Easter: Big Benefits with “Little” Passed #relationships #relationshipadvice #datingadvice

Relationship at any age is about give and take, isn’t it? How many people have you dated, kissed, casually had sex with, or even married who actually brought benefits into your life without dragging you into the “have-to’s” and “you’ve earned it’s?” Is it possible to derive human benefits from any relationship without the little, tiny “but-if’s?”

If you are in your twenties, you probably just blow off the guilt plays and move on to your next conquest. But, when you pass thirty-five or forty something happens to your mind that keeps considering this one looming question: What if this is the best I can do?

I’m not sure, but I think I’ve done more compromising than relating my entire life in both friendships, familial-, and intimate relationships. I’m ready to relate, to have fun, and bask in a little bliss without having to stop to cry a little about spilled milk. Honestly, I wish I had some of the bitch I had back when I was in my twenties. I knew I would find the perfect match, then. I didn’t worry about age and time ending before I had the chance to marry my soul mate. I’m not even sure I believe in soul mates anymore. I mean how can I be yours and you be mine, if we don’t even know each other? Right? How can any one person know another?

Once, I imagined that, at fifty, I would meet a guy who would take me back to my teens and give me back those amazing, tingling feelings that only happen when someone is too naïve to care what happens next. I actually thought I would be swept away just one last time. This time, though, the feelings would last forever. But, who believes in forever, anymore?

I’m not the kind of guy who falls in love forever. That is a reality. That is a cold hard fact. And facts are supposed to be true. So, why am I feeling like I just met my teenage crush, whom I’ve only known for a six weeks and, now, I can’t stop thinking about him. Already, I’ve started to make every couple of days about him—just him? Crazy, right? Is this a good thing? A benefit?

All my friends say, “Enjoy it while it lasts” or “Take it one day at a time and don’t worry,” actually knowing me more than I know myself. When I take their advice, I live in the NOW and experience bliss. I’m quite sure, I wouldn’t have had any of these amazing moments had I pondered the future or hung out in the what-if’s.

At this age, it’s the little things, really, that make a difference in relating. Can you let go of believing that this new person in your life is anything like someone you have related to in the past? Can you keep focus on the NOW? Can you take in every precious moment without forcing yourself to live in the torment of past relationships, rising like the Phoenix from the ashes?

You know, Easter is upon us. Today is the day we celebrate the resurrection of the Christ. In no uncertain terms, what was once dead is now alive, but in a spiritual way. I’d like to think that my newfound belief in relationship is the recapitulation of every human, traumatic relationship faux pas turned spiritual—maybe even a little Zen. This is the way I’m choosing to celebrate the triumph of Easter!

 

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Singing Karaoke on Easter Eve: Being Your Authentic Self! #livingoutloud #dating #outofcomfortzone #Easter #findingauthenticyou

Singing Karaoke on Easter Eve: Being Your Authentic Self!
#livingoutloud #dating #outofcomfortzone #Easter #findingauthenticyou

I would not have imagined that, on Easter Eve, I would be dining 30 minutes south of Atlanta in a small Mexican Restaurant singing Karaoke with two very old friends and a new friend, the fiancée of one of those friends. We laughed until we cried, beneath the caterwauling of many large southern cowgirls singing their country faves. Tonight, was an authentic evening just waiting to happen. All I had to do was be there.

You see, I have promised myself that life would not be about “trying” to have fun anymore. Life is about “being” fun wherever I go. So, tonight, despite the fact that I really only knew two songs in the entire Karaoke book, I took to the stage with gusto and belted out a couple songs purely for fun. I have to admit, I did sing: “You Raise Me Up!” for the holiday. You know what? I actually had fun singing, for the first time in a long time. I stopped judging myself and having to be perfect. All I had to be in that moment was me. As I did so, I gave everyone else in the room permission to be their authentic selves.

I have realized that in many places in life, pushing one’s behavior beyond truth, prodding at fame, and trying to kill your self to be perfect is a useless sense of energy. No one really cares if you’re perfect, but you. In fact, when you appear that you are trying to be anything more than real, your actions read as unauthentic. So, as in life also in mind! The result of trying to be more than you are will leave you anxious and painfully fearful of not being accepted by the masses.

On the Eve of Easter, I think about what Jesus felt during his time on earth. How long did it take the Son of God to accept his destiny? How many times did life come at him with false accusations as, “You aren’t the Son of God?” “Who died and made you God?” Can you imagine his best friends and family, the ones who were privy to his body odor and eating habits and grew up next his bad behavior? Did they think, the audacity of this man to think He is something special?

Some people I know drop me like a meatball off of a spoon when I offer up the newest insights coming from my Spirit. Most people I know, too well, aren’t prepared for me to be anything but a human man acting as a human being. But people who barely know me, standing at arm’s distance, tend to not judge by my appearance. Don’t the scriptures say that Jesus wasn’t accepted in his own village? This is truer than anyone would want to believe. You will find it difficult enough to simply be who you were made to be, but now you must do it in front of the people who love you and will judge you most. Being authentic to your calling is the hardest place to stand, sometimes.

About 10 years ago, I woke up to an angel or spirit asking me to sit at my computer and write. About eight hours later, I had finished a book that I soon hope to publish called: “Theoraphasz: God Speaks in the Final Phase of Human Development.” The hardest part of about publishing this particular book is that, in so doing, I have to ask my friends and family to believe that an angel actually spoke to me, personally. A gay man, nonetheless! Most people in the world will scoff, I imagine, especially men and women of God who expect God to come through the purest of normalcy. Publishing this book has taken me 10 years and accepting only my truest Authentic Self and my Divine Destiny, and believing I, too, am perfect in God’s eyes. I have nothing to lose now. So, I will go forth as intended.

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