one.

I was surprised when the last guy I felt like I was sort of dating, (texting 3-4 times a day and Facetiming almost every night for at least 30 minutes—that to me is dating), told me that he wanted to go out on a date with someone else. He asked me if that was okay. I told him it made my stomach sick to think he would be kissing someone else. I was being completely honest and transparent. But, he made the valid point that neither of us were in a place of commitment, yet, so dating other people should be okay.

I have talked to many people about this since my conversation with my dating friend, and people are divided on the subject. Some say that when you find someone you like, you have to give him your complete attention; otherwise, you may miss out on the very thing you have been looking for—commitment. Then, the opposing view is that: by dating a few people at a time, you have the opportunity to see who suits you best.

Really? Are people icon or clothes? Can we really date a few people, try them on, and see who fits best out of the few? What if that person turns out to be a jerk once you commit to him. (This has happened to me before.) Of course, my recent ex turned out to be a jerk after a year of complete commitment and no fights. So, who knows, at this point. I’m willing to learn. “REALLY, GOD, I’M WILLING TO LEARN THIS LESSON.”

For me, when I find security and truth and authenticity in a man, and there is an organic attraction there, I want to find out if the relationship can manifest into something special. Granted, I don’t just fall for people who don’t have the proper prerequisites for relationship. I make sure a person is single, available, relationship-oriented, and gay, before I make this choice. But, as a client once told me who had read the book: Attached. by Amir Levine, I am definitely falling in line with anxious attachment behavior.

I would agree in some part. But, I am also in line with secure behavior, too. The part of me that wants to share my life with someone and is completely transparent is the secure person. The man who is consumed with the idea that somehow a relationship will sweep me away, even when signs tell me otherwise, is the anxious one. So, maybe I could do with a little more conventional dating, and a little less committing.

Does anyone have anything to offer to this conversation from real experience? Have any of you focused on one person and ended up in a successful, long-term relationship? Or what has dating a few people brought you? Is either a choice, or is one a better and a conclusive way to find the person of your dreams? I’m open to suggestions. Write a comment and I’ll follow up when I read them.

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Check out my new book: (New Promo YouTube Video—important for all GLBT friends (When you go to this link, if you have already seen the promo, look for the discoveries, as I have been posting new discoveries every week on YouTube):
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z4yGU-MVCtQ ) Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior: http://www.amazon.com/Uncommon-Gay-Spiritual-Warrior-Authentic-ebook/dp/B00KPIVOIY/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1401708367&sr=8-1&keywords=uncommon+gay+spiritual+warrior .

I am moving to Southern Florida to begin a new small imprint publishing company called: Finding Authentic You Publishing: findingauthenticyoupublishing.com. I am accepting submissions now for my January 2015 bookshelf. If you or any friends are interested, please go to the website and read the submission guidelines. Thanks.

Finding Authentic You is my brand and is also a self-help guide, which I wrote, with 365 Discoveries, meant to aid you in facilitating some of life’s most difficult challenges, like sleep. But, the discoveries also lead you to what you believe spiritually, understanding your goals, learning to believe in your self, discovering the most distinct you, unlocking all of your negative thinking, and helping you replace it with positive, creative thought using many different modalities, including hypnosis, prayer, and psychology. Once you know yourself, then relationship with Spirit and people is a fairly easy task.

For much more information about finding out about the psychology of the human mind and being your authentic self, self-love, and self-esteem, check out my new book below. “Finding Authentic You” will answer many of the questions I propose above. The book also has many discoveries about health, both mental and physical, as well as spiritual discoveries to lead you to your highest and best! Thanks for being a part of my tribe and helping get this book and all of my media below into the right hands, helping the right hearts.

http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss_1?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=finding%20authentic%20you&sprefix=finding+%2Caps&rh=i%3Aaps%2Ck%3Afinding%20authentic%20you

The Fair Maiden and the Three Monks #lettinggothepast #yourstory #anxiety #encorecareer

The Fair Maiden and the Three Monks
#lettinggothepast #yourstory #anxiety #encorecareer

In Buddhism, a monk is never supposed to touch a woman. However, when three monks wandered in the woods came across a beautiful young maiden who couldn’t make it over a waterway, one monk gallantly picked her up and carried her across the river, so she wouldn’t get wet.

Hours later, after much frustration, his compatriot said to him, “How dare you pick up that woman. It is against all of our training and laws to do so.”

The monk who carried the woman replied, “I have set her down at the river’s edge, hours ago. When will you release her?”

This old tale speaks of carrying around the past or, more appropriately, our story about the past. I had a very interesting experience happen to me as I have been trying to let go of my own past, before I move to Florida. I had emailed an ex, who had to my knowledge post-relationship, had had about 5 affairs while we were together. He hurt me more than any one person could, as far as commitment goes. I wrote to him and just inquired how he was doing, in an effort to let go of my past. To my surprise, he wrote back a scathing letter; telling me that I had never honored him, made fun of him, and didn’t enter into his pain with him.

I started to write back this angry letter, then mid-sentence, I stopped and rewrote: “If you are willing to let go of your story of the past, I am, also, willing to let go of mine. Because, we obviously are seeing our relationship in two different ways.”
In the subsequent letter, he let me know that to become a friend now, I would not only have to let go of my story, but have to agree to enter into his pain with him and help him heal from the past. Still, I’m not so sure I want to swim across that wide lake to get to his pain; especially, because doing so would be exactly opposite of what my intention was—to release the past.

I find, that many times, in my sadness about moving, the first person I think about calling to share my angst is usually someone I, absolutely, shouldn’t call. It’s as if my subconscious mind cooks up stories and pain to recapitulate the past and bring back the very souls I wish to release. I get it now. My ego wants to hold on to my past, while my spirit wants to live in the present and look forward to the amazing vistas in my future.

So, if you keep trying to manage the past or “your story” by recapitulating old relationships, you may just try letting go completely and see how that feels. Often, Spirit will bring new relationships into your life that will give you the chance to make a different choice, one that you couldn’t make in the past.
I have seen this in my own life and know for certain that as I plunge forward, shoulder deep, into the waters of my future that I will make better choices where relationship is concerned. Now, as I can move away from those people who continue to see me as my “old story” will no longer have a tale to tell that concerns me.
Not all of us can pack up and move away from our past, but sometimes, after twenty-five years, you need to make a safe and secure move into a place that feels right and deliberate. For me, this move is more about being close to three loving sisters, my mother, my dog, my two close brother-in-laws, and three nieces and nephews, whom I wish to see grow into wonderful adults. I, also, have twenty friends who live in the area who I will be move toward. So, I don’t feel as if I’m alone at all. I feel as if I’m just entering into a world that welcomes me with open arms and gives me a great chance to have an encore career, as well. Be Blessed today!


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Check out my new book: (New Promo YouTube Video—important for all GLBT friends (When you go to this link, if you have already seen the promo, look for the discoveries, as I have been posting new discoveries every week on YouTube):
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z4yGU-MVCtQ ) Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior: http://www.amazon.com/Uncommon-Gay-Spiritual-Warrior-Authentic-ebook/dp/B00KPIVOIY/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1401708367&sr=8-1&keywords=uncommon+gay+spiritual+warrior .

I am moving to Southern Florida to begin a new small imprint publishing company called: Finding Authentic You Publishing: findingauthenticyoupublishing.com. I am accepting submissions now for my January 2015 bookshelf. If you or any friends are interested, please go to the website and read the submission guidelines. Thanks.

Finding Authentic You is my brand and is also a self-help guide, which I wrote, with 365 Discoveries, meant to aid you in facilitating some of life’s most difficult challenges, like sleep. But, the discoveries also lead you to what you believe spiritually, understanding your goals, learning to believe in your self, discovering the most distinct you, unlocking all of your negative thinking, and helping you replace it with positive, creative thought using many different modalities, including hypnosis, prayer, and psychology. Once you know yourself, then relationship with Spirit and people is a fairly easy task.

For much more information about finding out about the psychology of the human mind and being your authentic self, self-love, and self-esteem, check out my new book below. “Finding Authentic You” will answer many of the questions I propose above. The book also has many discoveries about health, both mental and physical, as well as spiritual discoveries to lead you to your highest and best! Thanks for being a part of my tribe and helping get this book and all of my media below into the right hands, helping the right hearts.

http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss_1?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=finding%20authentic%20you&sprefix=finding+%2Caps&rh=i%3Aaps%2Ck%3Afinding%20authentic%20you


Finding Authentic You: With 365 Daily Discoveries & 7 Steps to Effective Change

* Bo Sebastian is a Hypnotherapist and Life & Health Coach, available for private sessions to QUIT SMOKING, Lose Weight, New Lap-Band Hypnosis for Weight Loss, CHANGE YOUR MIND, CHANGE YOUR LIFE! at 615-445-8861 or http://bosebastian.com/Home_Page.php Please feel free to comment and/or sign up to receive your blog sent to you directly or stream with an RSS Feed. Please spread the word by liking the page or sharing this with your friends.

The Mausoleum of Our Minds #grief #livelifeforward #memories #repeatingoldpatterns

The Mausoleum of Our Minds
 #grief #livelifeforward #memories #repeatingoldpatterns

I disliked my father for 25 years, rather hated him, I guess. I felt as if he had little to do with my life, but offering up his sperm. I lived in NYC city then, and we had just hung up from our regular monthly call, in which I was always the initiator. I never got an “I love you” from him or any kind of praise. He simply would prattle on about what he ate for dinner that day and about the weather in Western Pennsylvania. Nothing supported me in his banter. I accepted that, but decided long before that my life and my success could have nothing to do with him.

At midnight that evening, the phone rang again. His favorite nephew had gotten killed in a motorcycle accident. He asked me if I would fly home to Pittsburgh the next day. I had been very close to the wife of the man who died. He understood that my presence there would be comforting. Also, at that time I was a minister, but Daddy knew I was gay, too, and was an embarrassment to his 8 very Catholic Italian brothers and sisters, who were completely anti-gay, for the most part—actually, more uneducated, as this happened 25 years ago. Some relatives even snubbed me, after the news got out, so trips home were rare. However, I wanted to help. So, I boarded a plane the next day on my father’s dime.

When we got to my cousin’s house, his wife sat on the sofa, swiftly looking through wedding pictures in a large brown photo album. “I can’t believe it. This isn’t happening,” she repeated, over and over. I went to her side and gently caressed her shoulder. I didn’t say a word. I knew she didn’t need me to express that everything would be okay, because it simply wasn’t. Life sucked, right then. She needed someone to share her grief, not challenge it, like most of the family had been trying to do.

After a couple of hours of looking through the wedding album, I said something funny, unexpectedly, and she burst out laughing. Then, suddenly, like her laughter had stirred the hot lava within, she burst into tears. We hugged for the longest time. When the initial surge of grief subsided, we began to talk about the funeral arrangements, which everyone wanted to get accomplished, but was afraid to broach. She asked me to sing at the funeral and help her with many of the exhausting things, like picking out a casket and arranging the service. This would be the first time I would be in front of all of my relatives as a out gay man.

Their church was an orthodox sect that didn’t allow anything but singing—no instruments. So, I sang a cappella “How Great Thou Art.” At the end of the 2-hour funeral, with priests a-chanting and an out-0f-tune choir reciting endless banter that I didn’t understand, my father stood in the parking lot smoking. I hadn’t seen my father cry since my mother left him when I was eight. His eyes were red, and I could tell he was holding back his own tears. I went to him and asked him if he was all right.

When I touched him, he pulled I away, like I could somehow give him HIV, which I didn’t have. I pursued him with caution, not caring, now, how he felt about me being gay; more importantly, how I felt about him not accepting my decision to come out. I simply was one human being concerned about his sadness. “Dad,” I said, “I’m here for you, if you want me to be.”

In that moment, without hesitation, he grabbed me and hugged me, bursting into tears. “Son,” he said, “I have never been more proud of you in my life.”
I didn’t think I needed my father to be proud of me. But from a place deeper than my skeleton, a grand sense of relief swept over me. I had no idea how important my father’s acceptance would be; and even more so, his praise. We hugged unabashed for a short while, then, suddenly, his scared feelings crept back and he gently pushed me away before his relatives could see us in the parking lot. But, he couldn’t take back my one moment of healing. That, I would keep long after his ugly death from prostate cancer.

You see, we all have a need for one or both of our parents to honor us, to listen to us, to cherish us, and, especially, support our adult decisions. When they don’t, we try to find surrogates. Sometimes, we overwork to gain the attention of a boss. Sometimes, we find some older friends to hang out with who aren’t afraid to express their feelings. Other times, we just hide our need underneath eating or a habit.

Surrogates are great ways to fill the emptiness in our subconscious mind, if they are healthy replacements for our needs. But, you must remind yourself that the reason you need these surrogates is because of the deep wound that your parent left you with. So, if you have garnered a bad habit as a result of this part of your past, recognizing your unhealthy pattern, can sometimes lead to its resolution. It certainly did for me.

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Check out my new book: (New Promo YouTube Video—important for all GLBT friends (When you go to this link, if you have already seen the promo, look for the discoveries, as I have been posting new discoveries every week on YouTube): ) Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior: http://www.amazon.com/Uncommon-Gay-Spiritual-Warrior-Authentic-ebook/dp/B00KPIVOIY/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1401708367&sr=8-1&keywords=uncommon+gay+spiritual+warrior .

I am moving to Southern Florida to begin a new small imprint publishing company called: Finding Authentic You Publishing: findingauthenticyoupublishing.com. I am accepting submissions now for my January 2015 bookshelf. If you or any friends are interested, please go to the website and read the submission guidelines. Thanks.

Finding Authentic You is my brand and is also a self-help guide, which I wrote, with 365 Discoveries, meant to aid you in facilitating some of life’s most difficult challenges, like sleep. But, the discoveries also lead you to what you believe spiritually, understanding your goals, learning to believe in your self, discovering the most distinct you, unlocking all of your negative thinking, and helping you replace it with positive, creative thought using many different modalities, including hypnosis, prayer, and psychology. Once you know yourself, then relationship with Spirit and people is a fairly easy task.

For much more information about finding out about the psychology of the human mind and being your authentic self, self-love, and self-esteem, check out my new book below. “Finding Authentic You” will answer many of the questions I propose above. The book also has many discoveries about health, both mental and physical, as well as spiritual discoveries to lead you to your highest and best! Thanks for being a part of my tribe and helping get this book and all of my media below into the right hands, helping the right hearts. Buy the Book!

Finding Authentic You: With 365 Daily Discoveries & 7 Steps to Effective Change

* Bo Sebastian is a Hypnotherapist and Life & Health Coach, available for private sessions to QUIT SMOKING, Lose Weight, New Lap-Band Hypnosis for Weight Loss, CHANGE YOUR MIND, CHANGE YOUR LIFE! at 615-445-8861 or http://bosebastian.com/Home_Page.php Please feel free to comment and/or sign up to receive your blog sent to you directly or stream with an RSS Feed. Please spread the word by liking the page or sharing this with your friends.

"You Do Things that Scare Me!"—Mirror Work #womenspower #feminineenergy #yingyang #mirrorwork #innerchild

"You Do Things that Scare Me!"—Mirror Work
 #womenspower #feminineenergy #yingyang #mirrorwork #innerchild

I listened to one of my favorite speakers last week, and she proclaimed at the beginning of her message, “I am a powerful woman!” I thought, how odd for her to tell us she is a powerful woman, instead of us gleaning that information from her talk. As always, I began to think about her purpose, because she is the kind of speaker who wouldn’t say something without intent. Then, I realized that she wasn’t proclaiming her power to us, but to herself and, perhaps, the universe. I love the concept of unabashed proclamation of your worth and power. I decided to try it myself. I said, “I give to the world my time and talents with few boundaries. And the universe rewards me with all good! I am a receiver of great power and wealth!” I repeated it a few times, because the first few time I think my body rejected it, as I gagged on the words.

Every time I said the words again, I felt more power.
Try to make a proclamation for yourself, today. See if you can find a palatable phrase that suits you, first. You don’t want to say words that you can’t believe. But, if you know a truth about yourself and haven’t been able to embrace it fully, maybe it’s time to start saying it aloud, to yourself, and to the world. Try saying it in front of a mirror. Louise Hay calls this “mirror work.” If you have never done it before, know that the work is much harder than you would expect it to be.

I remember in one of her many books, Louise tells you to go to a mirror and ask yourself what would make you happy. Well, I thought, how simple could that be? It was one of the hardest tasks I have ever done. First of all, after I coifed my hair, picked at a pimple, brushed my teeth, combed my eyebrows… (well, you get the picture), I finally looked into my eyes. What I saw was my own soul, maybe, for the first time. Then, to talk to myself, felt crazy. Expecting an answer became even stranger. For the longest time nothing came to me. I had no idea what my soul needed to be happy.

I reached down deeper and found a little boy there. He was so confused and scared. He hid in the closet from a drunken, abusive father, and no mother to protect him. I had to do the therapy for days before I could coax little Bobby out of the closet, holding him closely. I realized that when I asked myself what would make me happy, that I was asking little Bobby. This is why the process was so difficult. That inner child was completely silent, because I had ignored him for so long. When he finally opened his mouth to speak, he said, “I need you to protect me more.”
My incredulous question was: that’s what would make me happy? Perhaps, I thought, that’s what would make me feel more secure or at peace. Then, I realized that happiness was dependent on security and peace for me. So, I questioned the little boy. “Why are you so afraid?” His answer mortified me.

“You do things that scare me all the time!”

Then, I began to reflect on my boundaries in relationship. This was a time, twenty years ago, that I felt I was being more promiscuous than other times in my life. I wanted to discover what it felt like to date without the desire to fall in love, which, for me, meant separating my Self from my own heart, which had always sought to love deeply. I realized, in that moment, that my particular power in that moment was in listening to the little boy inside for advice and for truth. As Jesus once said, “Let the little children come… to me.” He asks us to come to God with the attitude of a child—open and honest.

That little piece of God spoke to me like an angel: “I need you to be my friend and protect me with everything you do.” So, I began to check inside to see if the actions I took in relationship were okay with my inner child. To the dismay of my very randy human body, most times, my actions made Bobby fearful and insecure. I had to reel in my lustful desires and listen to whether or not “little Bobby.” When I began to make this my litmus test for life, my entire world changed. I did feel more peaceful and happiness began to bloom from most everything I did.
This week, let’s try some mirror work. And, perhaps, a bit of proclamation of what you believe you should be to this world and for this universe!

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Check out my new book: (New Promo YouTube Video—important for all GLBT friends (When you go to this link, if you have already seen the promo, look for the discoveries, as I have been posting new discoveries every week on YouTube): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z4yGU-MVCtQ ) Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior:

http://www.amazon.com/Uncommon-Gay-Spiritual-Warrior-Authentic-ebook/dp/B00KPIVOIY/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1401708367&sr=8-1&keywords=uncommon+gay+spiritual+warrior .

I am moving to Southern Florida to begin a new small imprint publishing company called: Finding Authentic You Publishing: findingauthenticyoupublishing.com. I am accepting submissions now for my January 2015 bookshelf. If you or any friends are interested, please go to the website and read the submission guidelines. Thanks.

Finding Authentic You is my brand and is also a self-help guide, which I wrote, with 365 Discoveries, meant to aid you in facilitating some of life’s most difficult challenges, like sleep. But, the discoveries also lead you to what you believe spiritually, understanding your goals, learning to believe in your self, discovering the most distinct you, unlocking all of your negative thinking, and helping you replace it with positive, creative thought using many different modalities, including hypnosis, prayer, and psychology. Once you know yourself, then relationship with Spirit and people is a fairly easy task.

For much more information about finding out about the psychology of the human mind and being your authentic self, self-love, and self-esteem, check out my new book below. “Finding Authentic You” will answer many of the questions I propose above. The book also has many discoveries about health, both mental and physical, as well as spiritual discoveries to lead you to your highest and best! Thanks for being a part of my tribe and helping get this book and all of my media below into the right hands, helping the right hearts.

http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss_1?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=finding%20authentic%20you&sprefix=finding+%2Caps&rh=i%3Aaps%2Ck%3Afinding%20authentic%20you


Finding Authentic You: With 365 Daily Discoveries & 7 Steps to Effective Change

* Bo Sebastian is a Hypnotherapist and Life & Health Coach, available for private sessions to QUIT SMOKING, Lose Weight, New Lap-Band Hypnosis for Weight Loss, CHANGE YOUR MIND, CHANGE YOUR LIFE! at 615-445-8861 or http://bosebastian.com/Home_Page.php Please feel free to comment and/or sign up to receive your blog sent to you directly or stream with an RSS Feed. Please spread the word by liking the page or sharing this with your friends.

What Determines Commitment in Relationship? #relationshipadvice #relationships #intimacy

What Determines Commitment in Relationship?
 #relationshipadvice #relationships #intimacy

How often have you been fooled by someone who has bared his or her soul, only to find that commitment to your relationship really doesn’t exist at all? For me, many times. The dictionary defines commitment as the state of being dedicated to a cause, activity, or relationship; an engagement or obligation. The dictionary defines intimacy as familiar, close, involving a very close connection, usually referring to a sexual one. What defines a committed relationship often relates to how intimate one becomes with another.

Intimacy happens on many different levels. Yes, sexuality is intimacy, but sex also can be completely non-intimate. Kissing is an intimate act. Deep conversation also creates closeness. Transparency brings people closer together. Fleshing out problems you face together brings two souls closer. All of these acts, when combined with a physical attraction, could lead one to believe he or she is in a relationship.

Honestly, my relationship paradigm is changing so much as a result of the past couple of times I have shown my heart, only to find that complete transparency simply wasn’t enough to keep commitment secure. My last committed relationship had been going on a year, and we had begun a trial of living together, even though we had spent the last 365 days connected by the hip. We had only had one disagreement in a year, and it was no more a fight than a pear is a plum.

We prayed together every day. We showered together almost every day, or took a long, candlelit bath together, taking turns massaging each other. Most importantly, we talked and were intimate in all ways almost every day. I thought, by definition, this relationship was leading to a long-lasting commitment. I found out, in the shower, on VALENTINE’S DAY, that my partner decided he wasn’t ready for the long-term commitment I wanted and deserved. So, the next day, he moved out. We have only spoken one time, since then. He doesn’t even want to meet to say goodbye before I leave for Florida. Nice, right? Where once I thought this man was going to spend his life with me, I now consider him to be a… (never mind, this is just anger speaking now.)

If you have had failed relationships in the past, you will understand what I am talking about. Most people don’t understand the nature of commitment. They have, what I would consider, a sophomoric idea of relationship, which would mean that commitment comes when they have exhausted all other possibilities and decide you are the best he or she can get. Quite honestly, I’m not willing to wait for immaturity. I’m looking for someone who understands that relationship builds with every conversation and with every transparent act. One simply cannot build intimacy if he or she is not committed to one person at a time. Surely, if you decide that you are simply not connected enough to a person, you should leave the relationship as soon as you discover that. That’s what dating is…

I was amazed that my ex told me that he would have stayed in the relationship a couple more years, had I not asked him, point blank, why his Valentine’s day card was not intimate, as mine was. His was more like a good friend. This was after we had just come back from a very intimate 10-day vacation and cruise to the Caribbean. You see, what looked to me like transparency (saying all the right things), really wasn’t his real feelings at all. But he had had a great time rehearsing being unauthentic as he was in a marriage for 14 years and was gay. When you look back at the signs, you see the truth—unfortunately, too late for your broken heart.

Shock does not begin to share with you how I felt for a month. I cried more tears than I knew I had. But, as a good friend and life coach shared with me, “I was crying more for what I believed I wanted  in relationship, more than for that particular person’s role in my life.” To tell you the truth, and it pains me to admit this, she was exactly right. Not only that, I had cried for every lost relationship and lost ideal and dream I had of relationships that had failed when Allen left. My grief went much deeper than the surface. It went down to my bones, because I have internal connections to loss that go all the way back to my mother leaving my father when I was 8 years old. Yes, trust is difficult for me now. That little boy inside of me needs me to guard my heart and his precious little heart as well.

So, in the future, how can I regain trust and move toward a securely committed relationship? The answer has to do with looking for signs of avoidant behavior in my dating experience. Trust me on this, you have to be very studied and transparent with yourself to let go when you see these signs. Most people want relationship more than they want truth. So, when you have the opportunity to ask questions about the future after an appropriate amount of time dating, then you should listen to answers with the kind of ears that will take action to protect yourself from hurt down the road.

When the answers lead you to insecurity, trust your gut. Leave the dating experience (or the relationship) before you get too involved with someone who simply isn’t ready for commitment. Notice, I didn’t say intimacy. More people are ready to experience the joys of intimacy, than there are people ready for commitment. This simply means that more people would rather delight in the good of relationship than fight for the security of a committed one. Sometimes, two people have to have a very healthy fight to get to the bottom of difficult situations. This means that two people are committed, usually. I’m not talking about angry, out-of-control fights. I’m talking of heated discussions, which get to the real problem inside.

In conclusion, tread lightly into relationship. But, also create safe parameters from which to grow. Don’t jump into bed with someone on the first date and expect to begin honest conversations about safe sex afterwards. Get to the more difficult questions about the future before you jump headfirst into intimacy. Remember, intimacy almost always leads one person, usually the person with the anxious attachment, into the idea that he or she is in a stable relationship. The avoidant one almost always has one foot out of the relationship and is still looking for “the perfect relationship,” which doesn’t exist.

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Check out my new book: (New Promo YouTube Video—important for all GLBT friends (When you go to this link, if you have already seen the promo, look for the discoveries, as I have been posting new discoveries every week on YouTube): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z4yGU-MVCtQ ) Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior:

http://www.amazon.com/Uncommon-Gay-Spiritual-Warrior-Authentic-ebook/dp/B00KPIVOIY/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1401708367&sr=8-1&keywords=uncommon+gay+spiritual+warrior .

I am moving to Southern Florida to begin a new small imprint publishing company called: Finding Authentic You Publishing: findingauthenticyoupublishing.com. I am accepting submissions now for my January 2015 bookshelf. If you or any friends are interested, please go to the website and read the submission guidelines. Thanks.

Finding Authentic You is my brand and is also a self-help guide, which I wrote, with 365 Discoveries, meant to aid you in facilitating some of life’s most difficult challenges, like sleep. But, the discoveries also lead you to what you believe spiritually, understanding your goals, learning to believe in your self, discovering the most distinct you, unlocking all of your negative thinking, and helping you replace it with positive, creative thought using many different modalities, including hypnosis, prayer, and psychology. Once you know yourself, then relationship with Spirit and people is a fairly easy task.

For much more information about finding out about the psychology of the human mind and being your authentic self, self-love, and self-esteem, check out my new book below. “Finding Authentic You” will answer many of the questions I propose above. The book also has many discoveries about health, both mental and physical, as well as spiritual discoveries to lead you to your highest and best! Thanks for being a part of my tribe and helping get this book and all of my media below into the right hands, helping the right hearts.

http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss_1?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=finding%20authentic%20you&sprefix=finding+%2Caps&rh=i%3Aaps%2Ck%3Afinding%20authentic%20you


Finding Authentic You: With 365 Daily Discoveries & 7 Steps to Effective Change

* Bo Sebastian is a Hypnotherapist and Life & Health Coach, available for private sessions to QUIT SMOKING, Lose Weight, New Lap-Band Hypnosis for Weight Loss, CHANGE YOUR MIND, CHANGE YOUR LIFE! at 615-445-8861 or http://bosebastian.com/Home_Page.php Please feel free to comment and/or sign up to receive your blog sent to you directly or stream with an RSS Feed. Please spread the word by liking the page or sharing this with your friends.

Cancel. Cancel. Cancel #spokenword #powerofaword

Cancel. Cancel. Cancel
 #spokenword #powerofaword

I used to go to a church that was dead-set against speaking negativity into the universe. If anyone said something opposite of what you wanted or needed in your life, you immediately were to reply, “I cancel that in the name of Jesus!” We were diligent, if anything. I said the word cancel more that year than I had in my entire life.
I’m amazed how many different spiritual paradigms I have lived through in one lifetime. At one point, I was even in a church that was based solely on demonic deliverance. After every church gathering, the elders would sit around with church members, casting out demons—sexual demons, lustful demons, glutinous demons, murmuring demons, and most definitely LYING DEMONS.
I’m not saying that I don’t believe evil exists
in the world. You don’t have to look hard to find something or someone malevolent. I simply believe that the problems in the world are more between our ears than they are spiritually. I have to admit, I have encountered a few people who seem to have been possessed by something that appeared evil. Honestly, when we look deeper into problems and discover their origin, usually it’s a malware problem—some parent or teacher’s abuse comes out like regurgitation, because of the inevitability of human swallowing too much pain without the body spitting it right back out.

I do believe that there is power in the spoken word. But, the power isn’t from the words alone. Jesus was quoted as saying, “out of the abundance of your heart, the mouth speaks.” He also said, that “by your own faith you are healed.” Jesus explained many theories about spirituality and love, but most often, He gave examples of how spiritual laws works. He wanted to show—by example—that anyone can change his or her circumstance simply by changing his belief. He said, “If you have faith the size of a mustard seed (pretty dang small), you could move a mountain.” So, how many of us, though many claim to say we have it, truly have faith? Don’t you think the world would be rid of mountains by now if even a few of us had faith?

My faith has been shaken to the bone these past few days. I thought, certainly, that my beautiful house with its lovely gardens would be off of the market as soon as it appeared on the MLS listing. The house down the street, two doors down, half as nice as mine, sold with 3 people battling over it and the price raised $5000 in the process. This was just 3 months ago. Why isn’t mine selling now? Honestly, I have had to meditate more in the past week than I have had to in years, just to keep my mind off of the negative. Why would it matter if I were thinking negative and fearful thoughts, if thoughts don’t change substance?

That’s a very good question. Many times in my life, I have had fearful thoughts, and I still won or came through the process successfully. Conversely, a great many times I have stuck to my belief only to find myself completely lost and broke. So, why does it matter so much to me now that I have a positive belief about my future?

I know with absolute certainty that fear and anxiety cause negativity in my own body and mind. This is the only evidence I need. I simply don’t want any part of the anxiety that comes with negative thinking. My heart races. I can’t sleep, because of looping thoughts. I experience dry mouth. I can’t think straight. (Don’t even go there…) All right, I’ll go there. I can’t think gay either. And, mostly, my stomach gathers in a knot and a feel nauseous from stress.
Ultimately, what I say and think change something. Most importantly, it changes the matter and molecules in me. It changes my heart, my blood pressure, my anxiety levels, and, sometimes, it even can cause me to engage in an old habit. So, if you are experiencing a difficult time in your life, you must go to the source of the problem—YOU!

Figure out what you are so damn afraid of and confront it, like a good friend would. Flesh out the issues that keep you in fear. Discover the power you have when you actually face difficulty head on. Most times, the worst-case scenarios are not so bad at all.

For me, for instance, if I were to have to stay in my house for another one or two months, the worst case scenario is that I would have to live on credit cards until I got the equity out of my house to pay them off. That certainly isn’t so bad. It’s like a paid vacation. Now, if only I could really believe that…
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Check out my new book: (New Promo YouTube Video—important for all GLBT friends (When you go to this link, if you have already seen the promo, look for the discoveries, as I have been posting new discoveries every week on YouTube): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z4yGU-MVCtQ ) Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior: http://www.amazon.com/Uncommon-Gay-Spiritual-Warrior-Authentic-ebook/dp/B00KPIVOIY/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1401708367&sr=8-1&keywords=uncommon+gay+spiritual+warrior .

I am moving to Southern Florida to begin a new small imprint publishing company called: Finding Authentic You Publishing: findingauthenticyoupublishing.com. I am accepting submissions now for my January 2015 bookshelf. If you or any friends are interested, please go to the website and read the submission guidelines. Thanks.

Finding Authentic You is my brand and is also a self-help guide, which I wrote, with 365 Discoveries, meant to aid you in facilitating some of life’s most difficult challenges, like sleep. But, the discoveries also lead you to what you believe spiritually, understanding your goals, learning to believe in your self, discovering the most distinct you, unlocking all of your negative thinking, and helping you replace it with positive, creative thought using many different modalities, including hypnosis, prayer, and psychology. Once you know yourself, then relationship with Spirit and people is a fairly easy task.

For much more information about finding out about the psychology of the human mind and being your authentic self, self-love, and self-esteem, check out my new book below. “Finding Authentic You” will answer many of the questions I propose above. The book also has many discoveries about health, both mental and physical, as well as spiritual discoveries to lead you to your highest and best! Thanks for being a part of my tribe and helping get this book and all of my media below into the right hands, helping the right hearts.

http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss_1?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=finding%20authentic%20you&sprefix=finding+%2Caps&rh=i%3Aaps%2Ck%3Afinding%20authentic%20you


Finding Authentic You: With 365 Daily Discoveries & 7 Steps to Effective Change

* Bo Sebastian is a Hypnotherapist and Life & Health Coach, available for private sessions to QUIT SMOKING, Lose Weight, New Lap-Band Hypnosis for Weight Loss, CHANGE YOUR MIND, CHANGE YOUR LIFE! at 615-445-8861 or http://bosebastian.com/Home_Page.php Please feel free to comment and/or sign up to receive your blog sent to you directly or stream with an RSS Feed. Please spread the word by liking the page or sharing this with your friends.

Anxiety, Archetypes, and Footprints #dreams #archetypes #indiantotems #dreaminterpretation

Anxiety, Archetypes, and Footprints
#dreams #archetypes #indiantotems #dreaminterpretation

I have written many blogs about the mysteries of spirit and how faith combined with meditation can help you resolve, at least, some mysteries in your lives. For instance, I have been trying to sell my house for 3 weeks now. I have had many viewers, but no buyers. Everyone, including my real estate agent, assumed that the house would sell immediately, because it’s in a great neighborhood, and I’ve spent the last 7 years creating amazing gardens and remodeling to make it absolutely perfect for me. Nonetheless, I have had to reduce the cost of the home by 10K just to keep people looking. My spiritual resolve bounces back and forth from anxiety to quiet, then back to stress, and more meditation, leading me again to faith.

Our human DNA is programmed to protect ourselves from dying and from lack. So, as I have practically closed up shop with my business in Nashville, I have been progressively making less money, counting on the sale of my house to give me my equity back to move forward with my new dream in Florida. However, this is not the highest will of God and Spirit, apparently. Otherwise, I would have had an offer by now. My goal as a spiritual seeker, is to discover what my lesson is in the midst of this trial. I prayed for wisdom in my meditation.

Yesterday I spotted a doe breaking through the brush aside the highway and barely making it past a fast-paced driving car in front of me. My mind went back to a time when my cousin, driving in a snowstorm, collided with a deer that jumped off of a Pennsylvania mountain cliff, paralyzing my cousin for the rest of her life and, of course, sacrificing its own life.

Deer in Indian mythology and archetypes are believed to sacrifice themselves to feed the people or are considered caretakers of the earth. Deer songs and deer dances are common throughout some regions of Mexico, with the deer frequently serving as a symbol of the people. But this deer actually caused great pain in many lives. I often wonder if we had checked the footprints above on the cliff, if the deer had been chased by a predator to come to its fatal destiny. No one ever checked. But, destiny is what it is? Right? Can we change our destiny?

So, in my quiet time, I heard a whisper that said, “Your time is coming in Florida, but your sisters and mother need space to work out some issues together, before you get there!” At face value, that seemed like a very pertinent word from God. I understand completely and wouldn’t want to ruin the perfect destiny of my mother’s and sister’s lessons by moving too quickly. So, I go back to recent archetypes in my life and the footsteps leading to lessons I never expected, nor would have chosen for myself.

The last time I moved was to Nashville from New York City. The move was horrific. My friend Kenny and I drove two separate vans with everything I owned in them, first, to Pittsburgh, to get what was left of mine at my father’s house. We stayed over night there and rested. Then, we continued on our path toward Nashville the next day. During that trip, we ended up driving 20 miles an hour through a blizzard in the mountainous areas of Pennsylvania. Kenny drove ahead of me. As I was fully intent on not wrecking my new van, I noticed a deer above us on the ledge of a cliff. Then, there were no cell phones or instant communication. I had no way of warning Kenny that deer was headed right toward him. In a flash, the deer jumped from the cliff, just like the story of my cousin, but instead of landing in his windshield, the doe landed just ahead, causing him to wreck his car.

I remember thinking, God, I know you have called me to this move. I feel it in every part of my body and mind. Why would you make this so difficult? I got no answer, then. Though Kenny’s van was badly dented, it was still running, so we proceeded to my father’s home. There, we were able to get the necessary mechanic to get us safely back on the road to Nashville.

Two or three days ago, I was taking a leisurely walk in a state park near my home and a baby deer was feeding on the path. The deer let me walk right up to it. I talked to it as I would my dog. It gazed up at me with large round, brown eyes, and then drifted away, leaving footprints in the muddy ground. As I observe the last few days of my life from a compassionate, omniscient perspective, I see that in the midst of my struggle to remain calm, because of my lack of control of a situation, I have seen metaphors and archetypes flash by me like dreams from the past. I prayed for the wisdom to help me make sense of them.

What I received is that each time I saw the deer, I had been on the right path, as they speak to me personally as a gentle reminder of God’s beauty and perfect poise and grace as I move through trials. Maybe, these gentle creatures have come to tell me that my story is unfolding before me, and that as a deer must forage through the woods finding food and water, so must I go to where my soul will be fed. As for the anxiety, that is just symbolic of my humanity. When I lose control of a situation, because of anchors from my past, I feel insecure and scared. Perhaps, my waiting in peace, will help me release the residual pain of the past, once and for all. That’s my hope. That’s my prayer.

So, sometimes in life, God and Spirit plant metaphors around you and archetypes to unfold the mystery of your present situation. If you have questions about your life, stay present and in the moment. When you see something unusual or dream of something specific, go to the Internet and search for the meaning. Many sites exist there that interpret dreams and give you spiritual archetypes for what you see. We are in a world now where nothing needs to remain a mystery—even your own trials. Namaste.
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Check out my new book: (New Promo YouTube Video—important for all GLBT friends: When you go to this link, if you have already seen the promo, look for the discoveries, as I have been posting new discoveries every week on YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z4yGU-MVCtQ ) Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior:

http://www.amazon.com/Uncommon-Gay-Spiritual-Warrior-Authentic-ebook/dp/B00KPIVOIY/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1401708367&sr=8-1&keywords=uncommon+gay+spiritual+warrior .

I am moving to Southern Florida to begin a new small imprint publishing company called: Finding Authentic You Publishing: findingauthenticyoupublishing.com. I am accepting submissions now for my January 2015 bookshelf. If you or any friends are interested, please go to the website and read the submission guidelines. Thanks.
Finding Authentic You is my brand and is also a self-help guide, which I wrote, with 365 Discoveries, meant to aid you in facilitating some of life’s most difficult challenges, like sleep. But, the discoveries also lead you to what you believe spiritually, understanding your goals, learning to believe in your self, discovering the most distinct you, unlocking all of your negative thinking, and helping you replace it with positive, creative thought using many different modalities, including hypnosis, prayer, and psychology. Once you know yourself, then relationship with Spirit and people is a fairly easy task.

For much more information about finding out about the psychology of the human mind and being your authentic self, self-love, and self-esteem, check out my new book below. “Finding Authentic You” will answer many of the questions I propose above. The book also has many discoveries about health, both mental and physical, as well as spiritual discoveries to lead you to your highest and best! Thanks for being a part of my tribe and helping get this book and all of my media below into the right hands, helping the right hearts.

http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss_1?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=finding%20authentic%20you&sprefix=finding+%2Caps&rh=i%3Aaps%2Ck%3Afinding%20authentic%20you


Finding Authentic You: With 365 Daily Discoveries & 7 Steps to Effective Change

* Bo Sebastian is a Hypnotherapist and Life & Health Coach, available for private sessions to QUIT SMOKING, Lose Weight, New Lap-Band Hypnosis for Weight Loss, CHANGE YOUR MIND, CHANGE YOUR LIFE! at 615-445-8861 or http://bosebastian.com/Home_Page.php Please feel free to comment and/or sign up to receive your blog sent to you directly or stream with an RSS Feed. Please spread the word by liking the page or sharing this with your friends.

Who’s Your Daddy? #fathersday, #father #dads #self-esteem #dreamanalysis #jung

Who’s Your Daddy?
#fathersday, #father #dads #self-esteem

Many people joke about being arrested and the gay behavior or mistreatment that follows, as straight inmates tend to take “not so straight men” as their bitches, leading me to my title today. I had a recurring dream last night that I was being arrested for something I didn’t do. In the dream I was riding a bicycle through my old neighborhood where I grew up. Where there used to be a park adjacent to St. Philomena’s Catholic church, I began to ride my bicycle onto the pavement of the park. As I entered a gated area, I noticed that everyone in the park was in the middle of a baseball game. All men—burly, masculine men—stared at me, as if I didn’t belong there. Suddenly, I saw the signs on the fence: Police Academy, PRIVATE PROPERTY. I apologized with a grandiose “sorry” and quickly exited. But, to my dismay, one man who looked at me with hateful eyes, arrested me. When I got to the booking area, I was told that I had many priors and was being held because of suspicious behavior.

I searched my pocket for my IPhone to call the meanest and harshest lawyer friend I knew. Before she could arrive, I was led back to a cell, kicking and yelling. That’s when the dream ended. Before my father died, he told me that I was to carry his mantle, somewhat like “Joseph, and the Amazing Colored Dream Coat.” He said, “Now, it’s your turn to take care of your mother and four sisters!” My father didn’t ask me to begin this journey of responsibility. He simply gave it to me. Sure enough, after his death, I began to pick up the pieces of many lives in my family, including nieces and nephews, just as my father would have. So, who is wishing me a Happy Father’s Day? No one, actually, even though I have been surrogate dad for 11 years now.

As a student of Jung, I look at my dream as an archetype of my life. Each character in the dream represents a part of me. As symbolic of this dream-analyzing theory, I devised the epic dream in my mind to depict all different aspects of myself. (This is one way to look at the disturbing dream.) If this is the case, then not only do I feel judged for something I’m not responsible for, but I also feel as if I’m judging myself just as harshly as the world, perhaps, even harsher—as the picture of the hateful policeman.

One aspect of the dream I noticed was that I called for help and help didn’t arrive in time. Another aspect of this dream could be that I see the helper—God figure—as a mean and vengeful person who exacts revenge and also exonerates the accused. But, in my dream, no God arrived in time. I find this part of my dream to be the most interesting. I know that I have even shared with some friends lately that I feel Spirit God is purposely keeping me waiting for the sale of my house, because of some lesson that must learned before I leave for Florida. The dream certainly would parallel that truth in my own heart.

As for Daddy’s everywhere, I hope you are not the archetype of the judgmental men in my dream. I’m happy about this day that honors fathers. A father, in today’s harsh world, takes a valiant man, willing to watch a child fall down many times and learn hard lessons. Being a compassionate father, takes learning to let the world and spirit teach the hardest lessons to your child, and to keep your arms wide open for when your child realizes his/her mistakes. If this were the case in most families, we would have a lot less children hating parents and many more great Father Archetypes. Happy Father’s Day.

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Check out my new book: (New Promo YouTube Video—important for all GLBT friends: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z4yGU-MVCtQ ) Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior: http://www.amazon.com/Uncommon-Gay-Spiritual-Warrior-Authentic-ebook/dp/B00KPIVOIY/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1401708367&sr=8-1&keywords=uncommon+gay+spiritual+warrior .

I am moving to Southern Florida to begin a new small imprint publishing company called: Finding Authentic You Publishing: findingauthenticyoupublishing.com. I am accepting submissions now for my January 2015 bookshelf. If you or any friends are interested, please go to the website and read the submission guidelines. Thanks.
Finding Authentic You is my brand and is also a self-help guide, which I wrote, with 365 Discoveries, meant to aid you in facilitating some of life’s most difficult challenges, like sleep. But, the discoveries also lead you to what you believe spiritually, understanding your goals, learning to believe in your self, discovering the most distinct you, unlocking all of your negative thinking, and helping you replace it with positive, creative thought using many different modalities, including hypnosis, prayer, and psychology. Once you know yourself, then relationship with Spirit and people is a fairly easy task.

For much more information about finding out about the psychology of the human mind and being your authentic self, self-love, and self-esteem, check out my new book below. “Finding Authentic You” will answer many of the questions I propose above. The book also has many discoveries about health, both mental and physical, as well as spiritual discoveries to lead you to your highest and best! Thanks for being a part of my tribe and helping get this book and all of my media below into the right hands, helping the right hearts.

http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss_1?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=finding%20authentic%20you&sprefix=finding+%2Caps&rh=i%3Aaps%2Ck%3Afinding%20authentic%20you


Finding Authentic You: With 365 Daily Discoveries & 7 Steps to Effective Change

* Bo Sebastian is a Hypnotherapist and Life & Health Coach, available for private sessions to QUIT SMOKING, Lose Weight, New Lap-Band Hypnosis for Weight Loss, CHANGE YOUR MIND, CHANGE YOUR LIFE! at 615-445-8861 or http://bosebastian.com/Home_Page.php Please feel free to comment and/or sign up to receive your blog sent to you directly or stream with an RSS Feed. Please spread the word by liking the page or sharing this with your friends.