Five Steps to Avoiding Negativity #negativethoughts #anxiety #sadmemories

Here are five steps that will change your life, will dissolve any negative thinking that causes you anxiety, and will help you define a better and healthier lifestyle:

1. Do your own thinking! Don’t let the world or anyone in your life think FOR you. We spend our lives being judged by others. Sometimes, we believe other’s judgments are the truth. What you believe about yourself matters. Other’s beliefs about you simply are not the truth. Everything you think about yourself will eventually find its way to the surface and express itself completely. So, if you let others judgments get inside your mind, you will eventually BE what other think you are.
2. Back off! Step away from other’s lives and your problems. Take time to observe your problems and joys present right now. If you deal with issues from another person, see what the situation would feel like if you let go of expectations. Don’t expect anyone to change. Remember that everyone has a right to be miserable. You just don’t have to be miserable with him/her.
3. Think about what you are saying YES to. Are you going on through life saying yes or agreeing with things that don’t resonate with your soul or ideals? If so, start saying no! Sometimes our curse in life is that we are too kind and people take advantage of us. If this is the case, usually our life load is heavier than others, making life more difficult to manage. Start saying no, when you simply don’t feel as if you need another thing to manage.
4. Argue with your own negative attitude! When something anxious or debilitating goes through your mind, argue with it. You would not let others feed you the kinds of negative thoughts your own mind feeds you. So, why not argue with your own mind. What you will do is force yourself to make better, more accurate, assessments of reality by using self-inquiry.
5. Learn HOW to think, not WHAT to think! This is the most important aspect of these five steps. In traditional religion, we are all taught that things are either bad or good. The laws of our country teach us what we should and shouldn’t do. Parents, family, and friends give us their opinions about what they think.
   
   So, basically, we are nudged into WHAT to think about life and ourselves. There is nothing autonomous or powerful about spending your life in other’s beliefs. Begin to understand yourself—your wants, your spiritual beliefs, and your truths. You will make great strides forward in your life, if you begin taking steps towards being a strong believer of your own truth. Then, it will be easier to walk in the pathway toward your perfect desires with strength and fortitude. You’ll be a better person for it!

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Letting Go

Letting Go

I sat at the movies watching “Silver Linings Playlist” and suddenly my heart began to pound out of my chest. I felt as if all the doors in the theater were being locked. I was transported back to a time in my life when my father was drunkenly beating up my brother to a pulp. I lay on the top bunk for a half of the scenario. Then I jumped out of bed and ran to the neighbor’s house for help.

I watched from an observer’s perspective as my entire body seized with pain and anxiety. I had to leave the theater or I would have curled up in a ball and cried like a baby. PTSD had hit me and hit me hard.

This, however, was the first time in my life I had really been able to watch what was happening. Maybe, because I understood what was going on, the experience hit me harder than I had ever remembered. I drove home, which I don’t recommend, and called a therapist friend as I drove (another bad decision). After fifteen minutes of talking me down from the bridge, I realized I was driving in the wrong direction. I had been disoriented enough that I didn’t even know where home was. I ended up 10 minutes from Columbia, going in the complete opposite direction.

Since then, I have had a few PTSD moments. A couple of them have happened during the night. A dream sparked some terrible anxiety in me. I had to get up, do some EMDR exercises and meditate before I was able to get back to sleep.

Can you release something that your body and mind doesn’t want to let go of? This is a question I have asked myself many times. I believe that whatever anxiety or stress is holding on like glue, will someday—with clear, empowered belief and therapy—will be released.

My point in all of this is that now I am seeing what is happening as it is happening. I had never understood why I would act out of character sometimes and get cold and withdrawn. Now, I’m perfectly aware—so, aware, that I can ask my partner to help me as these emotions are surfacing.

Great relationships are wonderful when someone is compassionate enough to help you work through some deep issues. I suspect that God intended for us to work out most of our deepest relationship issues with our life partner, because he or she understands us in a way no one else does or would care to.

If you deal with this kind of stronghold, I recommend starting with some therapy. Many practitioners of all kinds exist to help people with disabling problems. Choose the modality you feel is right for you by doing Google searches and seeing what therapy best suits your problem. For me, Hypnosis and EMDR, which are very similar modalities are the most effective when it comes to PTSD. In fact, a great deal of my family therapist and social worker therapists are using hypnotic techniques to uncover deeply seated fear and anxiety with Parts Therapy, breathing exercises, and Regression techniques, specifically developed all through hypnosis.

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