Showing posts with label self-deprecation. Show all posts
Showing posts with label self-deprecation. Show all posts

Monday, December 19, 2016

Self-Bullying? #bullying #self-deprecation #spirituality

Many people talk about the important issue of bullying in schools. Not many are talking about the daily bullying we do to ourselves. How many times a day do you call yourself a self-deprecating name, like “stupid,” or “idiot” or say something like: “how dumb could you be”?
If someone you don’t know very well bullies you or says something horribly mean to you, somewhere inside, you may realize that this person has no idea who you are. They are simply looking on the surface.
Imagine how your own subconscious reacts to you—the person who know you the best—whenever you call yourself a name. The habit is intrinsic in this society and often comes from seeing your failures as negative instead of learning experiences.
If you are 35 or older, you probably did not have parents who believed in talking things out and supporting your artistic desires. I know my dad wanted me to become a clone of him. Forget about the kids at school who only believed that jocks should succeed. These mean children and old-time, harsh parenting skills didn’t give us much self-esteem. In fact, it did just the opposite. It gave us the words we use against ourselves now when we think we have underachieved. So, how do we begin to get over the issue of Self-bullying?
First of all, you must know who you are in relationship to the world and ultimately—Spirit. If you understand that Source is one Mind and that you are connected, created by and shaped in the image of that Powerful Mind, then you will begin to see yourself as One in power.
Co-creators, which we all are, like children in the playground of the universe are always LEARNING by making mistakes. We set out to create with great intentions. Sometimes we succeed, sometimes we don’t. But, ultimately, we are always learning lessons to help ourselves do better the next time.
If you were the parent to a child who made a mess of his or her first art project, would you tear up the paper and tell the child he or she will never be an artist? Hell, no! You would teach the child slowly the process of learning to paint inside the lines, not to mix all the colors together, and perhaps give the child art lessons. We don’t demean our children these days for messing up. We help them learn to be better.
So, we must go back into our own minds and listen for the voice of self-deprecation. Listen hard and decide who is the face behind those mean words to yourself. Once you discover the who, you must have an internal discussion with that voice. The discussion should go something like this:
“Here’s what I know about me. There is only one Source, and that source is God the good. I am a product of that amazing Source of Love. Therefore, I am good. Everyone is created by this same Source, so we are, in some way, unified in mind—even if we see life completely differently and through different lenses.
“I’m thankful for knowing who I am, and I choose NOW to stop using these self-deprecating words that you have used against me in the past to make me feel small. I am and will continue to say words of truth to myself, encouraging myself to be the best, because I am made of the best.”

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If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?
Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian
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Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.
Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.
Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_ss_i_0_6?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=bo%20sebastian&sprefix=bo+seb%2Caps%2C190&rh=i%3Aaps%2Ck%3Abo%20sebastian]





Monday, March 2, 2015

I’d Rather Forgo That Heaven! #heaven #judgment #recipricaljudgment

For as long as I can remember, I have been told that bad people go to hell. This Christian promise was a perfect way for my parents to manipulate me to be good. I had images of heaven that were beautifully wrought with rainbow colors and angels playing harps. Who could forget the promise of roads made of gold, white majestic robes for the righteous, and beautiful mansions in the sky for those who made it through this human life without turning from God and omitting sin?

On the contrary, hell carried the unrighteous monsters—the angels that had been cast down from heaven for disobeying God. They burned in eternal fires like devils with red pokers along with the unrighteous humans who forsook God. With all that imagery thrust upon us as children, it’s no wonder each of us found it impossible to be good enough for heaven, then, and even now.

What if we simply decide to resist all this made-up bullshit about heaven and hell? What if we simply said: “I would rather forgo that kind of heaven, if the God there is that full of unrighteous judgment”?

In Mark 15:16, the scriptures ask the followers of Christ to lead people to Christianity by spreading the promise of heaven. In the years that I have been witness to spreading the word, the activity has been more like spreading a deadly virus that keeps only those who believe EXACTLY as the zealots or you die and burn! Listen, God had nothing to do with zealous people spreading their own versions of the truth. We must get that straight in our minds, before we make up our minds about Spirituality.

I’m beginning to believe that God has no anthropomorphic qualities at all, anyway. God, to me, is the tiniest particle in physics and the ever-expanding universe in the sky, the ocean that houses and feeds the millions of aquatic critters, and the same ocean that causes a tsunami. God is Spirit and God is all that is created, sustained, and fading with time.

If we are to believe that God is all in all, then it is not enough to believe that Spirit God is simply love! God is the creative force, the sustaining force, and also the destroying force of the universe. Every metaphor in the physical world leads us to believe that there is a beginning, middle, and end to everything human and physical. So, why is it that we only attribute the good to God and have provided a scapegoat—Satan—to have all the bad attributes of the world?

As believers of the expanding spiritual truths of New Thought Religion, we must embrace all of God and be okay with every aspect of the world. Being at peace with and desiring change can go hand in hand. With this we will truly begin to embrace our own juxtaposing human qualities. As a result become stronger, less self-deprecating, and learn to embrace all of the aspects of our creative, sustaining and destructive behaviors.
  • Remember, we need the destroyer for the power to get rid of negative thoughts, attributes in our lives that no longer serve us, and bad habits that cause our bodies to be depleted of nutrition and health.
  • We need our creative source to plant the seeds of dreams in the subjective field of consciousness; and
  • We need the sustaining force of God to maintain the good that we have harvested in the autumnal seasons of our lives.


Without all of these attributes, we are only 2-dimensional humans destined to fall behind in our spiritual growth, get poor, and seek to be led by mind control and religions that teach us what to do and how to do it like blind sheep.

By accepting that God is actually Spirit or Energy that is all in all, we step into adulthood as a child of God and the universe. Now, we can begin to be creators with God, as is our birthright!

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What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?
If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian
Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via SKYPE or FACETIME.)
www.bosebastian.com

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Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual WarriorGo directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]