Showing posts with label subconscious mind. Show all posts
Showing posts with label subconscious mind. Show all posts

Thursday, February 20, 2014

Waking Up in a Fog #nightmares #revenge

Waking Up in a Fog #nightmares #revenge

Last night I woke up in the middle of the night. It was as if I were another person completely. I was vengeful, angry, and couldn’t get my mind back to peace for at least 30 minutes to fall back to sleep. Where exactly does our brain go when we sleep? Are we “out of body” or simply resting in our subconscious mind?

I believe that most dreams are metaphors representing something that bothers you in your awakened mind. To make sense of the dream you have to let every character in the dream be you. Even the inanimate objects many times have meaning. What is most significant to you when you awake from the dream is often the metaphor that needs your attention.

Let’s take my dream last night. I woke up wanting to exact revenge on a beloved person in my dream. Time didn’t fly by that quickly before I realized that the dream was simply showing me, I was hurt from the action of a friend. My reaction to the dream could have been completely different if I would have thought that the propensity for me to be vile and vengeful was the key. I played the part of the person I exacted revenge from and realized that was I, also. But the Ego would rather me focus on a way to get rid of my feelings than attend to them. If I were to believe the dream at face value, I may have considered that my feelings were justified and continued to focus on “getting back” at the person who hurt me, which only perpetuates anger in this world. We will never get anywhere, as a society, if we believe that fighting or blame is the answer. What we end up with is generating more anger and fighting.

I know that if I continue to sit with my feelings of hurt, I will eventually understand how to get over the pain and move on with my life. But if I choose to exact revenge and begin to try and hurt the person I love, because I’m hurt, I only complicate my problem. I’m sure you can see this issues as I explain it. But much harder is it when you are in the place of trying to heal from hurt.

Psychologists suggest that anger is the final stage of hurt. I would have to add my theory to this. I don’t think that anger at the person who hurt you is all that importance. I think that the anger that is healthy is the one that helps you realize you have spent far too long wallowing over the past and should move on. The anger should be at your own wasted time. This will prepare you to get on with your life and leave the past where it belongs, in the past!

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Saturday, May 4, 2013


Unconscious and Stressed

I woke up this morning after having a night filled with hateful dreams of being abandoned and unloved. This subconscious dream begs for my attention this morning. What exactly happens in the subconscious mind between the time you go to bed and wake up?

First of all, the subconscious mind hold the keys to many neuro-connections in the brain that can cause a movie to play in your mind that is untrue for you now. These connections started long before you had the opportunity to correct the thinking. When Mom left the room and didn’t come back for hours, you felt abandoned. You cried and cried, but she didn’t come for you. She, however, thought she was trying to train you for a full night of sleep. You, however, just recorded abandoned thoughts.

Dad left when you were young. You never saw him again until you were fifteen. He was drunk and uncaring. You recorded that no man will ever stay with you. All he was thinking about was his addiction. His situation had nothing to do with you.

Our lives are filled with these kinds of scenarios that don’t autocorrect in the brain when we realize that the situation was not about us. They stay permanently locked in the subconscious mind.

In my case, last night was the first night I had to be without my new love. He was on a bus to a singing engagement. He called and texted ten times. There was secure connection in reality. I had no reason to feel what I felt. But when I fell asleep, all the old thoughts of abandonment from my childhood and from past relationships crept up from my subconscious mind and expressed themselves in dreams of despair.

The idea now is to wake up and reacquaint myself with the truth. This is the hard part. For some reason, we want to wallow in the negativity. It is the human process to do so. Outside it is raining and dreary today. I have SIDS, so weather really affects my outlook. This definitely is contributing to the feeling of sadness, though I have nothing to be down about at all. Truly.

So, this morning, I woke up and prayed. This was my prayer: “God, I know that you are unlimited love and good. I know that I am surround by that love and the love you have provided for me in my physical life. Help me feel and sense the awareness of that love now. Fill my mind with thoughts of reconciling my negative feelings with the truth of Who and What You are. Let me let go and let God, so that I can be a conduit of all that is loving in the world!”

I have to say that after the prayer, I am still sitting in a bit of funk, but then there is faith. Every time I feel sadness, I remember the prayer and recall the many times in my life when I thought I was unprotected and realized that God had everything in control.

These are the times in life when we must always come out of the human reptilian brain and observe in quiet compassion what we feel, how we act, and see the future through the eyes of omniscient love.

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