Power of Unwavering Trust
What does it take to have faith in someone so much, that you
would trust him/her with your life? Trust is uniquely shown, not spoken. Trust
comes from years of faith, not months. Trust is weighed on each decision that
you both make together and comes out with a balanced answer.
I can think of only two people in the entire world that I
would trust with my life. Their friendships have been vastly proven over the
years. I have so much unwavering trust with each of them that I have given each
of them the right to make the call if I were to be on life support.
First, I am thinking of my best friend Keith. Over the years
he has shown me that no matter what happens to me, no matter what I’ve done,
good or bad, he is not going to judge. He has proven over and over that he
wants the best for me and my family. Because of this, I feel as if he is my
flesh and blood brother. He is invited to every family function, because I am
not the only one in my family who feels this way about him. My mother considers
him her son. My sisters think of him as a brother and can call him if they need
a ride from the airport. They have leaned on him in times of despair.
My point being, trust is two-fold. You must have unwavering
trust, but you must also seek to find someone whom others trust as well to get
the complete package. If you can trust someone and other people don’t trust
him/her, that says something about your personal relationship with that person.
It means that the inherent trust built between you isn’t based on the character
of the person, but on how that person feels about you.
In my estimation, that kind of relationship has the capacity
to shatter. My life has proven that face a few times. Someone I felt like I
could trust with my life did not make a good impression on my other friends. In
fact, my friends would sometimes tell me that she was rude to them.
I have a rule in life—and you can find this in most of my
books—with amount of compassion
and care your friend treats a waiter or a garbage man or a person on the street,
that same ratio of compassion is going to be in your relationship at some
point. So, with trust, always look to the person’s character first.
Relationships and likes and dislikes are contingent upon the inevitable disagreement.
Sometimes those disagreements turn out to be life changing and friendship
rejecting. Trust is built on character.
The other person in my life that I feel I can totally trust
is my baby sister Lori. If you can believe this, we are fifty years into our
relationship and have never had a fight or a disagreement. She has proven many
times that her compassion for other people is considerable. With family, we get
to see the underlying person and all the faults as well as the good. There is
no hiding anything within blood relatives. So, if she can endure the test of
truth and compassion under the family’s critical eye, she can probably retain my
complete trust as well.
We went through my dad’s death together and the dispersal of
his belongings. She was the Executrix of the Will, and she asked me to help her
with some of the harder parts of my dad’s wishes. One of the most difficult
challenges was the fact that my dad didn’t want some of his belonging to be
given to one brother and one sister. Despite his wishes, Lori still gave each
of them an equal amount of money from her own joint account that she shared
with my dad. I don’t believe either of my siblings know that, even now. I
thought her decision alone to share what was hers was enough to see that she
had deep compassion beyond our familial connection. But through the years she
has nurtured our friendship and been there at every turn for me. That is worthy
of that my unwavering trust.
As you can see by my own account of life, I have had many
friends come and go. I have had many family members treat me well sometimes and
other times not. But the one thing for certain about trust is that it must be
unwavering for it to be true. So, those times in marriages when people break
the bond of trust with moments of passion, they sacrifice a great deal to their
own hearts and decimate the bond of love that will truly never be the same.
I hope I keep that truth safely in my heart as I venture out
into new and loving personal relationships.
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Bo Sebastian is a Hypnotherapist and Life & Health
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