People Movin’ Out, People Movin’ In! #friendship #spiritualadvice #personalpower #newthought

Nothing makes me reflect on my life more than a death. Second to that, which is similar to death, a dear friend departing my life for no apparent reason.

After a breakup with my last partner, I haven’t seen him or heard from him for 2-3 years. Yesterday, a childhood friend who lived on the same street as me growing up in Beaver Falls, Pennsylvania, posted a picture on Facebook of her and her husband having dinner with her 25-year old son, daughter-in-law (two people I used to sing with in a band), and my ex holding hands with one of my first good friends in Nashville. It was not just a small picture; it was a huge picture that filled a third of my screen.

Double-take. What? How can this be?

I spent half of the morning trying to figure out how that picture came to be and how someone from my childhood could be that close to my ex in a picture! Honestly, I took the picture to my mother and sister and showed them the photo. They, too, were astonished. “What?” we all clamored.

My friend from childhood finally responded to an urgent email. It turns out that her daughter-in-law met my ex briefly through me. But my childhood friend had no idea how my ex and her family all became such good friends. I supposed I may never know. I’m okay with that. I mean, what business is it of mine?

I haven’t even thought about my ex for a couple of years, after he told me in the shower on Valentine’s day that he didn’t know if I was the right person for him and was moving out the next day. After that incident, I thought, he didn’t deserve my time or any space in my mind.

That evening, as I was discussing the day’s events with my prayer partner, we talked about what metaphor this event might be showing me. We decided that this picture was just a circumstance, perhaps a test to get my attention off of what was important to my life. The only person who could breathe life into any circumstance for me is actually ME. So, if I let go of making something of the picture, the circumstance would have no life. Also, if I need to know more, I will certainly know more.

I think about friendships and how they come and go quite so often. I am intrigued by the intricate weave of love and dissent that happens in life that pulls us in and then literally removes us from each other’s lives. We only find out later that all happened for a divine reason. Who is the master of this Divine Puppet Act? Are we socially responsible for what happens in the ether that has every meeting of the minds perfectly defined so that all will make sense?

I know this with certainty: In my life I have seen many people come and go. One time I had a best friend not return my calls for a long time. His wife told me that he didn’t want to speak with me. He never responded to my letters I wrote (1990s). But, later, after my best friend divorced his wife and had raised four children, I discover from Facebook again (thank-you Facebook) out that my friend’s wife had devised the entire ordeal. She intercepted my phone calls and my mail. He thought I simply gave up on our friendship.

After 20 years we are back to being good friends again. I don’t know if anything will make up for those lost years, but embracing him again after so many years felt like a divine relief. Why did this happen? Why was I supposed to lose my best and dearest friend for so long?

These kinds of things have happened over and over again to me. Most times, now, I simply shrug my shoulders and think, I’ll know when I know. We simply have to let the universe rotate crops, as it were.

We only have room for so many people in our lives. Perhaps, we have much more to understand, learn and accomplish than we think. It takes a village, sometimes, to learn a lesson. I think, in my case with friendships, it has taken three villages, a small city, and 10,000 friendships.

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My new book is coming out in just one month: “Your New Story, Your New Life” The Metaphysical Mind. If you want to be the first to read this story, sign up for the launch mailing list at mailto:BoSebastian5@gmail.com.

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Are you in need of Life or Spiritual Coaching? I've been a life coach and clinical hypnotherapist and minister of New Thought for 25 years. I do my sessions online, so you can even have your session in bed, so that you can go directly to sleep during the hypnosis session. You must have a laptop or a notebook to do these sessions, either on Skype or Facetime. You give me a call at 954-253-6493. My fee is $95 for an hour.

You can find all of my Books by Category at http://www.bosebastian.com/new-page/ All of these books have been birthed from my own spiritual growth. I guarantee you'll enjoy how each will help you maintain a positive mind, body, and spirit. Also, if you click on the Amazon site, you'll see all of my 15 book— Cookbooks, Novels, Self-Help Books, a Yoga DVD! All great gifts from your friend—Bo Sebastian. Simply go to this link at www.Amazon.com or type in my name. Find great gifts for yourself, family members, and friends by supporting another friend in the process! Thank you.

* * *

A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian

What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]

The Power of the Mind to Create Anew #releasingthepast #spiritualadvice #personalpower #newthought

We all have spent many hours reliving and recapitulating the past, coupled with hopelessness and regret. The past never changes. No matter how many times we go back to revisit it, we still find the same skeletons hanging there, speaking into the hollowness of the hallways of our brains. So, how can we use the power of our mind to change the desire to revisit this negative past?

The truth is in our creative abilities. We can only release the past by building a present and a future that holds our attention captive with hope and joy. Here is a very pertinent example in my own life that will act as a metaphor for this change:

Last night I opened my computer and noticed that the Trash wouldn’t work. For some strange reason the trash can, which usually resembles a gray garbage can was just a white object that had no details. I tried to throw away a document, but it just bounced back to my desktop.

I decided to Google the problem and see if there was an easy fix. The Apple Forum said to run a general software cleaning program and see if the problem would be resolved. I ran the program and nothing changed. The next step was to create a new user and see if the problem still existed as a new user.

This was where the process became interesting. When I created a new Bo—a Bo 2.0—everything changed. My desktop was sparkling, clear, had no new documents on the desktop and looked as if I had a new computer. The program software was all there, but there was nothing in the trash and nothing in my temporary storage. I was completely wiped clean of the past, the present, and was completely free to create any new future I desired.

I went to the cloud and copied to my new desktop only the documents that I was working on NOW, would work on in the very near future, and documents I used daily. The rest of the clutter I left on the Cloud and in the old user’s desktop. Now, when I open up my Bo 2.0 User, I have a brand new identity with only the parts of my past that serve me.

I’m sure you can see the pertinence of this story. But, one very important aspect of this metaphor needs some extra light. The entire process started by my Trash not working. What could this mean metaphorically about my own ability to process and throw away trash (the past)?

I believe the reason all of this happened with my computer, and everything happens in our lives is because—to the person who is awake to the stories life tells us every moment—there is always a great metaphor to help us through our problems and issues.

I realized that I was having trouble really letting go of the past. I had thought I had emptied the trash many times, but there was still residual problems left there, This was likened to the forensic investigator able to retrieve the shadows of the past from any computer. I had to find a way to cleanse the past completely.

This new idea about starting with a fresh identity has helped me today to quit dragging old thoughts and ideas into my present situation. I must stop seeing the present through the lens of the past. The lens of the past only makes my life harder to visualize in a peaceful and harmonious place. Today, everything is new.

I hope this helps you today.

I attribute the majority of this success to my commitment to using the theories of Creative Mind that culminates in learning to pray effectively, using your words creatively, and being thankful for all that you already have. I have outlined this intricately in my new book, Your New Story, Your New Life, coming out in 2-3 weeks, worldwide from Hope & Plum Book Publishing.

Soon, you will find a letter in your Facebook or E-mail inbox inviting you to have your own copy of this important book, not only written with my heart, but actually IS the story of my heart growing immeasurably in the past two years.

Love to all of you and thank you for all of your support in advance. xox Bo

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My new book is coming out in just one month: “Your New Story, Your New Life” The Metaphysical Mind. If you want to be the first to read this story, sign up for the launch mailing list at mailto:BoSebastian5@gmail.com.

***

Are you in need of Life or Spiritual Coaching? I've been a life coach and clinical hypnotherapist and minister of New Thought for 25 years. I do my sessions online, so you can even have your session in bed, so that you can go directly to sleep during the hypnosis session. You must have a laptop or a notebook to do these sessions, either on Skype or Facetime. You can give me a call at 954-253-6493. My fee is $95 for an hour.

You can find all of my Books by Category at http://www.bosebastian.com/new-page/ All of these books have been birthed from my own spiritual growth. I guarantee you'll enjoy how each will help you maintain a positive mind, body, and spirit. Also, if you click on the Amazon site, you'll see all of my 15 book— Cookbooks, Novels, Self-Help Books, a Yoga DVD! All great gifts from your friend—Bo Sebastian. Simply go to this link at www.Amazon.com or type in my name. Find great gifts for yourself, family members, and friends by supporting another friend in the process! Thank you.

* * *

A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian

What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]

Why Do We Keep Making the Same Mistakes in Relationships? #relationshipadvice #psychology #spiritualadvice #lifecoach

Nothing feels more like a failure as when you set out to make a correct, well-thought-out decision. You decide on your intent and a pragmatic schedule of how, when, and where you will embark on your new idea. You even meditate about it, feeling as if you have done your best to decrease the likelihood of failure by taking it to prayer. Yet, often you sit in the same cesspool of tears wondering how you could have made the same exact mistake again—different characters, same plot, new relationship!

Everyday, you laugh at your decreasing desire to even try in relationship. Even opening your heart to one feel as if it takes too much energy. You have found amazing people with hearts of gold, and yet something, somehow, takes the relationship somewhere other than where you desire. You pray and treat for it and believe with all of your heart, defying all of your fear of the anxiety of the past? Yes, yes, and yes again.

Once again, though, you find yourself standing at the grave of yet another relationship that has morphed into a beautiful friendship, but not the intimate one you prayed for. What is left to do but release and let go?

This morning, as I meditated, I used a mantra that a psychologist and minister gave me two years ago:

“Relationship is what it is, not what I make of it.”

Personally, I have NOT lost hope that a loving, long-abiding, intimate relationship could happen for me. How and from where, I have no idea. I simply know this much:

1. I am open to it.
2. When I see it, I will know the right questions to ask so that I won’t make the same mistakes again.
3. I will follow the path to intimacy slowly, despite any sexual desire.
4. I will become friends and prayer partners before I miss the opportunity, and the relationship flows into a dream space of loving intimacy that seems to block out all sense.

Relationship is, at best, the hardest human conundrum. The reason this is so is because it takes more than just 100% of your work. It relies on 100% of someone else’s work, which you cannot—even if you try—control. If you are comfortable with the idea that you must control every part of your life, the likelihood of right relationship happening for you is probably not going to happen very soon. My best friends and family who are in relationship all suffer from the same problems as single people do, interestingly enough, loneliness, anger, desperation, and intimacy issues, as well.

No one person can solve your intimate problems. You must get comfortable with yourself, love spending time with you, and cherish and honor the peace that “no relationship” offers at this point in your life. Peace over drama wins every time.

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This year, if you desire to commit to a change for a New Year’s Resolution, do it with your MIND first. Remember, as in the title of my new book coming out just in time to help you with this (in March)… lol… that all change happens in your mind, first. You must change your Old Story, to make a consistent and long lasting change in Your Life.

Please be looking for “YOUR NEW STORY, YOUR NEW LIFE, Unlock Your Seven Spiritual Discoveries” in bookstores and in online bookstores in May or June of 2016!

***

Are you in need of Life or Spiritual Coaching? I've been a life coach and clinical hypnotherapist and minister of New Thought for 25 years. I do my sessions online, so you can even have your session in bed, so that you can go directly to sleep during the hypnosis session. You must have a laptop or a notebook to do these sessions, either on Skype or Facetime. You can give me a call at 954-253-6493. My fee is $95 for an hour.

You can find all of my Books by Category at http://www.bosebastian.com/new-page/ All of these books have been birthed from my own spiritual growth. I guarantee you'll enjoy how each will help you maintain a positive mind, body, and spirit. Also, if you click on the Amazon site, you'll see all of my 15 book— Cookbooks, Novels, Self-Help Books, a Yoga DVD! All great gifts from your friend—Bo Sebastian. Simply go to this link at www.Amazon.com or type in my name. Find great gifts for yourself, family members, and friends by supporting another friend in the process! Thank you.

* * *

A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian

What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]

Hoʻoponopono and the Slight Edge: “I Love You, but I Don’t Like You” #marriage #spiritualgrowth #poweroftouch #spiritualadvice

How many couples do you know who go through their days with the motto: “I love you, but I don’t like you”? I have a few couple friends who haggle their way through life with spats about almost everything. It’s always the same fight or similar. They don’t even realize that their bickering happens automatically, in front of their friends, their families, and most importantly their kids, who share the same tendency. They cannot seem to agree on a single thing. In fact, often each of them will automatically take the opposite side of an issue, simply out of habit.

There is a psychological theory called the Slight Edge. Basically, it states that there are very small things we do each day in life that literally make no mental or physical difference in our lives. But, when we continue to do them—day-in and day-out—they accumulate to cause dysfunction and disease. For instance: If you don’t brush your teeth for one day, this is a small infraction. But, if you continually miss that all-important appointment for dental health, your teeth will rot.

The same holds true with these small spats. Once in a while, yes, we will be in a bad mood and take it out on the person we love the most. However, if we let this infraction become a habit and the mainframe of everyday with the partner we have chosen to cherish, honor, and love, our relationship will deteriorate.

In Hawaii, an ancient reconciliation and forgiveness practice is called Hoʻoponopono (ho-o-pono-pono). When something like this spat occurs, simply say this small phrase: “I love you. I’m Sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you.” Say it every time. Say it to the person. Then say it to yourself.

Say it before you begin the fight. Say it when you remember you’re fighting. Stop the insanity of your constant bickering!

It serves no one.

It is that Slight Edge that, if it continues, will slowly deteriorate your relationship to nothing.

Do you really want that? (Share if you agree!)

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This year, if you desire to commit to a change for a New Year’s Resolution, do it with your MIND first. Remember, as in the title of my new book coming out just in time to help you with this (in March)… lol… that all change happens in your mind, first. You must change your Old Story, to make a consistent and long lasting change in Your Life.

Please be looking for “YOUR NEW STORY, YOUR NEW LIFE, Unlock Your Seven Spiritual Discoveries” in bookstores and in online bookstores in March or April 2016!

***

Are you in need of Life or Spiritual Coaching? I've been a life coach and clinical hypnotherapist and minister of New Thought for 25 years. I do my sessions online, so you can even have your session in bed, so that you can go directly to sleep during the hypnosis session. You must have a laptop or a notebook to do these sessions, either on Skype or Facetime. You can give me a call at 954-253-6493. My fee is $95 for an hour.

You can find all of my Books by Category at http://www.bosebastian.com/new-page/ All of these books have been birthed from my own spiritual growth. I guarantee you'll enjoy how each will help you maintain a positive mind, body, and spirit. Also, if you click on the Amazon site, you'll see all of my 15 book— Cookbooks, Novels, Self-Help Books, a Yoga DVD! All great gifts from your friend—Bo Sebastian. Simply go to this link at www.Amazon.com or type in my name. Find great gifts for yourself, family members, and friends by supporting another friend in the process! Thank you.

* * *

A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian

What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]

When Love Stays: Even After You Break Up #relationships #relationshipadvice #spiritualadvice #divorce

More than any emotional issue, the break-up is the most difficult. Countless clients end up at my doorstep working on the residual effects and tying up the loose ends of lost love. Difficult does not even begin to describe the kinds of trauma ending any relationship can bring up in your life. But, how do we begin to deal with this kind of loss?

The best advice I have ever been told, when it comes to dealing with loss is this:

When we begin to grieve the loss of a love, we are actually grieving over what could have been, more than the actual relationship. Divorce brings up every relationship you have ever lost—all at the same time, which is why it becomes so overwhelming. Your loss becomes a compilation of all the lost love at the same time, which is often why break-ups become more intense the older you get.

If you go the route of psychology, human behavior science suggests that every person goes through 5-7 stages of grief:

• SHOCK & DENIAL
• PAIN & GUILT
• ANGER & BARGAINING
• "DEPRESSION", REFLECTION, LONELINESS
• THE UPWARD TURN
• RECONSTRUCTION & WORKING THROUGH
• ACCEPTANCE & HOPE (recover-from-grief.com, 2016)

If you take the Spiritual Truth route and use Spiritual Mind Treatment, you are likely to still go through all the stages of human grief, but you will go through them quickly, because you have done your work. What I have found in my own life is that loss becomes easier when you truly deal with the symptoms of loss and your own anxious behavior around love.

The last time a relationship did not work out in my life, I do not even remember crying. It was as if I had already done the crying over the worst loss in my life (when my mother left her six children at my age of 8), which led to anxious attachment in all subsequent relationships. I know my truth and what want from an intimate relationship. So, when one does not work out, I trust that it was the wrong one. I trust the NOW and Spirit, which is the Truth I’ve been working on all along.

Spiritual Mind Treatment would suggest that we build on the Truth that we know and have taught our minds to live, not just think. When we feel emotions come up, we call on the Source of Truth within the universe to lead us to an even greater Truth. We begin to recognize that this greater Truth is worth the lesson of any pain that human relationships could trigger in us. This is what I have learned:

Those who Spirit has called to be together, stay together. When it is time for some relationships to end, we must let them go, because we are making room for another, better, bigger, more loving relationship to fulfill us in ways we could never expect.

The same God that created the universe, created you out of an abundance of love. No love is ever lost.

The Spirit of God in Me cannot and will not REJECT the Spirit of God in You.

It is an impossibility. So, if you wait long enough, usually you can look back at the lost love and understand the reason it had to go in another direction. Sometimes, we are fortunate enough to see that person in another relationship and realize this was not our dream. Or maybe we can see that their happiness was not contingent upon us being in their life. That, too, is a gift. Love for anyone is always better than bitterness and pain.

You see, we must resolve our own pain around relationship, because our work here on earth is about bringing positive energy on to the Earth. If we get stymied by personal relationships, we will never learn to be the Spiritual Beings we are meant to be. My guess is that this is why the Apostle Paul felt so strongly about staying single. He knew how much energy personal relationship took and was more willing to do the work of Spirit than of his own humanness.

I’m a believer of balance, so I still believe that personal relationship could exist for you and me. But still, I haven’t been fortunate enough to find a spiritual friend who is also an intimate partner. Perhaps, one day, I will find one. But, even at 55 years old, I am not prepared to struggle anymore for ephemeral human relationship that has caused more loss of joy than anything else in my life. If relationship happens, it happens. I’m good with that now, which also makes opening my heart to the idea of love even easier. I do not bring my emotional baggage to each relationship and force the other person involved to help me resolve my problems. I take my psychological problems to practitioners who are trained to help me, instead of bringing smelly garbage into someone else’s life who does not deserve it.

I hope this helps those who are in any stage of grief over loss. You will get through it. You will get through even faster if you continue to confess the Truth of what you know about love!

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This year, if you desire to commit to a change for a New Year’s Resolution, do it with your MIND first. Remember, as in the title of my new book coming out just in time to help you with this (in March)… lol… that all change happens in your mind, first. You must change your Old Story, to make a consistent and long lasting change in Your Life.

Please be looking for “YOUR NEW STORY, YOUR NEW LIFE, Unlock Your Seven Spiritual Discoveries” in bookstores and in online bookstores in March or April 2016!

***

Are you in need of Life or Spiritual Coaching? I've been a life coach and clinical hypnotherapist and minister of New Thought for 25 years. I do my sessions online, so you can even have your session in bed, so that you can go directly to sleep during the hypnosis session. You must have a laptop or a notebook to do these sessions, either on Skype or Facetime. You can give me a call at 954-253-6493. My fee is $95 for an hour.

You can find all of my Books by Category at http://www.bosebastian.com/new-page/ All of these books have been birthed from my own spiritual growth. I guarantee you'll enjoy how each will help you maintain a positive mind, body, and spirit. Also, if you click on the Amazon site, you'll see all of my 15 book— Cookbooks, Novels, Self-Help Books, a Yoga DVD! All great gifts from your friend—Bo Sebastian. Simply go to this link at www.Amazon.com or type in my name. Find great gifts for yourself, family members, and friends by supporting another friend in the process! Thank you.

* * *

A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian

What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: 

Finding Authentic You #authenticity #love #spiritualadvice #livingtruth

Living an authentic life takes practice, mostly because we all have learned to live according to the ideas and social etiquette of the world. Finding what you really feel can often take silence and peaceful moments to go inside and discover the real you. This is the reason I suggest practice, even though in most cases you would think true authenticity would actually sound like a contraindication to contemplation. In all actuality, finding your authentic self comes from asking yourself the hard questions—the ones that take time and thought to answer. The questions I recommend are below:

1. What’s happening here? What am I really feeling?
2. What can I do to get my ego out of the way for this lesson to come forth in my life?
3. Is there a greater good that could be happening here that I cannot see?

You might look at these questions and think that they seem simple. But, when you apply them to a painful experience, you may feel otherwise. For instance, you may wake up one day feeling that you have found the love of your life or the perfect job. By the end of the day, the relationship or job has all but disintegrated. You step slowly away from the point of change and wonder how life could have transformed so much in so little time. This is the moment for the practice of authenticity.

The last time this kind of changing event happened to me, my man friend had told me he loved me. One week later, when I was on top of the world, he told me that he wanted to also begin seeing other people. Of course, that was not fine with me, and I broke up with him.

On the way home from his house, I had to ask myself the questions above, talking to myself as if I were a wise counselor who understood the truth and was sharing it with my human ego. I felt as far away from God as I could have ever felt in that moment. However, by the time I reached my own home, I experienced peace—something completely different. This is what I did to achieve the change.

I asked myself the first questions. What am I feeling? What is happening here? To answer authentically, I had to know my truth. I had to understand that I was one with the Eternal Spirit that had created me and, also, created my man friend (that was the difficult part). We each were learning specific lessons. I didn’t know what Luis was learning, but I could be certain that if I opened my mind, I would discover what I was to learn, as I got out of the way of my own ego emotions.

I realized that what was coming up for me was rejection. I ultimately felt: not good enough, handsome enough, buff enough to keep a good man. But, when I began to share the truth about Who I Am with myself, I realized that if I am made of God, and Luis is made of God; we ultimately could not be rejecting each other, because cannot reject God. If we were not rejecting each other, then we were in each other’s life to teach each other a lesson. What was that lesson?

I focused in on that very thing for the rest of the evening. Interestingly, I did not shed one tear during the process. I knew inside that my life would be just fine without him. I was more angry at his choice than sad about my life. I felt deceived and rightfully so. But, what Luis did was not my concern. What I felt, what I believed, what I would do with the situation was all mine with which to grow. And grow is exactly what I did.

So, today, your lesson is to look for the good in all situations. Ask yourself the three questions above and listen in the silence for the answers. Your entire life will change as you implement this process of self-talk.

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This year, if you desire to commit to a change for a New Year’s Resolution, do it with your MIND first. Remember, as in the title of my new book coming out just in time to help you with this (in January)… lol… that all change happens in your mind, first. You must change your Old Story, to make a consistent and long lasting change in Your Life.

Please be looking for “YOUR NEW STORY, YOUR NEW LIFE, Unlock Your Seven Spiritual Discoveries” in bookstores and in online bookstores in January 2016!

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Are you in need of Life or Spiritual Coaching? I've been a life coach and clinical hypnotherapist and minister of New Thought for 25 years. I do my sessions online, so you can even have your session in bed, so that you can go directly to sleep during the hypnosis session. You must have a laptop or a notebook to do these sessions, either on Skype or Facetime. You can give me a call at 954-253-6493. My fee is $95 for an hour.

You can find all of my Books by Category at http://www.bosebastian.com/new-page/ All of these books have been birthed from my own spiritual growth. I guarantee you'll enjoy how each will help you maintain a positive mind, body, and spirit. Also, if you click on the Amazon site, you'll see all of my 15 book— Cookbooks, Novels, Self-Help Books, a Yoga DVD! All great gifts from your friend—Bo Sebastian. Simply go to this link at www.Amazon.com or type in my name. Find great gifts for yourself, family members, and friends by supporting another friend in the process! Thank you.

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A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian

What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]

50 Shades of Bo Sex vs. Intimacy #bondage #relationshipadvice #spirituality #fetishes #masterslave #gaymarriage

I watched Fifty Shades of Grey last night and actually came away feeling empowered. Why? Because—spoiler alert—the lovely ingénue of the movie (Anastasia, played by Dakota Johnson) walked away from what looked to be the perfect lifestyle and a loving man to take back the one thing her “master” needed of her to be happy—her personal power. And what was Grey, the master, left with? A deep-seated mental disease, a strong detachment disorder, and a sadness that no amount of domination could satisfy.

Yes, the movie spoke the truth about fetishes and dominance. Though, they may be intriguing and sexually satisfying for many people, they also reveal a deep misalignment in the brain’s wiring that would prohibit many from accepting pure love. Sexual fantasy is and probably will always be the easiest way to accept mental detachment from the past, because it allows the person to convert attachment disorder into sexual pleasure. Though it may seem harmless, in the end, it is a smokescreen, at best.

My last relationship actually broke up after I fell in love, lived with, and had a seemingly great relationship with a man who was willing to forgo love for a fetish. His desire seemed simple and harmless—a foot fetish—but in the end, it was either the fetish or love. He rejected what he considered the best relationship of his life for a pathway into gratifying the needs of the misfiring in his brain from childhood trauma.

Three years ago on Valentine’s Day, I had the rare opportunity to see the effects of this dominance on the brain in someone I had loved and wanted to marry. The answer was simple for him. It was either he got to live inside his fetish or release love completely—there was no in between. He chose the fetish. His choice was very sad for me, and I often wonder if he ever had any regrets about his choice. Unfortunately, after two happy years, he left the day after, collected his things, and I never heard from him again.

The only thing I did see, a few weeks after he left, was a profile of him on a dating site that explained a great deal. It said: “Looking for a dominant male, foot fetish, master-slave relationship.” Honestly, no one would have believed it of him, unless, of course, they were privy to this profile and our soaking wet conversation in the shower, when he broke up with me.

I do not share this story for anyone to feel sad. I share it because of the empowerment I finally gained from watching a movie I never thought I would enjoy. Sometimes… most times, understanding and compassion comes from the most unlikely sources. This, indeed, was the case for me.

If you begin dating someone, and they happen to mention in passing about fetishes or fantasies that they want to happen (3-ways, foot fetish, master slave, being tied up), this inherently speaks of deep-seated, unresolved mental issues that have resulted in and expressed as sexuality.

This is an FYI for those who are dating. The more you know about the cues people give you in the getting-to-know-you phase of the relationship, the more you are apt to say, “Hey, this just ain’t for me.”

I wish I had known this five years ago. It would have saved me two years of my life.

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This year, if you desire to commit to a change for a New Year’s Resolution, do it with your MIND first. Remember, as in the title of my new book coming out just in time to help you with this (inJanuary)… lol… that all change happens in your mind, first. You must change your Old Story, to make a consistent and long lasting change in Your Life.

Please be looking for “YOUR NEW STORY, YOUR NEW LIFE, Unlock Your Seven Spiritual Discoveries” in bookstores and in online bookstores in January 2016!

***

Are you in need of Life or Spiritual Coaching? I've been a life coach and clinical hypnotherapist and minister of New Thought for 25 years. I do my sessions online, so you can even have your session in bed, so that you can go directly to sleep during the hypnosis session. You must have a laptop or a notebook to do these sessions, either on Skype or Facetime. You can give me a call at 954-253-6493. My fee is $95 for an hour.

You can find all of my Books by Category at http://www.bosebastian.com/new-page/ All of these books have been birthed from my own spiritual growth. I guarantee you'll enjoy how each will help you maintain a positive mind, body, and spirit. Also, if you click on the Amazon site, you'll see all of my 15 book— Cookbooks, Novels, Self-Help Books, a Yoga DVD! All great gifts from your friend—Bo Sebastian. Simply go to this link at www.Amazon.com or type in my name. Find great gifts for yourself, family members, and friends by supporting another friend in the process! Thank you.

* * *

A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian

What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completedyou trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]