A Struggle
for Change
How many people know in their hearts that change is on the
horizon. However, it seems that at every corner, a chance comes up in your life
to go back to your old habit or ways?
Lately, I have been feeling a strong inclination for change.
What I am moving from isn’t a bad habit, it’s simply a work position in my
life. I have decided not to teach vocal lessons anymore to leave room for my
Encore Career—Acting, singing and dancing. This doesn’t sound like it’s a hard
move, but you would be surprised at the doors that have swung open as a vocal
coach, as a result of this decision.
One of the main reasons I decided to move from this
position in my life was actually control. When you teach students, especially
ones who are still in middle or high school, you have many people standing
between you and the student’s growth. You have other teachers trying to teach
the same things in different ways. You have parents in the center of
everything, which is something you have to expect. You have other children
giving bad guidance. But most annoyingly, you have the sense that you are not
centered in what you want to accomplish. You feel as if your primary focus is
to please or appease other people to keep their business.
What I want, mostly, is to rid my life of that kind of stress.
My other businesses are about people coming to me, specifically, for my advice
and practitioner training as a hypnotist, life coach and yogi. If they don’t
want to be here, they simply don’t come back. If they find themselves immersed
into effective work that changes their lives, they stay, sometimes, for long
periods of time.
Ultimately, as I get older, I don’t want the feeling deep
in the pit of my heart that everything I do is being judged, not just by my
client, but by everyone who hears that person sing, act, or dance. The student,
in so many ways, becomes an unfair branding of I am.
As lovely as it has been to be a grand part of so many
young people’s lives and careers, it has also been the hardest part of my life.
Especially, when you help them to major achievements and some other teacher or
mentor decides to swoop in and take over their career.
What hurts is that, suddenly, you are no longer the person
who has helped mold that student to the place deserving of all the accolades. I
can’t tell you how many times that has happened in my 30 years of teaching. I
don’t want that feeling anymore. Even though, most of the time, the student
realizes that the tangent he or she went on after leaving me wasn’t usually the
best for him or her, it still hurts during the process.
Change for me is about closing the door to inevitable
hurt. This is similar to deciding that, when you begin the dating process, that
you are going to get to know someone for 3 months before you delve into an
intimate relationship. You make this change because you don’t want undo hurt in
your life. You know that if you were to make a swift move toward intimacy,
there would be a strong chance that your heart would bond to someone you may
not know at all. Been there too. I don’t want that kind of hurt either.
So, we stay the course of change, no matter how hard it
becomes. We know that the unction deep in our hearts is from Spirit God.
Because of this strong knowledge, we set our goals to a path less traveled. We
breathe in divine inspiration, only to find that we can still see our old path
in the distance. It’s a stone’s throw away. We know what to expect there,
though it may be hurt or pain. As we look down the pathway of this new road, we
see open space, unhindered by the past and a palate for God to create something
new and wonderful.
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Go to Week 3
of the “Year to CLEAR
Challenge” at www.Bosebastian.com
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Below is information that I will be sharing for about a
month, as not every person on my list reads the blog every day. If you have
already read it, just skip over it. Thanks for understanding.
A
Year to CLEAR Challenge:
(Please Know: You Can Join Us At Any Point in the Year
Challenge.)
The masses search outward for things that qualify them as a
person, but I always go inward for that which quantifies me for greatness. At
twenty-five I preached on street corners in NYC as an in-the-closet Pentecostal
minister. One day I heard a still small voice say, ‘God cannot be contained in a
book or a law or even in a religion. Dig deeper, reach further to find me, and
you will find your authentic Self.’”
A Year to CLEAR Challenge!
The acronym CLEAR
stands for (Compassionate, Loving,
Enthusiastic, And Relationship-Ready). The goal of this project is to
engulf readers in a weekly study that will transform them by removing blocks,
promote self-growth, and give them wings to fly freely into daily life. Each
week, by going to BoSebastian.com and choosing the Year to CLEAR Challenge tab,
a new challenge or thought to provoke conversation, growth, and group
functionality.
My vision is to make Finding Authentic You the book to
have in your Kindle or on your computer. The book is a comprehensive look at
growth—spiritually, mentally, and physically.
As a yoga teacher and student of the Ayurvedic tradition, I bring
to the table understanding of physical challenges, the ability to overcome
mental problems with Life & Health Coaching, as well as hypnotherapy, and
expertise in meditation and spirituality as a minister.
The combination of all three in one book with an interactive
connection to like-minded readers, for one year, is what makes this Year to
CLEAR Challenge a must-do for every spiritual seeker.
The One-Year Approach to Change
No one believes he or she can change overnight. But success in
change comes from the metaphors of nature. Seasonally, life changes all around
us in nature. Finding Authentic You offers a gradual change perspective,
looking at the triune aspects of change as in yoga: Body, Mind and Spirit.
Accessing the
ability to change and finding
yourself actually pursuing change must be a daily search, which I call
getting to the “observer mind.”
In this frontal cortex of the brain we find the anatomy of change
and the power to counter every negative trigger of the human process. The
workings of Hypnosis, NLP (Neuro-linguistic Programming) and EMDR (Eye Movement
Desensitization and Reprocessing) are all positive actions to help the mind and
body flow to a positive space for change.
Every aspect of FINDING AUTHENTIC YOU fulfills this
constant need for diffusing the negative past and dreaming of a fulfilling
future.
Step 1: Recognize That Change is Inevitable
Step 2: Release from Resistance
to Change
Step 3: Understanding Change and Allow Spirit to Define It
Step 4: A History Lesson—About You
Step 5: Look at Your Past with Compassion
Step 6: Making a Strong Commitment to Change
Step 7: Dream Your Fabulous Future
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Bo Sebastian is a Hypnotherapist and Life & Health
Coach, available for private sessions to QUIT SMOKING, Lose Weight, New
Lap-Band Hypnosis for Weight Loss, CHANGE YOUR MIND, CHANGE YOUR LIFE! at
615-400-2334 or www.bosebastian.com.
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