The Gift of Friendship: Love by Any Other Name! #spiritualprincipal #friendship #SOM #spirituality

Only one Love exists in the world. That Love is the perfect relationship emanating from first Cause through and as God. When we share this kind of love, we ultimately share the greatest gift that can be given in the world: right relationship.

In other languages, there are many different words for love. In Spanish I can think of four words that show different levels of love and commitment in order of their intensity: gustarse, querer, amar, and encantarse. In these examples we have the love of enjoying something, friendship based love, the love of family, and the love of an intimate partner.

In English we do not have a perfect way of differentiating the kinds of love we have for each other or a word for the varying ranges of enjoyment we feel for things. We have just one word for the ultimate in all of it, and we all seem to use the word Love randomly and without much thought.

It is only in the moment of intimacy that we understand the kind of love we speak about, and being “in love.” The only reason why we differentiate it in that situation is because we do not want it to me, “I love you, buddy!”

But, how much difference should there be in the true essence of love, God love—the Spiritual Love that connects all of us to God? The Love as God is the only kind of love that really matters in relationship, because it is the only unchangeable, immutable love that exists.

I recently noticed in my own past intimate relationships, how love seemed to move from impervious intensity to a lackadaisical malaise of inconsistency, which did not serve either partner well. Ultimately, this lack of immutable love is what destroyed relationship. In my recapitulation of old love, I had to wonder if I have ever really loved any intimate partner—or anyone—for that matter.

We know what we want in intimate relationship is more like an enduring friendship, more like the kind of love that a mother has for child, or the kind of unconditional love that we share with our spiritual friends and ministers. This kind of love seems to transcend bad and good times and considers mistakes as a part of relationship, easily forgiven.

I recently met a person who quickly became a prayer partner because our spiritual beliefs were so similar. I noticed that the more time we spent in prayer, the more I have learned to love this individual in a deeper, more profound way. I realized that if I had the opportunity to plan my life with this person in it, I would certainly be a part of that dream as long as I could. This is love has the intensity of a spirituality and has the strongest foundation we can create in relationship. When we encounter this kind of love, it balances our humanness, friendships, and intimacy in a new way.

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This year, if you desire to commit to a change for a New Year’s Resolution, do it with your MIND first. Remember, as in the title of my new book coming out just in time to help you with this (in January)… lol… that all change happens in your mind, first. You must change your Old Story, to make a consistent and long lasting change in Your Life.

Please be looking for “YOUR NEW STORY, YOUR NEW LIFE, Unlock YourSeven Spiritual Discoveries” in bookstores and in online bookstores in January 2016!

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Reality Sets In — #dayaftervalentinesday

You’ve had that long awaited special dinner. You shared a bottle of champagne. You chatted in each other’s arms after smoldering intimacy and don’t even remember falling asleep. The next day, your partner leaves for work. You clean up the house and get ready for your own busy day. You notice the card he gave you, left on the buffet under a red, heart-shaped box of the finest chocolates.

You reread the card. This time you notice that he doesn’t say some of the words you had wished to hear. The card says, “I love your kindness and the awesome way I feel when I’m with you!” but he never says anything quite like you did. In your card you wrote, “You are the man of my dreams. I hope to be in love with you many, many years from now!”

Suddenly, you feel sad. Could you be in love with someone who simply loves you more like a friend with benefits? Does the person you love really plan a life with you? Wow! That is a hard question to answer honestly, especially after Valentine’s Day. But the reality may be written right in front of you on the card. You are simply too afraid to look at the truth because you’re more scared of being alone than you are of being present for your own reality show.

We watch way too much reality television. But the truth is: very few of us want to be in our own shoes in our own lives. We’d rather fantasize about what we have created in our minds as our illusion, than live in the truth we actually created. What would happen if you asked the real question today, the day after? What if you said to your partner, “Honey, I noticed that you didn’t say the words I Love You! in your card. You danced around it, but never really said it. He holds you in his arms and says, without looking you in the eyes, “Babe, you know I love you.”

In the reality, bereft of false hope, you hear what you have been so frightened of. Today, you have the courage to ask that rare question: “What exactly does your love mean? Do you see yourself with me in the long term? Are you ‘in love’ with me?” You linger in the pause for far too long, prompting you to ask her in another way, “I fear that you don’t love me in the same you I love you. I love you with all my heart and mind and want to see us growing old together. Can you and do you see that?”

She bows her head. “I don’t know that I’m in that place.”

Suddenly, yesterday means nothing to you. The past year or years become meaningless. “Why, exactly, did you begin a relationship with someone if commitment isn’t in the cards? Did this person want intimacy, or did he want a commitment and to build a life together?” Your partner shakes his head. “Oh, man, babe! It’s not you. It’s me. I’m just not ready to say those words.”

If this happened to me, I don’t know that I would give the partner another day of my precious life. Perhaps, you misjudged this person’s level of secure attachment. He seemed as if he had all the qualities of the person in the book, who isn’t afraid to share his truth, laugh with me, cry with me, be completely herself. She wasn’t even afraid to move in together. Why is this person suddenly acting as if you are not important enough to plan a future with?

You know, your partner may be right. His reason for being complacent and distant is not your fault at all. He or she may have baggage from an old relationship.  He may have a sophomoric desire to see what relationship is like without actually committing to one. She may need security more than she’s willing to admit. Whatever the case, this is less about you than it is about your partner. Get honest with yourself and check inside. Do you really want to live like in THIS REALITY? Do you deserve the kind of commitment true love can bring?

I believe you do!

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