The Gift of Friendship: Love by Any Other Name! #spiritualprincipal #friendship #SOM #spirituality

Only one Love exists in the world. That Love is the perfect relationship emanating from first Cause through and as God. When we share this kind of love, we ultimately share the greatest gift that can be given in the world: right relationship.

In other languages, there are many different words for love. In Spanish I can think of four words that show different levels of love and commitment in order of their intensity: gustarse, querer, amar, and encantarse. In these examples we have the love of enjoying something, friendship based love, the love of family, and the love of an intimate partner.

In English we do not have a perfect way of differentiating the kinds of love we have for each other or a word for the varying ranges of enjoyment we feel for things. We have just one word for the ultimate in all of it, and we all seem to use the word Love randomly and without much thought.

It is only in the moment of intimacy that we understand the kind of love we speak about, and being “in love.” The only reason why we differentiate it in that situation is because we do not want it to me, “I love you, buddy!”

But, how much difference should there be in the true essence of love, God love—the Spiritual Love that connects all of us to God? The Love as God is the only kind of love that really matters in relationship, because it is the only unchangeable, immutable love that exists.

I recently noticed in my own past intimate relationships, how love seemed to move from impervious intensity to a lackadaisical malaise of inconsistency, which did not serve either partner well. Ultimately, this lack of immutable love is what destroyed relationship. In my recapitulation of old love, I had to wonder if I have ever really loved any intimate partner—or anyone—for that matter.

We know what we want in intimate relationship is more like an enduring friendship, more like the kind of love that a mother has for child, or the kind of unconditional love that we share with our spiritual friends and ministers. This kind of love seems to transcend bad and good times and considers mistakes as a part of relationship, easily forgiven.

I recently met a person who quickly became a prayer partner because our spiritual beliefs were so similar. I noticed that the more time we spent in prayer, the more I have learned to love this individual in a deeper, more profound way. I realized that if I had the opportunity to plan my life with this person in it, I would certainly be a part of that dream as long as I could. This is love has the intensity of a spirituality and has the strongest foundation we can create in relationship. When we encounter this kind of love, it balances our humanness, friendships, and intimacy in a new way.

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This year, if you desire to commit to a change for a New Year’s Resolution, do it with your MIND first. Remember, as in the title of my new book coming out just in time to help you with this (in January)… lol… that all change happens in your mind, first. You must change your Old Story, to make a consistent and long lasting change in Your Life.

Please be looking for “YOUR NEW STORY, YOUR NEW LIFE, Unlock YourSeven Spiritual Discoveries” in bookstores and in online bookstores in January 2016!

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Animal, Vegetable, Miracle!

Animal, Vegetable, Miracle!

A client came in to see me as a Life Coach. This was her story:

“Last night, I was awoken by a powerfully emotional dream. I saw an old, close friend who had disappeared from my life three years ago, suddenly arriving at my home to make amends. Instead of doing the Prodigal Son act, I launched into him with a powerful tirade of insults and claims of personal injury for his absence. I felt terrible about what I said when I woke up.

“However, what I noticed when I explained the dream to a friend was that I still have live wires in my heart concerning him, which I hadn’t realized were that charged. Without his answering phone calls, not knowing where he works or lives now, or having a way to reach out, I have no physical way of making amends in my heart. It’s not a good feeling at all.

“If you have ever had a heartbreak where you were the one who was abandoned, and you never got the chance to say what you feel to that person, you are definitely understanding where I come from when I say this. No surrogate, no new friend, no new car, a million dollars, no animal, vegetable, or miracle could fill the hole he left in my soul.

“I’m amazed at how friendships and soul mates can do that to one another. Are we meant to be put on this earth only to attract those who will eventually hurt us? I know you told me I have an anxious attachment past, as I have had. I know that my worst fear is rejection. So, what am I supposed to do? Give my heart to a relationship, he gives his heart, and then what? Someone decides that I know enough about them—too much about them—and that they have had enough intimacy, and splits, just like that?

“I understand why a great deal of people are simply satisfied to work, come home, and love on a cat while watching TV till they fall asleep. Human relationships bite the big one sometimes.”

Wow! I was not only taken aback her story, I was driven and drawn in by the emotion that came with this account. Tears and anger kept swapping places as she spilled out her truth.

My response was simple, though: “I know exactly how you feel. I’m not sure there is a way to ever make amends in your heart for that person. There is a way, however, to make peace in your heart.”

I asked her, “Do you believe that God has everything in control of your life?”

She nodded apprehensively.

“Have other family members or friends ever disappeared in your life, only to show up years later with a perfectly palpable story?”

She nodded, this time with certainty.

“Then, I guess, we have to just know for certain that your friend is being divinely guided, as are you, in this moment,” I answered. “He is taking the path that will lead him to understand himself and God more, as he leaves your life. And you, also, are learning the truth of real love.

“If you truly love this friend, you will quit trying to find him, stop trying to contact him, and let him fly away. If he is meant to return, he will. Instead of being angry with him, how about praying for him whenever you think about him? Let your prayers affirm that he is okay and dwelling in love and joy. Believe that he is fortified with the power to get over any sickness or illness that may have overwhelmed him enough to leave your friendship. Absolutely and unequivically, love him in every prayer until you can’t imagine loving him anymore.

“Then, my friend, you will be at peace. This relationship is now in God’s hands.”

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