Remodel or Move? #startingover #greysanatomy
I have had a floor plan drawn up to remodel my house for
five years now and have never moved forward to remodel. I’ve been waiting for
someone who shares my vision and will want to make a beautiful home bigger and
better to make room for our future. I have spent so much time making all the
gardens, pond, and remodels suit my perfect likes, that, as is, the house is
enough for just me and my 81-year-old mom. But, the remodel has always been if
I find someone special to share my life.
The problem with my plan is that not too many healthy perspective
dates want to move into something that is totally yours and built for you. Most
people want to begin anew and have equal say in everything that goes into your
mutual investment. The reason why I used the modifier “healthy” is, because
plenty of perspective relationships exist who would gladly move in and let you
have all the vision, spend all the money, and just latch on to your boot
straps. Finding someone who is a partner often means starting over. And who the
hell wants to do that, right?
Moving completely and starting over is a metaphor for
relationships, as well. I have tried to get back with an old flame. It doesn’t
matter how long you had been in relationship. When you revisit it, you are
going to bring up all that wasn’t resolved and what brought your old relationship
crashing to a halt. Sometimes, one person will realize that he screwed up and
want back a relationship he literally lost. In that case, you have a different
scenario, but rebuilding trust will be paramount in reestablishing this kind of
old relationship. I wonder if revisiting the old haunts is a waste of time. Maybe
so.
I often tell myself this affirmation: if my mind is
half-filled with the past, spirit can’t fit a new person in my life. Past
patterns, especially relationship, are hard to break. Last night, I watched
“Grey’s Anatomy.” Two of the characters have been going back and forth from
marrying to divorcing to playing around, to being friends for the entire run of
this show. Last night, the character played by Sandra Oh even went so far as to
try and get her ex-husband, Dr. Owen Hunt, to start to date again using the
Internet. Owen ended up telling her his truth: “Why would I want to look for
someone, when my soul mate sits right in front of me!” The problem is that
every time they get back together, the same issues come up with the woman not
wanting children. Can they resolve the issue? The reason why the scenario has
lasted so long without resolution on the show is because each of us can sympathize
that the past is following each of us all day long, everyday.
A happy person knows that everything
in life is dying the minute it begins, even relationship. BUT… the smart person
loves the next moment more than she frets over losing the past.
The present is full of new and wonderful opportunities.
You can’t receive if your arms aren’t open and your face isn’t pointed forward.
Look to the now for your gifts. The past will always having you facing in the wrong
direction!
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