PTSD< Sensory
Defensive>Transparency
I awoke this morning after a dream about my childhood with
an anxious heart. I wanted to jump up from the bed and scream, but I lay still
and crawled closer to my partner. He didn’t understand what I was feeling, so
he wasn’t able to help me with trauma one experiences who has had a Post
Traumatic event in his or her past.
I’m writing this because I realized that after I took my dog
for a walk and thought about it, I have been playing the same role of a child
with my partner and needed to be transparent about what had happened and how we
both could deal with it as adults in the perfect present.
When you have a PTSD moment that is triggered by an action,
dream, thought, smell, or event, your heart automatically goes into fear.
Depending on the event, you could even show signs of disorientation. For me,
this wasn’t a bad event. I was just triggered a bit and felt, for about 30
minutes, that I was back in that sexually abusive environment.
This causes, for some people, a state called Sensory Defensiveness.
If you have never heard of this disease, believe me, it’s real. All of your
senses get heightened to the point that a touch can feel like a stab wound, a
smell can be caustic, and even a kiss can feel like someone you love is
smothering you. The result is “Fight of Flight” mode for the physical mind and
body. Many studies of PTSD show that this trigger superseded the rational
brain. So, no matter what you know about yourself or your past, you still must
recognize that a trigger could happen, and have resources in place to talk you
down from your fear.
Sensory defensiveness is treated with occupational therapy.
Two of the things that are most used in the easing of the defensiveness are
weight and light brushing of the skin. The reason why these are used is because
the PTSD causes neural pathways to fire fast and erratically. Weight and light
brushing causes confusing to the neural pathways and the effect is generally an
easing of the symptoms.
So, this morning, had I been transparent with my partner and
explained to him ahead of time how to deal with an event like this, this is
what it may have looked like:
I awaken with fear. He awakes and notices I’m withdrawn and
my heart is racing. I tell him that I have had a bad dream. He asks me what the
dream is about. I tell him that the dream was about my childhood. I recognizes
that my PTSD came from a childhood event, so must assume that I am triggered.
He goes into HELP mode. What he can do is help me to breathe slowly. Maybe even
breathe with me for a while, very gently rubbing me with just his finger tips,
so soft you may feel like you just touching the hair not the skin. If I have a
weighted blanket or pillow or weighted vest, he may reach for that and put it
over me. This gives the person the bundled effect that a baby feels when he’s
crying in the night.
So, the end result would have been a tender moment of help,
instead of a withdrawal and misunderstanding. Because of my work with
self-inquiry, I was able to ask myself questions about why I felt the way I
did. As a result, I came up with a solution that not only helped me, but also
helped my partner understand me a little better and soothe my misbegotten pain.
I hope this helps those of you who suffer from trauma in the
past.
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