No Room at the Inn: No Room
in the Mind! #NoRoomAtTheInn
I believe that, when the bible shares a story, it can be absorbed
by our souls on many levels. For the spiritual seeker, you may be able to
create a larger metaphor relating to the human psyche. In the recreation of
Jesus’ birth, the “Inn” in this story represents the Mind. When Joseph and Mary
arrived at the Inn, no rooms were available. The Innkeeper (metaphorically, the
subconscious - the keeper of the mind) found room for the pregnant mother and
her husband in the stable with the animals.
To my mind, this wonderful version of the Christ story helps
us realize one very important fact as we enter this holiday season: What are we
NOT making room for in our minds?
This week’s Challenge 6 on the Year to CLEAR Challenge below is: “What you have in
mind, will appear in your life—good or bad.” Are you thinking about a new job,
but not creating space for it in your life? Have you taken the classes you need
to be available for this new position? Have you had someone look at your resume
and make sure you have done the best job representing yourself? All of the
above choices lead you to make room in your mind for the positive shift of
creative change.
Change only happens when you take steps forward to increase
possibility and look for guidance from Spirit. If you want a relationship, what
exactly do you do to find one? When I was single, I took some time to pray
about exactly what I wanted in relationship. I read an amazing book that
prepared my mind for the “right,” secure relationship. Attached. by Amir Levine
is the perfect book on so many levels. Once I realized my heart was ready for a
securely attached relationship, I had to make room for love.
If you spend every night working late, hanging out with
friends, or taking care of pets, parents, or children, you don’t have room in
your life for another relationship. If a glass is full of old wine, you must
pour out the old to make room for the new wine. So, begin by looking at what
relationships in your life are actually not benefiting you, this includes
relationships to habits, work and friends. For instance, is the amount of time
you spend at work really helping your health and social life? Can you find a
way to leave two hours earlier and make room for a date once in a while?
The next action I took in finding right relationship was to
go online and find a couple of dating sites that actually were about connecting
two people wanting healthy relationships. If you go to a dating site that is
just about hookups and casual dating, you might as well not participate, if
what you want is a partner.
I posted a recent picture that looked like me. (Please don’t
post pictures that are two years old because you are too heavy now and are
embarrassed at any recent pictures with graying hair. If you attract someone to
your profile with a misrepresentation of who you are now, you are doing
yourself a big disservice, and also setting yourself up for rejection. Either
wait to lose the weight, color you hair, and post a good picture of healthy
you, or be proud of your extra weight and every gray hair.) Trust me, plenty of
people are overweight and even more are graying. Some people even desire an
overweight man and woman with gray hair. I think you may find some on
silverfox.com.
The next action you must take is to reveal your authentic
self in the biography section of these dating sites. Most people don’t take
time to reveal something authentic and attractive about their character. This
is paramount in finding right relationship, especially in the heterosexual and
lesbian world. (I hate to say this, but I can because I’m gay. I think that
more heterosexuals and lesbians are likely to look past physical
characteristics and look for good, secure mental and social qualities, than gay
men. Gay men have learned to act more from a sexual and sensual perspective
than most other couples. This isn’t speculation. Ask 99 out of 100 gay men.) Yes,
the people who actually look for a good person do read! If someone just looks
at pictures, you are not likely to find secure relationship there, either.
Once you have done the legwork, then the rest is about
letting God and Spirit lead you to the right person. I spent a lot of time looking
at profiles and people. I sent a few letters to some men I thought would be
right for me. However, what you don’t know about most of these dating sites is
that many of them keep the profiles online long after the person has exited the
dating process. So, you may send 10 letters and only one person may be
currently, actively looking. Make sure you look at the last time that person
you are interested in logged on. I saw a person on Match.com whom, I know, has
been in a 3-year committed relationship and has moved to Atlanta, still in the actively-looking
section of Nashville. The problems with dating sites part of the experience is
not fun. But the more you put yourself out there, the more responses you will receive.
Be careful and ask a lot of questions of the people you talk
to. Make sure the person is real and the person he/she claims to be. Ask for
more pictures. Ask questions about life and past relationships as it becomes
appropriate. This is called vetting a person. You want to be sure you’re on the
same page before you waste time meeting for coffee, first. If a short date goes
well, then take it to the next level for dinner. Make some Room in your Inn!
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The masses search outward for things that qualify them as a
person, but I always go inward for that which quantifies me for greatness. At
twenty-five I preached on street corners in NYC as an in-the-closet Pentecostal
minister. One day I heard a still small voice say, ‘God cannot be contained in a
book or a law or even in a religion. Dig deeper, reach further to find me, and
you will find your authentic Self.’”
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