From the Other Side: Compassion #compassion #feelingenergy #spiritualadvice #livingtruth

Compassion comes in many packages. One of the greatest ways we can use our compassion is to imagine what another person feels, thinks, or why she is acting a specific way. This kind of compassion deflects our own need to fight back, retreat, or explain our opinions in the face of a seemingly negative attack or action.

As a life coach, often I will have an opinion about a client’s choice. I always have to ask myself if it is necessary for me to voice that opinion or for the client to come to the conclusion on his own, with some good advice.

I have realized that when I come down too hard on anyone with an opinion, I sound like I am dictating, not advising. No one ever feels good when they are treated as if they are wrong. Even children, want to feel as if we always have come to our own good conclusions.

So, the trick in dealing with your children, your spouse, or your best friend is to never stick your nose too deeply into their decisions before you are asked. And, even when you are asked, remember your words could come back to bite you in the butt. If, for instance, you help a friend leave a spouse, and that same person returns to the relationship. Every bad word you have ever said about the spouse is still out there in the universe waiting to come back at you.

Even our opinions about addiction and any bad behavior can come back to us, especially if a person who has been sober for 10 years and decides to start drinking again. That friend, though he or she has been your best buddy as a sober person, may decide that your friendship is dependent upon your ability to accept them as they are.

Am I saying that we should ALL keep our opinions to ourselves? Well…

How many times has voicing your opinions really changed another person’s point of view? There is a real difference between living your truth and ranting. Honestly, I’ve learned to keep my opinionated side out of life and stick to Truth. Live it! Share it! And you will never have to take back your words.

Today is not an easy spiritual lesson. Listen a little harder! Try to understand the reason a person says or does something. In so doing, should your response be one of total acceptance and love? Or, should you express your distaste and risk losing a close friendship?

I believe you will find this exercise interesting, as this is a balancing act with your own ego as well as a spiritual lesson in compassion.

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This year, if you desire to commit to a change for a New Year’s Resolution, do it with your MIND first. Remember, as in the title of my new book coming out just in time to help you with this (in January)… lol… that all change happens in your mind, first. You must change your Old Story, to make a consistent and long lasting change in Your Life.

Please be looking for “YOUR NEW STORY, YOUR NEW LIFE, Unlock Your Seven Spiritual Discoveries” in bookstores and in online bookstores in January 2016!

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Are you in need of Life or Spiritual Coaching? I've been a life coach and clinical hypnotherapist and minister of New Thought for 25 years. I do my sessions online, so you can even have your session in bed, so that you can go directly to sleep during the hypnosis session. You must have a laptop or a notebook to do these sessions, either on Skype or Facetime. You can give me a call at 954-253-6493. My fee is $95 for an hour

You can find all of my Books by Category at http://www.bosebastian.com/new-page/ All of these books have been birthed from my own spiritual growth. I guarantee you'll enjoy how each will help you maintain a positive mind, body, and spirit. Also, if you click on the Amazon site, you'll see all of my 15 book— Cookbooks, Novels, Self-Help Books, a Yoga DVD! All great gifts from your friend—Bo Sebastian. Simply go to this link at www.Amazon.com or type in my name. Find great gifts for yourself, family members, and friends by supporting another friend in the process! Thank you.

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A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian

What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]

A Seed of Faith #faith #spiritualadvice #DivineMind #ScienceofMind #SpiritualLiving

I have a client who is suffering and in pain almost constantly. When we have sessions, he spends the first 15-20 minutes in tears, wishing… hoping… that his symptoms would change, but he is rather certain that they will not. During these initial moments of listening and giving compassion, I—the practitioner—have to stand steady with my truth about that person. I must hold on to my own belief about him, no matter what his condition has become. Why is this so?

First of all, if you plan to help anyone out of a painful situation, you must not lose your hope and vision of that person’s wholeness. The molecules of faith you bring to the conversation can turn the situation around in a matter of moments, if you stay grounded in your belief.

If you do not stay grounded and acquiesce to the idea that this person will never get better, then you bring to the table the same negative energy as the person in pain. This only directs the creative energy of the universe in the way of pain. You have to be the deciding force that shifts the energy to positivity. You can only do this, if your mind is fixed on the Truth.

What is the truth about anyone? Here are some examples I say to myself:

1. The same molecules that made the ocean and the beautiful sky also made this person.
2. The same healing energy that heals a cut or a bruise must also be present in his body to heal other kinds of disease.
3. His body is whole already, because Source made it whole. I must see this wholeness NOW and believe it completely.
4. The Law allows me to sow seeds of truth in and around this individual that will grow into thriving life. As I plant these seeds, I must have faith in the power that turns the seeds into a fruit-bearing tree.
5. The same energy that turns a caterpillar into a beautiful flying creature is within this person in pain, ready to change this individual’s pain to wholeness.

If I can keep my sight set on these kinds of truths, I notice that within about twenty minutes, we are laughing together. It is then I have the opportunity to share what I believe about him—to him.

When I begin to confess what I believe aloud, he also begins to see himself whole. Now, we have two people believing the truth about this man. Our energetic power becomes exponential in the Universe. With this, healing begins to manifest.

I know this for certain that the tiniest molecule of faith can turn a disaster into beauty.

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Are you in need of Life or Spiritual Coaching? I've been a life coach and clinical hypnotherapist and minister of New Thought for 25 years. I do my sessions online, so you can even have your session in bed, so that you can go directly to sleep during the hypnosis session. You must have a laptop or a notebook to do these sessions, either on Skype or Facetime. You can give me a call at 954-253-6493. My fee is $95 for an hour.

You can find all of my Books by Category at http://www.bosebastian.com/new-page/ All of these books have been birthed from my own spiritual growth. I guarantee you'll enjoy how each will help you maintain a positive mind, body, and spirit. Also, if you click on the Amazon site, you'll see all of my 15 book— Cookbooks, Novels, Self-Help Books, a Yoga DVD! All great gifts from your friend—Bo Sebastian. Simply go to this link at www.Amazon.com or type in my name. Find great gifts for yourself, family members, and friends by supporting another friend in the process! Thank you.

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A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian

What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]

Immersed in a Different Perspective #spiritualadvice #peaceofmind #ScienceofMind #SOM #SpiritualLiving

We cannot ever really understand someone else beside ourselves. We can imagine. We can speculate. But, we cannot live in those shoes we think we fit into. This is somewhat like the Stepsisters in Cinderella. We may think we should be the prince’s spouse, but the shoes simple don’t fit. So, how do we develop any kind of compassion for others if we never really understand completely what another person thinks or feels?

I had a very interesting experience this past weekend. I have been studying Spanish intensely for the past eight months, sometimes four hours a day. However, when I finally hired a private tutor (who lives in Colombia, SA) I realized I knew very little to nothing about communicating with the Latin community in general. In fact, the different sects of Latinos in Florida all spoke with very different dialects than the Colombian one I was learning and much more rapidly than seemed possible to understand.

At first, I thought I would never be able to understand anyone in the community. I almost gave up hope, especially after I completed the Rosetta Stone course and still couldn’t understand what sounded as foreign as an Asian speaking in his native tongue.

So, I took a different tact. I decided I would spend the next couple of months immersing myself in the culture, listening to Spanish television and music, finding Latin friends, and doing more observing than trying to communicate. As a result, yes, you guessed it, I absorbed the necessary content I needed to begin to communicate. I also lost the fear of “not knowing” the correct word or phrase—and simply dove into the culture.

This past weekend I went on vacation with a friend who knows about 100 words in English. He moved to the U.S. on a visitor’s visa from Venezuela. So, I decided that I would spend at least 90% of my time speaking Spanish while I was away. I even spoke Spanish to the people at the hotel pool, at the beach, in the restaurants, and wherever we went. The only time I didn’t speak Spanish was when I had to explain something to Piter, my friend, and then help him learn a new English word. So, I learned by immersion.

But, what I did not figure on happening was that I was embraced by another community in doing so. Suddenly, I was one of a extended family who is, perhaps, sometimes looked down upon as different. I was not an observer, but a part of the pack. The experience was a happy one. Not only was I proud to be understanding and communicating in a different language, but I also embraced something new about compassion.

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Are you in need of Life or Spiritual Coaching? I've been a life coach and clinical hypnotherapist and minister of New Thought for 25 years. I do my sessions online, so you can even have your session in bed, so that you can go directly to sleep during the hypnosis session. You must have a laptop or a notebook to do these sessions, either on Skype or Facetime. You can give me a call at 954-253-6493. My fee is $95 for an hour.

You can find all of my Books by Category at http://www.bosebastian.com/new-page/ All of these books have been birthed from my own spiritual growth. I guarantee you'll enjoy how each will help you maintain a positive mind, body, and spirit. Also, if you click on the Amazon site, you'll see all of my 15 book— Cookbooks, Novels, Self-Help Books, a Yoga DVD! All great gifts from your friend—Bo Sebastian. Simply go to this link at www.Amazon.com or type in my name. Find great gifts for yourself, family members, and friends by supporting another friend in the process! Thank you.

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A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian

What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]

Listening vs. Analyzing #compassion

Nowhere is the skill of listening more important than in expressing compassion. Who hasn’t been in a situation, when all you needed was an ear to listen; but, instead, you got someone who tried to solve your problem. Sometimes, being heard is just enough to make you feel secure and loved.

We have different voices that operate in our minds to keep us in check. The voice of our body operates with hunger, physical needs, aches, and pains. The voice of the deductive mind helps us be able to add 2 + 2 and manage our appointments throughout the day. Lastly, we have our inductive or spiritual mind. This part of our mind dreams, imagines, and observes without judgment. We call this part of our thinking our God Mind.

This God Mind is the mind with which we listen in times of compassion. We don’t have to listen with our deductive mind, because we want to observe rather than deduct and be more of a conduit for love. In other words, when we act in a loving and compassionate way, we want to channel God through us, instead of using our Ego to help another person.

Yes, in this God mind, you may find yourself saying something out of character, but flow with it and allow yourself to fully express as Spirit. You will be dumbfounded by how different you feel in times of duress. You may even experience complete joy and fulfillment, even when someone else is feeling bad. What you now feel is the pure abandonment of loving with the Spirit of God through you. How different we all feel when we let go of the idea that we have to do anything to manage others. When we simply take the hand of someone in need and reach deep into the pocket of our soul, we find that God is more than willing to do the rest for us and as us.

 

 If you are a gay man or woman, you may want to direct your gaze to my newest blog: Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. This blog is an extension of my Facebook page (https://www.facebook.com/UncommonGaySpiritualWarrior/) and group meetings about the rare combination of spirituality and "being gay" defines the most important part of us, even in relationship. Join me at: http://uncommongayspiritualwarrior.blogspot.com/. 

A Cookbook, a Novel, a Self-Help Book, a Yoga DVD! All great gifts from your friend—Bo Sebastian. Simply go to this link at www.Amazon.com or type in my name. Find great gifts for yourself, family members, and friends by supporting another friend in the process! Thank you.

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Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]

 

 

Cath Labs, Cute ER Doctors, & Compassionate Pain #relationshipadvice #compassion #falsealarm #sympatheticpain #heartattacks

Cath Labs, Cute ER Doctors, & Compassionate Pain
#relationshipadvice #compassion #falsealarm #sympatheticpain #heartattacks

Three years ago, my mother had been complaining about pain in her arm, she felt dizzy most days, and her energy level had been depleting on a consistent basis. Of course, I booked an immediate doctor’s appointment and got her checked out. At first, her problem appeared to be her carotid artery. So, no emergency there. But, when she had a heart work-up, it appeared she needed a stent or two, because she had blockages in a couple of her arteries, and stents are small mesh tubes that are used to treat narrow or weak arteries, which move blood from the heart.

As I scheduled the appointment, went diligently through the motions of getting to the hospital catheterization lab, early in the morning, for all the tests that would prepare her for the stent operation; I, then, went through the grueling process of waiting. My oldest sister, my mom’s best friend and I were at the helm, getting coffees, taking rotations to the bathroom, and to the cafeteria. Three hours later, the family was called to the hallway to have a meeting with Mom’s heart specialist. He told us that Mom’s blockage was way to bad for a stent, and she had to have an emergency triple bypass. Only one of us would get to talk with her before she was given anesthesia. I was chosen.

When a parent, close relative, child, or friend is in a life-threatening situation, the worst goes through your mind. I wondered if my mother would make it out of this operation alive. Had I been a compassionate son? What was the last thing I had said to her, when she complained over and over about the same aches and pains? Did I make it to the batter’s plate, time and time again, when God called me to be a good son? Many pertinent questions filled my mind as I wandered the winding halls of the basement laboratories to find my mother in a tiny, curtain-drawn cube, alone and scared.

I couldn’t grab her fast enough and hold her tightly, while we both cried. She was in shock. Though I, also, was in shock, I told her she would be fine and that I would be the last face she would see before the operation and the first she would see afterward. My mom and I have a very close bond, albeit somewhat codependent relationship. No one in the world loves me more and is prouder of me than her. I can count on that love daily. So, losing her would be a heartbreak, for sure.

Hours past before we heard that she was okay and in recovery. All who were close, spent the next few days taking turns in the hospital, making sure she never had to make a decision alone after what she had gone through. When she returned home, she recovered quickly. In fact, I’ had never seen anyone go through bypass surgery with such ease. She was on a treadmill the day after the operation and out of the hospital door in two more days. When I had to give her a shower, her scar frightened me more than leaving her alone to wash the places of her body I couldn’t and wouldn’t want to reach.

Two days after her return home, I began to have pains in my chest. I couldn’t catch my breath. Suddenly, I was afraid I was having the very same heart problems my mother had just had. Of course, I told no one—especially her. I simply went to an emergency doctor’s appointment and got my sister to take care of my mom. After ten minutes in the doctor’s office and an echo cardio test of my heart, the physician announced, “Don’t be frightened, but I think you’re having a heart attack! A gurney will be here in two minutes and you’ll be wheeled to the emergency room for more tests. Thanks for visiting us!”

After eight long hours on a hard bed, back and forth to the Cath lab, tons of cute doctors and nurses checking me out, and me checking them out, I was diagnosed with GAS! You heard it right. Twenty thousand dollars later, I had gas. Since I hadn’t eaten in eight hours, I didn’t even have gas anymore. What I did have was frustration, anger, and a very hungry stomach, and possibly, some relief.

So, what did I learn from this situation? Sometimes, when you are so compassionate to someone whom you love, dealing with a stressful situation, or not taking care of yourself because of the aforementioned, you can end up having sympathetic pains, compassionate heart attack symptoms, and, you guessed it—gas!

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[Chosen to show his new hypno-therapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and Given the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian, the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior, helps people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE. Challenge yourself with one of his 13 books, healing CDs (weight loss, meditation, smoke cessation and more) or his Yoga DVD on Amazon or Amazon/Kindle: Click here to go directly to Amazon to looks at my bookshelf.]

Compassion: The Most Important Aspect of Love

Compassion: The Most Important Aspect of Love

I have felt love for a pet, love for a person, love for a car, love for a home, love for a vacation spot, and love for a friend. But, never have I had compassion for anything or anyone until I learned to love myself. This kind of love includes acceptance of the past and all future mistakes, love of your physical body, true kindness to yourself in the form of challenges you may have in certain physical or mental arenas, and most specifically kindness to yourself when you are healing from a traumatic event.

Compassion is not something that is earned—ever. Compassion is the ability to come outside yourself and the situation and become an observer in a God-sense. Compassion is the ability to look at the entire picture of life—sometimes with many pieces missing in the puzzle—as if you were writing the plot and the characters, then challenging each of character to his/her highest self.

I remember a time in my life when I was a minister in NYC trying to live a life of total celibacy. I had been completely celibate for about five years when an old friend and the first person I truly loved re-entered my life.  I was trying to live life without sex primarily, because, at that time, I thought it was a sin to be gay. So, I cut myself off from sensuality completely as a form of punishment for feeling a way, I thought, I shouldn’t be acting on.

When Tim came back into my life, he was happily practicing a homosexual lifestyle and felt completely comfortable with himself. I remember wanting to set him “straight” and tell him that his behavior was out of line from God’s will.

Then something hit me—hard! I heard the voice of spirit say to me, “You are not to tell Tim anything. It is YOU who needs to consider that your feelings are more about jealousy that Tim accepts himself fully and you don’t accept yourself at all.”

As I had been taught by ministers and overseers, I tested the spirit speaking to me, “Are you of the spirit of God and believe that Jesus died for the sins of the world?” (That was the prayer I was told to say whenever I heard a voice speak to me in an audible voice. We believed, then, that many spirits had the ability to speak, so you had to be very specific about what voice you listened to. I would still consider this belief true. However, I may just listen to my heart to decide if the voice was from God or from my ego.)

I tested and tested the spirit for confirmation that it was God. It was, indeed, God talking to my heart. There was no ridding my mind of the inherent struggle that was “not loving myself as a Son of God.” I recognized in that moment that my wants and desires as a human were not something I needed to stifle, but something I should run toward to understand myself and love who I had been created to be even more.

It took me a few more years of fighting with my inner feelings, before I left the ministry and fled New York to come to Nashville to “find myself.” I figured if I couldn’t love and be compassionate of me for the exact person I had been created, then I needn’t go any further in trying to teach others to love.

My journey to loving and accepting myself has been a long one. I think it is only recently I truly believed that I deserved true love from a wonderful person without diminishing myself in the relationship.

I had lunch with a friend today. We traded stories about diminishing for others to keep love active in our lives and how detrimental it had been to our psyches. The conversation was another reminder that I am only as strong as I can be compassionate—first, for myself, then for others.

My strength is in my ability to look at myself and others through the loving lens of God’s compassion. Everyone has a story, a background, and a past. All of these attributes contribute to his/her actions and the inability to love fully and completely. Most people don’t truly love themselves, so it would be right and correct to say that the majority of the people you meet in a day are not going to treat you with the compassion and love you deserve.

Should that stop any of us from treating others with compassion and love? I certainly hope not. Every day, I seek to let go of expectation of how others should behave and focus solely on maintaining my authentic self. I hope you can try with me to do the same today.

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Bo Sebastian is a Hypnotherapist and Life & Health Coach, available for private sessions to QUIT SMOKING, Lose Weight, New Lap-Band Hypnosis for Weight Loss, CHANGE YOUR MIND, CHANGE YOUR LIFE! at 615-400-2334 or www.bosebastian.com.

I am trying to spread the word about my blog and I need your help. Please let your friends know it exists, if it gives you hope and blesses you each day. If you are looking to enter the RSS or Atom Feed, you have to go to the home page of the blog to get there. Also, I write this Blog as a part of Finding Authentic You Ministries. If you would like to send an offering or a tithe, your donation would greatly be appreciated: 5001 Maywood Drive, Nashville, TN 37211.  And I would be greatly pleased for you to share anything that you read by clicking the share button in Facebook.com/bo.sebastian, or add it to your Twitter at BoSebastian; or LinkedIN at Bosebastian5@gmail.com; or find this blog home at www.FindingAuthenticYou.com. Any of my books can be found on Amazon or Barnes and Nobel, just by typing my name in the search header.

Basic Understanding

Basic Understanding

When it comes to true understanding, there is no one more compassionate than a mother-type. I say mother-type, because some mothers are not motherly at all. But a true example of love is a small child nested at his/her mother’s chest in perfect harmony. That love transcends time and seems to continue no matter how old the child gets.

I heard a very interesting story about a child who didn’t get the love of a mother, because the mother died in a car accident when the child was one. The young girl who died came from an abusive home. Six months before she died, she discovered she had a stepbrother who became instantly bonded with her. When the young girl died, the stepbrother took the child to raise when he was only eighteen years old.

He told me that he felt compelled to give the child a better life than his, better than his stepsister’s. So, he went to college, had his mother babysit when he was at work or at school, and together they raised the child, until his mother passed away. But there was a small glitch in the process.

When the child was five years old, the young man came home to find the baby girl had been whisked away by her grandparents. Because the young man had never legally adopted the child and because it was long enough ago that Internet wasn’t available, he couldn’t find a lawyer who would take the case, or couldn’t track down the grandparents on his own.

Eventually, someone slipped up and the grandparent’s whereabouts were discovered. The young man was afforded the legal aid that helped him regain total custody of the child. He raised her until she is now an adult and is 25 years old.

She is engaged. So, basically, this man is the only mother-type this young woman knows. In talking to him, I could tell that he held within his heart the basic instinct of a mother. Locked inside him were the maternal and paternal caring features that make his bond so very touching and special and his story good enough to become a book some day, as he has an agent and some perspective publishers interested.

What a wonderful human-interest story. For me, it was way more about how God brought my friend into his stepsister’s life right before she died to care for the child. God knew that he would be the perfect person to raise her. But even so, raising the child wouldn’t go without its obstacles, even if it were meant to be.

Sometimes, we look at life as if it is supposed to have this perfect, unwavering road that leads to our destinies. When we truly never find real happiness or the perfect path to joy and purpose unless we take roads that we would never have expected to take that are covered over with rocks, poison ivy, and jagged glass.

These are the times and adventures we remember the most in life. These are the true passionate moments of our lives when we truly lived every millisecond to the fullest with every cell in our bodies.

Basic Understanding of living life to the fullest takes a true knowledge of understanding how to be in the perfect Now and how to provide all your presence of spirit and mind to that moment perfectly and without hesitation. That, my friend, takes practice.

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Bo Sebastian is a Hypnotherapist and Life & Health Coach, available for private sessions to QUIT SMOKING, Lose Weight, New Lap-Band Hypnosis for Weight Loss, CHANGE YOUR MIND, CHANGE YOUR LIFE! at 615-400-2334 or www.bosebastian.com.

I am trying to spread the word about my blog and I need your help. Please let your friends know it exists, if it gives you hope and blesses you each day. If you are looking to enter the RSS or Atom Feed, you have to go to the home page of the blog to get there. Also, I write this Blog as a part of Finding Authentic You Ministries. If you would like to send an offering or a tithe, your donation would greatly be appreciated: 5001 Maywood Drive, Nashville, TN 37211.  And I would be greatly pleased for you to share anything that you read by clicking the share button in Facebook.com/bo.sebastian, or add it to your Twitter at BoSebastian; or LinkedIN at Bosebastian5@gmail.com; or find this blog home at www.FindingAuthenticYou.com. Any of my books can be found on Amazon or Barnes and Nobel, just by typing my name in the search header.