Wednesday, March 18, 2015

In My Earthly Temple Is a Crowd #internalfamily #IFS #Partstherapy

In each of us exists a myriad of ideas and thoughts. To understand which thoughts are yours and which are just floating through the universe, you must comprehend the human mind and its many attributes. One particular part of the thought process is actually a combination of many smaller parts. In psychology this is called Parts Therapy or Internal Family Systems (IFS).

Within each of our minds there are parts. Each part exists for a specific purpose. For instance, if you were called names as a child, you may have a “part” that encouraged you to not pay attention to the mean kids. This kind of a part was a helper.
You may also have developed a part that was equally judgmental as the children in the playground, accusing you of being not good enough—even into adulthood. Identifying these parts and putting a face or name to them may help you recover from self-deprecating thoughts or feelings of insecurity. This kind of therapy is called Parts Therapy in hypnosis and in psychology Internal Family Systems.

Here is an example about how this kind of therapy may apply to you: You have been having indiscriminate sex with many partners lately. You can’t seem to get enough intimacy to make you feel good enough or pretty enough. You recognize you have a problem with your overactive libido, so you see a therapist. The therapist uses IFS and discovers that you have a part named Joe, who never felt handsome enough to attract a boyfriend or girlfriend. He was made fun of for being overweight. He has continued with you into adulthood.

In your present adult self, you are buff and take care of your body at the gym everyday. You look amazing, but you can’t get rid of the feeling that you are not handsome enough. In fact, this feeling fuels your attraction to the gym. Every rep you do on a weight machine has the thought behind it, “I’ll show them who’s not hot enough!”

You are like the person who had a large nose and had plastic surgery. But every time she looked in the mirror, she saw herself with the larger nose. She couldn’t see herself as the beautiful new woman with a smaller nose.

Each of us has a myriad of voices in our minds. No, you are not psychotic or have multiple personalities unless you find that you lose time (actually forget where you were—or blackout) while you experience another personality. Having family meetings and getting to know these parts is the first step to releasing the parts that no longer serve you.

Some of your parts are like friends that you simply have to release from your life, because they continue to discourage you or deplete you of vital energy. You can’t release what you don’t understand or know, so you have to begin to look inside and confront the internal demons in your life to begin the process of healthy thinking. Of course, if you need help, you can look below and give me a call I’d be happy to help you sort out what is no longer serving your life.
 Anxiout Attachment CoverUncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior CoverGLUTEN FREE COVER

* * *
 Beautiful Bird
A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian 
What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?
If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian
Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)
www.bosebastian.com

If you are a gay man or woman, you may want to direct your gaze to my newest blog: 
Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. This blog is an extension of my Facebook page (https://www.facebook.com/UncommonGaySpiritualWarrior/) and group meetings about the rare combination of spirituality and "being gay" defines the most important part of us, even in relationship. Join me at: http://uncommongayspiritualwarrior.blogspot.com/. 
Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual WarriorGo directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]




No comments: