3 Ways that Guilt Can Weigh
You Down
I read an article in Huffington
Post written by Carolyn Gregoire that suggests the emotion of guilt can
actually make you gain weight! She goes even further to state that two other
ways guilt can block the good in your life is that it contributes to depression
and makes you procrastinate more.
I’ve never been one to act on guilt, generally. But after
I read the article, I thought about the times in my life that I have, and how
it contributed to depression and negative thoughts. I don’t believe, for me,
gaining weight was a factor.
Family is probably the prime contributor to guilt,
especially mothers. I know too many matriarchal queens who wield the power of
guilt on their very prone children. My mom sulks when she doesn’t get her way.
In times of old, I would simply think: well, it would take less energy to do
what she asks, then actually confront her and bitch about it.
But now when she sulks, I simply say, “Are you enjoying
that sad feeling? It’s causing you stress, but it’s not changing a thing for
me. If you want or need something from me, all you have to do is ask! If I can
do whatever you’re asking, I will. If I can’t, I’ll simply tell you, and you’ll
have to deal with it!”
This way of dealing with guilt has changed my life, I
actually take my own advice. Sometimes, still, I resist the urge to do what’s
right and acquiesce to her old ways.
I have another family member who loves using guilt to get
her way. For as long as I can remember, this is has been her prime force of
power. She uses it with her children, her siblings and her parents. Of course,
I feel virtually void of her guilt, because I have parameters and boundaries
that supersede this kind of control. You need this kind of power, too, if you
want to exist in this world without undo guilt causing you to carry extra
weight, depression, and procrastination.
Women are primary candidates for carrying guilt. A recent
Spanish study in 2010 shows that women acquiesce to guilt more than men. Read
the article: http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2010/01/100125123305.htm.
Why is this so?
I have many women clients who have been trapped by
demanding mothers and parents who keep them practically jailed in their own
homes because of shame and guilt. It takes a lifetime of manipulation to be
able to engage a fully-grown adult into the kind of shame that would put a life
on hold to take care of a parent and give up a job and/or relationship. Trust
me, it happens frequently, though.
In these cases, most of the time, the woman has her own
set of issues that help debilitate her, as well, needing to rest on her
parent’s laurels for help and security. This symbiotic mess causes a reduction
of the protective boundaries in my clients and a maze of codependent and
co-narcissistic behavior.
If you feel you need help with this kind of issue, take it
to a professional. Regaining power and the resources to overcome dependency and
narcissism take time and a complete renovation on the neural impulses that
cause this detrimental behavior.
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