Recurring #Dreams: What Do They Mean?

For the past thirty years I have had a recurring dream about being in a high school. Sometimes, I cannot find my locker. Other times, I cannot remember the combination of my locker. A few times, I’m late for class. Many times, I’m just simply lost in the hallways, not able to get to class. But the permeating and consistent factor in this recurring dream is being in a high school. So, the questions is: Why does this dream follow me in every path of my life and, even more so, why has it continued over the years?

Dreams are simply metaphor. Some times the metaphors are stronger than other times. This particular metaphor, for me, is a life long lesson, one that should spark a concerted effort to understand its significance. If I don’t listen, I’ll continually hear from my own subconscious mind (or from Spirit), until I learn the much-needed lesson.

The answer to the recurring dream is usually in the next episode of the dream. This morning, I had a vision during my meditation that I was in a NEW high school, a place where I had to ask the location of the principal’s office. The school, also, had a medical ward in one annex of the building, with surgeons and astute professors. Let’s break the dream down together and see if you can understand how to make sense of your own recurring dreaming patterns.

Many spiritual teachers believe that the earth is a big school for our spirits. I would have to say, this is also a personal belief. So, when I dream of a school, the metaphor usually has to do with some aspect of life in which I’m learning. For a long time, I dreamed of high schools. One day in my late forties, I found myself in a college atmosphere. I woke up amazed and proud, as if I had graduated from a twenty-year stay in high school.

However, the school that presented itself in my dream this morning was a teaching school, much like Vanderbilt University, connected to a hospital, for practitioners and doctors in training. Everything was new, very much like my different and brand new atmosphere in Southern Florida. The situation was simple to decipher.

However, one part of the dream had me walking into a professor’s office. She asked me to get her a cup of coffee. I told her that I wasn’t a worker or an assistant. I was a student. Getting her coffee wasn’t one of my duties. However, I got her a cup of coffee out of the kindness of my heart. She looked at me with a perplexed stare then ordered the next person who passed her to do something else.

This person, was the primary character of the dream, which means, usually, that this is part of my own personality presenting itself in an observer way for me to see a part of myself I’m not privy to. However, my personal belief is that in recurring dreams, the main character plays a different role. He or she usually is the only part of the recurring dream that actually changes. So, its significance is paramount in understanding the dream.

Let’s look at the attributes of this arrogant character. This was an older woman. She didn’t have an understanding of how to treat a subordinate. She was bossy. Though she may have been there to teach me, personally, she acted as if I were her slave. She didn’t pay attention to me. And, though she was mean, I still was nice to her.

When I look at all of these attributes, I immediately think of my family and dynamics with my mother, right now. Our school is our current situation in life. Mine happens to be living with, and around, most of my family members, for the first time in thirty years. Some of my family is bossy. Some think they can order me around. A couple are angels, but usually get stepped on by the others. Some just simply ignore what anyone has to say.

So, this dream appears to be telling me that I should beware that this new school has the ability to either incapacity me with frustration, as family members do whatever they want without my approval or desire. And, if I’m to learn to be a student in this school, I had better find the clear path to the principal’s office, which means the place where the rules are made! In this case, I believe that the principal’s office means that I need to make some clear boundaries; otherwise, I will not be happy in this place in my life.

I hope this helps you to look at some recurring dreams you may have had in your life.

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Wait… Wait… Not Yet… Just a Little Longer #relationshipadvice #relationship

If you have ever baked a quiche or a pumpkin pie, you probably have said the words in the title a few times to yourself; especially, if you had baked one before, and you anxiously completed baking before the middle was all the way cooked. The art of baking either of these two pies takes some patience and testing to make sure that the center is done just right and the crust is not burnt. Viola! You finally get it right, and it’s more delectable than you could have imagined.

Life and our dreams are much like waiting for that pie to get done in the middle. Life takes patience. Dreams take endurance and a well thought-out game plan that you will not diverge from, no matter what temptations come up.

For instance, you decide that what you really want is a long-term, monogamous relationship. In the midst of sorting through all the dates and profiles of men or women on the Internet, you meet a couple of people who are gorgeous, but don’t believe morally or spiritually the same way you do. What would you do in a case like this? Would you go out with him/her anyway, just to satisfy the deep-seated need to be touched or kissed? Or would you wait for the entire picture to be right—the center—the core beliefs to be in conjunction with yours?

I have been on a quest to find a good person to date, perhaps, someone with which to enter into a long-term relationship. However, I have to tell you, if you have never been to Southern Florida, you must know that everywhere you look there is a beautiful face and an even more perfectly cut body. It’s as if God took all the beautiful people and put half of them in one place. You can imagine the temptation here.

I’ve noticed that the gay men are very tentative to even go on dates, because most of them have been burned by infidelity or mistrust. I finally understand, even though I’ve only been here a couple of weeks. The path to finding an authentic relationship is laden with temptation. So, I keep telling myself wait… wait… just a little longer! Believe me, it’s hard to wait.

I’ve had four very handsome men talk to me for quite some time on Match.com. None of them are anxious to meet. Every time I say something about getting together, each of them puts it off a little longer. The dudes I’m not so interested in are very quick to want to get together. The good ones are either securely or avoidantly attachment, because they have been hurt in the past. My spirit says to let go of my anxiousness for each of them to answer phone calls and messages, and see who rises to the top with the most ready and secure attachment! This, of course, takes patience. I have to learn, once again, how to reel in my desires to be close and have someone like a best friend to do activities with and be intimate, because I know that the real, securely-attached person may still have his/her own issues to resolve. Sometimes the wait isn’t for our own good. Sometimes the wait if for the pie to get done in the center!

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Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle: ]

The Art of Waiting

Nothing is more frustrating in life than having to wait. We wait on the phone for service, sometimes for hours to get help with our cable, our computers, and general customer service. We wait for doctors, for late friends, and for our cars to be ready from service. However, it seems that the place we need to be most adept at waiting is with our own dreams. We get disparaged at the first roadblocks, so much so, sometimes, that we are knocked off course completely. We get frustrated with waiting for our own dreams to manifest, and, yet, we don’t hesitate to stay on hold for hours with customer service in India to get our cable fixed. Something is wrong with this picture.

I realized this in my own life as I meditated this morning. Blissful meditation after blissful meditation, I still wake up anxious for all that I see in my dreams to appear before me. I don’t think anything in life is like magic. What has been in the oven baking, after being carefully prepared by you, is simply ready when it’s ready. The prepared dish seems a surprise because the timer goes off, and we forgot we had already done all of the work. There was nothing magical about how long you worked for your dream.

I remember a time when I got my first publication deal. The news came like a surprise out of the sky; however, I had been writing diligently four novels before it happened. But, I hadn’t planned for this particular publishing deal. I had been hoping one of my novels would be published. But, I’m not so sure Spirit works the way we think It does. We prepare and pray and dream about something specifically. But, God is working to answer our prayers in a nonspecific way. Perhaps, the mountain that you’ve been waiting to be moved is down the street from the one you keep watching.

I used to say that Spirit answered my prayers about finance in unusual ways. I would find many people wanting to trade services for things I needed to pay for. One year, I added up the amount I would have had to pay for services and it was $8000—including dentistry, tree service, maid service, yard work, and even roof repair. This is Spirit working in ways unexpected, which we need to recognize in all areas of our lives—especially relationships.

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen a friend moan about not having an intimate relationship in his/her life, when the best friend is in love and would be the perfect mate. We have to learn to pray without boundaries. When you pray, let your prayer be: “Spirit, however you see fit, fill this need! In the unfettered abundance of Your universe, show me direction! I can’t see my future through my humanness, so show me the way with the eyes of Spirit!” When we learn to let go of our expectation and wait on the Lord, we will be filled beyond our belief.

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#Perfectionism: Polishing Doorknobs #sytycd #realitytv

I have known people who are so meticulous about cleaning that they even will polish a doorknob or two, just to give the room an added shimmer. I can’t imagine having enough time in a day or the care to do such a meaningless action. Yet some, especially when trying to sell a home or get a room ready for a big party, will go to the nth degree to give their place that perfect look. I’m more apt to be the dude who will put something front and center that is absolutely imperfect—like a chipped vase—because I don’t think anyone feels comfortable in perfection.

I watched the performance finale of “So You Think You Can Dance,” last night. The producers showcased each of the four finalists with a five-minute autobiographical segment of their journeys to get to the finals. One young man who has had nothing but praise the entire season shared that his journey was more difficult in the process, because he has had to live up to perfection every show. From the first audition, I kept thinking Ricky would be the winner. However, now that I had watched the last dances, I’m beginning to wonder if America would settle on an underdog instead of the frontrunner.

If you watch any reality television that includes some kind of talent contest, America tends to always pick a person who has been less than perfect, rather than spot on. Have you ever thought about why the guy or girl who cracked or sang flat when singing her last song usually wins over the person who was perfect?

Who can relate to perfection? If you have had a narcissistic guardian or teacher in your past, you may think that perfection is the goal. But, when the time comes down to choosing the person who most deserves to win, we will all pick a contestant who has grown in the contest and who is less than perfect, because we can relate. You’ve heard the Salvador Dali quote, “Have no fear of perfection; you’ll never reach it!” That’s you! That’s me!

When you settle in to the idea that perfection isn’t the goal in your life, you may consider a more attainable goal: PEACE! Joy! Truth! Passion! All of these choices require authenticity, but not perfection.

When I sit down to meditate, I don’t have a goal in mind. I simply desire for quiet and to download some of God’s awesome insight into my mind. When I seek for Joy, I simply reach into my heart for what would make me happy in any particular moment. When I search for truth, I let the universe reveal it in the metaphors of life. And, finally, when I live for passion, I don’t start off aggressive and teeming with desire; I begin a slow course in discovery of something or someone new. In this mysterious unveiling, passion comes without my help.

So, today, choose to polish something worth shining. Begin to take off those cobwebs on your social and spiritual life. Chip off the corrosion that keeps the door hinges to your happiness and joy from opening wide to your bountiful and delicious life!

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Dealing with #Frustration

Day-to-day life is often rife with frustrating decisions and conundrums aplenty, as the world around happens. Instead of getting caught up in the mire, we must push our way through the crowded mass of energy and people to even get through our to-do lists.

For example, today, I was supposed to get up at 7 a.m. with my sister; she was to follow me to the automotive shop to get my car fixed; then take me home with her. Together, we were going to deliver my mother to her doctor’s appointment at 11 a.m. and then pick up my car, hopefully, with the brake light off. As it turned out, my sister became very ill last night. She was up all night vomiting. I got to the automotive shop by myself without my valet and my wallet, and, though I had enough work on my computer and a book to keep me occupied until they fixed my car, the waiting room had no air conditioning—in Florida!

I told the serviceman that I would come back another day. I called my mother and told her that I would take her to the doctor’s appointment. Suddenly, my day looks very different than what I had planned. Did I get frustrated? For a moment, I felt angst. But, I decided that I was here on this earth to be a player and to learn, not to sit out on a bench. I wondered what would happen if I would just let Spirit have Its way with my life and with my morning. Suddenly, my heart felt at peace as I drove home.

Last week, I felt on top of the world. I had been emancipated from my old life, negativity in my past, and I looked forward to the new and exciting life Spirit prepared for me.  This week, I have been stymied at almost every move. I feel as though I should stay put and be quiet, as the world doesn’t appear as safe and inviting as it did last week. I’m not sure why, but I must listen to my heart.

Last week, I felt almost as if I had a daredevil mentality. Perhaps, spirit is trying to tell me that I need to reel in my energy a bit and spend more time deliberating my steps, before I move forward. I can hear that, if this is the case. Objectively, I did not move to a new city and leave my old life to be disobedient to the same heart that led me here. I must gather my energy and stay centered in this time of stress.

I have clients who tell me that stress draws them to smoking, drinking, and other insatiable habits. My advice is to always look inward for peace, because the “kingdom of God is within.” I believe, and will continue to believe until otherwise led, that God and the world deals everyone stressful situations because the world is made up of chaos, not because we have been singled out for bad to happen. Occasionally, though,  our own strength must be tested, for our own sakes. God already knows how much we can bear. Our souls, however, don’t understand the depth of our spiritual knowhow. If we know we can endure difficult situations without crutches, we are more apt to stand firm in our peace, realizing the roots of the tree stand on solid ground. No matter how hard the world shakes us, we may bend, we may bow and shed some leaves, but we will not fall to the pressure.

So, this week, when stress comes calling—and it often will—instead of depending on a crutch or a habit, try to go inward to invite Spirit to lead you to peace.

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Plant the Seed, Water It with Love, and Let God Do the Rest

Yesterday, I got caught up in expectation and results. I woke up, sat on the end of my almost new bed, and the frame broke, probably from the bad job of rebuilding it by the movers. I took my dog Coco to PetsMart. He stepped on the emergency brake in the car. Immediately, my brake light went on and wouldn’t go off. I ate popcorn and chipped my back tooth, leaving a very rough edge on my tongue. And a dude that I really liked and thought liked me back, texted me first thing that morning and said that someone from his past came back into his life, so he couldn’t see me anymore. The entire day, even the pouring down rain, cast a negative hue on my outlook of life.

I’m learning quicker, now, to seek the help of friends and therapists in my life when I need a swift kick in the butt or a nudge of encouragement. I wasn’t sure exactly what was wrong, but I did reach out to two friends. One of them called me back on his first break and listened to my moaning, before he shared his insight. He said, “Bo, you can only plant your seed and water it a bit; then, God has to do the rest. You cannot be responsible for all of what happens around you. Only God can!”

This was brilliant advice. Added to that, I have been reading a book called The Art of Uncertainty by Dennis Merritt Jones. In the book, Jones says that the first step of learning to love life in this “Earth School” is to begin to enjoy the uncertainty of the future. This, of course, kind of stuck in my craw, because I like to know or to plan my future, as most of us do. But, I realized, that the lesson of this book is much the same as the lesson of the day. If I could have controlled all of my life, I probably wouldn’t be sitting in the place I am now—in a new city, in a new apartment, by the ocean, and living my authentic dream.

When we control life, it seems we live in the same circular pattern, moving round and round in the space that is comfortable, never venturing off into the unknown. What pushes us into paths untraveled, however, are the subtle nudges—or sometimes huge pushes—of Spirit in ways unfathomable.

Today, try to let go of the results of whatever you’ve set out to do. You have only one duty: do what you intend! After that, leave the rest to God. You don’t know if that audition is about meeting someone wonderful or actually getting the show. You don’t know if that job interview is about someone else learning a lesson. You simply know your part in this Earth’s School. That’s it. All the rest is a mystery. What you need to know, will be revealed!

Dennis Merritt Jones also says in his book that living life with uncertainty is similar to reading a page-turner novel, never knowing what will happen next. Even at the end of a great page-turner, you should be surprised with an unexpected result. If you enjoy a good read like this or a movie that keeps you on the edge of your seat, then try learning to live life in this same way, could turn out to be an exciting adventure!

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How Conscious Are Your Choices? #decisionmaking

Everyday, we make the small choices in life that get us to work, buy us lunch, urge us to take an umbrella, and choose what channel to watch on television. But, are we making these decisions without our intuition? Are we instinctively moving along in life, like an animal would toward food and female dogs in heat? Learning to live from spiritual intuition is an important step in becoming a “Choice-Driven Person” or a “Chance-Driven Person.”

With Chance-Driven decisions, we take our creative energy and suspend it completely, letting life move us like the wind tossing a piece of paper on our lawn. But, with Choice-Driven decisions, we allow our conscious, creative mind to take part in where and what direction we move in our lives, which allows us to be led—instead of pushed.

As we evolve consciously, we develop spiritual intuition, which, hopefully, will replace our need for our baser reactive side—the animalistic instinct. Every person, just like every animal on earth, has a propensity to move through life with instinct. This helps animal stay far enough from the edge of a cliff, not eat poisonous food, stay away from dark, shadowy alleyways, and take shelter during a storm. These instinctual mechanics are in each of us, like software loaded into a computer’s mainframe. They help us out to stay alive, but are these instincts enough to move forward into a spiritual life?

At this age of our spiritual growth, if we haven’t learned the difference between our instinct and our intuition, which is a Spiritual urging toward something higher and a more distinctive class of learning, we may end up being tossed about by our instinct, instead of our intuition.

As we talked about yesterday, sometimes Spirit calls us to take the higher road, instead of the easier road. So, we sit at the beginning of our own yellow brick road and wait with indecision and ambiguity for a good witch to appear out of the sky to lead us on the right road. However, remember that: “no decision is a decision to not make a decision.” So, we must dig deeper into our souls and take a leap of faith to move toward the direction spirit leads our hearts.

I have to tell you, from my own choices recently, I have taken the leap into a space that is completely propelled by a spiritual search. Each day, though I have had to face some rejection along the way, I have learned that even the rejections are not instinctual. They are steps toward making the right and best choices for spiritual purpose. Someone who has never made a mistake has not moved an inch in life. Mistakes are medals of honor for each person willing to make the harder choices in life and learn from their mistakes.

Take a chance today, and live from your spiritual intuition!

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The Tough #Decisions in Life

No one is completely resistant to a paralyzing decision. Some of the most frequently asked questions in Life Coaching sessions are about the many choices in life! I often ask, “How do you feel inside about the decision you made or are about to make?” Most people say, “I am too frighten to act on it, yet. That’s why I need your help.”

As a coach, my primary goal is to take away the blocks to what keeps you from your most authentic feelings and desires. Often, what paralyzes us most is an attachment problem from our past. Case and point: A client had a narcissistic parent, who made fun of every dependent life decision he made. Even something as beautiful as my client’s news of his wife’s pregnancy was fodder for his mother’s criticism.

If you grow up in a situation where you had no one to tell you that your decisions were right and just, often, you end up feeling—even as an adult—that you are not good enough or smart enough to make the correct decision. Your mind will flood with all the ways you can keep yourself in the indecision, so you won’t ever have to be wrong. However, who really gets to stay in a place of ambivalence for the rest of his or her life? No one! So, a choice is impending.

So, making that critical choice to finish something and put a period at the end of an incomplete sentence is so important in everyone’s life, for you own self-esteem and to simply move on from the small stuff to your larger choices in life.

Recently, I made a huge decision to move from my home, my business, and my friends to live nearer to my family in Southern Florida. The move came on the heals of a life-altering moment, when my partner chose to leave our relationship because he wasn’t sure—from lack of relationship experience—that I was the right man for him. The day he left, in my sorrow, something opened up inside of my mind to effective and lasting change. A feeling that had never been there before rose to the surface—a choice, a new choice.

I’m not one to run away from my pain. I sat in my sorrow and felt every moment, like a warrior, crying for about a week, until every tear had been shed, felt, and understood. When I arose from my malaise, like the Phoenix, I had realized that my heart had outgrown my current life. What I needed was to move on to my Encore Career and actualize the dreams I had been waiting so long to step toward.

My decision was difficult, but I had no better rudder than to make a strong choice and begin to walk toward it. Most often, if your decision is from a spiritual center, doors will open, and you will begin to settle into a deeply seated peace that no one can shake, and no temporary hiccup can change. The decision you made is not for you, Spirit will be clear in keeping you from moving forward. I know this sounds a little airy-fairy, but honestly, our lives sometimes are continent upon giving up our own misconceptions to embrace Spirit’s deeper goals.

I now sit in an observer space in my mind, watching my life unfold as I have not seen it manifest in so many years. Everything is new. My life feels effortless. The love around has expressed infinitely. Even work has come to me easily. I know that I know I have made the right choice, because I am in it fully immersed.

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[Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books helps people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE. Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle: ]

A Wall of Derision #spiritualgrowth #Centersofspiritualliving

I have met a great deal of new people already in my first week in Florida. I notice, most often, that each biographical story usually carries with it some sort of derisive past that has moved each person away from the contention of judgment to Southern Florida, a place where life is more open and belief is a choice—not a recommendation. So many people have been pushed away from spiritual belief because of judgment, sin consciousness, and a strong sense of self-righteousness. This disenfranchisement hurts my heart. In so many ways, I feel as if I’ve been led to Florida to find some of these individuals and tell them that their own path to truth is perfect and real!

I met a man last evening who told me he was Agnostic, which is the third person this week. But, after talking to him about what inspires him, he seemed very spiritually open. I told him about The Centers of Spiritual Living and how they teach people “how to believe” not “what to believe.” His eyes immediately lit up. I don’t know that he’ll try church again, and it certainly doesn’t matter to me. However, just knowing that bodies of people exist that don’t judge and will embrace you, no matter where you are on your path is such a blessing to these individuals.

I know that many people reading this blog are on different places in their spiritual path. Some are Christian, some Buddhist, some Agnostic, some New Thought, and some just haven’t figured it out yet. I want you to know that your personal walk is no one’s business but your own. Even Jesus, the master teacher, said never to “cast your pearls before swine,” as they will be trampled on and destroyed.

Your pearls in this metaphor are your deep-seated beliefs. They are to be protected with all of your being, especially during the times when they are gestating and developing. Your beliefs are like a caterpillar spinning a web to form a cocoon. In this silent place of love and spiritual guidance, directly from God, your thoughts and beliefs begin to congeal and transform. Eventually, what you believe will help you fly above judgment and derisive actions.

Trust me on this: When you figure out who you are, your place on this planet, and are open to Spirit’s guidance every day; you become like a constantly changing, expanding universe of thought and truth. You will be like a crystal in chaos!

Keep searching and never stop!

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The book on your right is a channeled book that came to me in a dream. An angel appeared to me and said, sit at your computer and write this book. I simply listened and wrote. Even when I reread this book, I get new insights into meditation and being open spiritual direction. I hope you enjoy it.

[Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books helps people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE. Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle: ]

Discovery 16: Plenty of Nothin'

Interpreting Dreams #dreams #interpretingdreams

I had a dream last night that I received the honor to drive President Barack Obama to a conference. While doing so, I got to meet his wife and his children at the White House. In the dream, the president said that, after the eight-year term of his presidency, that his wife would move on to leave him. He didn’t seem upset about it. His children also appeared extremely happy and wanted to read my young adult novel. I remember many of their family members and American dignitaries accompanying them as they went to a fun, new restaurant, and left me behind with my car keys and the run of the house.

I awoke in a daze, as my meditations don’t usually include such detailed dreams. Generally, I wake up with a thought or an idea, almost as if the wisdom of the universe had given me a small package to open and discover. Today, as I write, I’m still not quite sure what the dream means.

Does not knowing what you see in a dream mean that you should disregard a possible message from spirit? I would hope not. A dream so memorable usually holds some kind of message. So, I usually write down a dream that makes no sense, at first. Most times, by the time I have finished writing, I see an interpretation appear before me. Other times, such as when I had the dream about a plane crashing into a building in New York, I simply put it away and wait.

Identifying factors of spiritual dreams often reflect your own ideas and thoughts and are not usually prophecy or warning signs about the future. Usually, every character of the dream is You! To interpret dreams you must, first, consider what the dream means by changing the main characters to you. I do this one character at a time.

So, for instance, in my dream about the president, I am the president and his wife and his children. If I start from the president’s point of view, I am the successful ruler of my own being. My wife or my lover has decided to leave me after a term, and I am okay with that. His children being happy could represent the offspring of my ideas or the future—which are prospering and bringing happiness to my life.

Then, surrounded by family, he celebrated. So, the dream, for me, could have just been a confirmation that I have made a good decision to move after the break-up of my relationship. I am now surrounded by family and friends and am ready to celebrate about the future.

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This young adult novel has been chosen to be pitched for a Hallmark Hall of Fame film. Kissy Sue Snodgrass finds unexpected lessons in a friendship with Willa, the daughter of the president of a large record company. She never could imagine that someone so rich could have the problems as she did. 

[Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books helps people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE. Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle: ]

This is Discovery 16 of "Uncommon Gay Warrior" and "Finding Authentic You" Webinar.

What I Don’t Know About You #dating #relationshipadvice

The dating experience is an anomaly. When you think you have really figured out people, then, you realize you know nothing about anyone. Almost everyone has about three layers hidden beneath the surface, especially when first meeting you. Friendships are similar. Most people, decidedly, try to make their best impression, first. Then, along the way, you begin to see what is hidden underneath.

Case and point: I went out with a dude whom I had been talking to online for about three weeks. In his bio, he was this intellectual, spiritual person, very handsome, as well. Even when we met, we resonated on all those levels. However, when he sent a text message the next day he said, “I’m sorry that you’re not Latino. I am trying to be attracted to handsome men, other than Latinos, but my truth is that I’m just not! I’m sure you’ll find a nice guy!”

So, I’m thinking to myself, why didn’t you tell me that spiritual insight upfront. Why use me as your guinea pig experiment? What if people said, up front, what was really going on? Would we still take the time to date them? I wonder.

Say for instance, this same man talked to me on the phone, and in one of our conversations, he said, “Hey, I just want to tell you that usually I’m only attracted to Latin men. I think you’re really handsome. My heart feels like I’m stuck in a paradigm I want to change. I just want you to know, up front, that this is the case.” Would I still have gone out with him? Probably. But I would have had my head in another place—more in a friendship place, than in a romantic place, which would have left me feeling better after the text, for sure.

The second issue with layers is that he said, “This is my truth!” But, what would have been more appropriate to say is: “This is my attachment… and I’m not sure why!” Then, we both could have set out on a course to uncover the reason he couldn’t look past the physical to the internal, especially, if he truly was attracted, as he said he was. That, of course, I don’t know, either. Dating, again, crazy stuff!

What we don’t see in almost everyone we date is his level of attachment problems and issues. Generally, a securely attached individual presents in a way that is very casual and open, almost transparent. But, most people are adept at covering up the problem areas of their lives with a classic veneer of kindness and interest.

I went out with a guy who had a six-month-0ld boy. He was completely upfront about his life. “It’s hectic. I’m probably going to bring my child with me to our date. But, it should be okay. Six thirty is usually his sleeping time.” This guy was very nice, but had a kind of bitchy bite about him.

He shared that most men don’t want to date him because of the child, but I think it had more to do with him and his negative outlook on life. Again, layers of attachment he revealed about going to ministerial school and growing Baptist, only to discover he was gay and God would send him to hell. This caused a very negative undertone in everything he said, at least, for me.

While we were at dinner, about twelve gay men came over to the baby and cooed and goo-ed. I’d imagine he could find another man who would want to have a small family, too. But, this situation is much like a woman with children trying to find a man who wants a ready-made family. They are few and far between. But, it doesn’t mean that they aren’t available men out there wanting the same as you. The dating pool will just be smaller.

Today, be aware that what you see on the outside of a person, in his/her words and actions, may not be the person that is lurking within. Also, what we present as individuals on the first meet up should be our authentic self, even if it means revealing something, perhaps, a little different or negative. Should this make us pessimistic about life and dating? I hope not! My desire is to make the dating experience more real.

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These two books, found on any online bookstore, are companion books, with daily reading to help you discover your own, unique spiritual path, and also learn a lot more about other people and relationships.

[Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books helps people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE. Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle: ]

Plenty of Nothin'! #spirituality #wisdom #ahamoment

I had a long conversation with a friend last night about waking up one day and realizing that he sat in the middle of plastic veneers and eyes with not much life behind them. He described his life as something that everyone seemed to desire. But, his life truly began the moment he realized that he had a spiritual life that he never understood or even tried to understand, as he had been Agnostic for a long time.

Perhaps, this is Spirit’s way of opening the eyes of any of us, even bible kings such as Solomon, who describes his world as having everything, but everything was truly nothing without a connection to God. “Whoever trusts in his riches will fall, but the righteous will thrive like a green leaf.” Or Saul, whom Spirit blinded on the road to Damascus, to let him know that he was fighting God, not the enemy. These stories are metaphoric for us, as Spirit may be searching for you today, but using life and life’s lessons to call you to the throne of wisdom.

Each of our moments of divine intervention is a bit different, but mostly, God finds us when we least expect it. My experience was in my bed as a child, seven or eight years old. A blue haze filled my room and a gentle voice said, “I am God.” The message was simple, but the impact has been life long. My search for spirituality in everything has been the one constant that I cannot deny, even when I have tried. But, not everyone is called with a glorious light. Sometimes, Spirit gets your attention with an enormous paradigm shift, such as a death or a disaster.

I have a dear friend who had gathered all his belongings, moved to a place by the beach, bought what could have been his dream home, and spent all of his weekends and evenings working on remodeling it. Three years into the remodel and almost ready to unveil, the New Orleans-Biloxi hurricane hit. His phone call from the road said, “I have no idea where I’m going. I was told to evacuate immediately. So, I grabbed some clothes, my computer, and started to drive!” When he returned home, all that was left were pieces of the basement. I was with one of my closest friends when he found out he had colon cancer. These moments change you. They must! They are always calls for a deeper, more authentic connection.

When something happens in your life that you don’t understand, you have to ask for wisdom from Spirit—for direction. If you don’t, Spirit will continue to flood your life with situational discomfort until you heed the call. Your purpose here is contingent upon waking up to your spiritual self, which in my estimation is a great balance of spirit, mind, and body. We are spirits having a human experience.

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This novel is one of my favorites and critically one the best novels I've written, because all of the unique and poignant characters grow from the inevitable paradigm shifts of life. 

[Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books helps people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE. Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle: ]

Turn Your Hurt into Prayer #prayer #hurt

This morning in my meditation I had a very interesting vision about a girlfriend of mine who had simply disappeared out of my life after many years of seeing her or talking to her every day. She gave me no reason for this departure, just no response from many phone calls and texts. She had moved her apartment and her job, so I had no place to contact her, by the time I had realized she had gone missing, because she carefully titrated her departure with proposed visits that she would continue to cancel.

My vision was about seeing this old friend in Florida, where I live now. When we saw each other, she made a funny comment about not seeing me. I responded with a very authentic answer, “I have missed you so much!” We hugged, as each of us burst into tears. It was then I woke up and began to pray again. (Sometimes, my meditation will move from cognizant to dreams—both of which, I feel, God uses to move me forward in my spiritual growth.)

I asked Spirit what I could do to heal my heart concerning this friend, since, before I left Nashville, I could not locate her to make amends. My answer was this:

“You think that this pain you feel is a bad thing. It is not. Your pain can be used to help (my friend), if you let it. The first objective is to realize that, when the hurt comes up, that it has risen for a purpose, a spiritual purpose. (Your friend) needs your help spiritually. She is on a misguided course that requires angels and spiritual protection. This is where your prayers come in. When you feel this hurt, ask your mind to turn this intense feeling into compassion and direct it towards (your friend). See her whole and complete! Imagine that she hears your prayers and they call to her to move in the direction of healing. What I don’t want for you is to continue to hurt for her. Your pain will be gone when you turn your hurt into prayer, I promise!”

When I got up from my meditation, I felt differently about her and about my extended pain for all those who have left my life without words or explanation.

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This book has daily readings for spiritual growth, without judgment and condemnation, we move together through life's difficult and fun times, and change them to spiritual metaphors.

[Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books helps people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE. Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle: ]