Showing posts with label overcoming fear. Show all posts
Showing posts with label overcoming fear. Show all posts

Wednesday, November 18, 2015

What Is Fear Keeping You from Doing? #facingfear #poweroverfear #fearless #SpiritualLiving

When you face your fears in life, you will never regret your actions! Not one. When you feel a fear, realize it is more of a gauge than a hindrance. Fear is a natural impulse of the human, animal instinct. It provides you with safety and adrenaline to escape danger. However, in a world where you do not generally have to run away from lions, tigers, and bears, this natural impulse can turn on you and cause anxiety and stress, using the exact same chemicals that were supposed to protect you. So, you must begin to control the fear impulse and teach yourself what to do when your feel your fears triggered.

If you feel fear, the first thing to do is to look at your options. If you cannot see any, ask a friend or a therapist for help. The only reason why you feel trapped is because you cannot see a way out. So, finding a way to circumvent the fear is a good option.

Of course, the best way a healthy person can approach fear is to face it; talk to it, and figure out from where it came. For example: you have always wanted to be a singer, but every time you pick up a hymnal in church, a horrible fear runs through your body, forcing you to mouth the words, instead of sing. You’ve heard yourself sing in the shower. Your voice sounded a lot better than the 90-year old woman screaming out that high note, and yet, still nothing comes out of your mouth.

So, you decide to take a good look at that fear and face it. You go to a therapist. She helps you realize that when you were a kid, your first grade teacher asked you to mouth the words to a song in the choir, because you were singing off pitch. From then on, you have not only felt mute when it comes time to sing, but you feel afraid of being judged. Alas, you have found the reason for the fear.

The therapist suggests you take some vocal lessons to see just how good of a singer you are. On the first few lessons, you are still very frightened to let go. But, eventually, you get comfortable with your teacher and the exercises. Finally, you sing full-throttle. What comes out of your mouth is nothing near professional. In fact, it may still be a little off key. But, your teacher gives you some exercises in ear training to help that problem.

The path to understanding fear and facing it is really about discovering it. Perhaps, looking for its inception. Finding a way to face it and learn about it. Then, by slowly approaching it, you realize you had nothing to fear at all. In fact, you were much better than you thought you were. You may never become a professional, but you can sing proudly at church or maybe even join the choir someday.
Fear is simply a gauge. In fact, when something scares you now, you can know with certainty that the very thing that frightens you will be your new best friend!
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Are you in need of Life or Spiritual Coaching? I've been a life coach and clinical hypnotherapist and minister of New Thought for 25 years. I do my sessions online, so you can even have your session in bed, so that you can go directly to sleep during the hypnosis session. You must have a laptop or a notebook to do these sessions, either on Skype or Facetime. You can give me a call at 954-253-6493. My fee is $95 for an hour.

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You can find all of my Books by Category at http://www.bosebastian.com/new-page/ All of these books have been birthed from my own spiritual growth. I guarantee you'll enjoy how each will help you maintain a positive mind, body, and spirit. Also, if you click on the Amazon site, you'll see all of my 15 book— Cookbooks, Novels, Self-Help Books, a Yoga DVD! All great gifts from your friend—Bo Sebastian. Simply go to this link at www.Amazon.com or type in my name. Find great gifts for yourself, family members, and friends by supporting another friend in the process! Thank you.

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A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian
What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…
What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?
If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?
Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian
Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)
www.bosebastian.com

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual WarriorGo directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]





Wednesday, August 26, 2015

Overcoming a Negative Manifestation #sickness #blockingyourdream #pain #self-discovery #InfiniteMind #SOM

Have you ever had a dream—a big dream that you worked really hard at achieving? You spent many hours preparing for the day your dream would launch. Then, on the day or the day before you were about to step into your new life, you got really sick? This is my subject for today: How to prevent fear from overcoming your dream.

The best to help you understand is to start from a concept. Spirit is all in all, so SPIRIT CANNOT CHANGE. Spirit needed a place to create, so SOUL or the subjective mind was born. From the creative power of this MIND comes all things manifested into form. There is only one Mind—DIVINE MIND. However, when humans came into form, they also had a brain and also shared in Divine Mind, which gives them, not only the ability to think and create, but also manifest human instincts such as hunger, weakness, and fear! (Humans can possess powerful attributes, as well. But, the focus here is how our humanity can manifest flaws in our thinking to keep us from our best intentions.)

So, humans can possess the power of Spirit on a small level in this universe. We can dream, sow seeds of desire into the cosmic, creative mind field, and likely get a beautiful manifestation of that dream. It is from this process we learn a great deal about ourselves and what we believe we deserve.

Below is a personal example of humanness rising up as sickness on the precipice of a beautiful dream ready to manifest:

If you have been following my blog, ever since I have moved to Southern Florida for my Encore Career, I’ve been working on manifesting a new dream using the principles of The Science of Mind. To that end, a dear friend of mine and I have written, produced, choreographed, and are starring in a show called: “Broadway Tonight.” Our nine months of work are on the verge of blossoming. Observing the process from afar makes me sit in awe of the grandiosity of Spirit’s power THROUGH US, to create what we desire from our authentic self.

Yesterday, however, we were to film some of the show for a promotional video. Wouldn’t you know it, I woke up with laryngitis. I haven’t been sick with any kind of cough, cold, or throat problems for the entire time I’ve been in Florida. But, on the day of filming, my voice begins cracking all over the place.

If I were observing myself as a Life Coach, I would say that something inside of my mind doesn’t believe I deserve to have success. My humanness—in the form of laryngitis—is literally rising up against my Spirit and saying, “Nope. You can’t have your dream! You aren’t a creator, at all. I’ll take away everything you’ve been working for in a moment, IF YOU LET ME.”

It was in my morning prayer and meditation that I got the idea to simply confess what I know about myself and about the gift Spirit has given each one of us to create. I started like this:

“Spirit, I know that you are all in all, the force behind, in, and through all of the manifest universe and beyond. I am a part of that whole; therefore, I possess creative power. I’m thankful for this opportunity to understand myself and the fears that rise to the surface, now. I reach creative arm out into the Mind and Creative Energy of the universe and use what is mine to make changes and shifts in my life and in my consciousness. What I’m experiencing now as illness is simply a manifestation. Manifestations can be changed by consciousness. Today, I choose to change this manifestation of my laryngitis to wholeness for my voice, which I’m seeing complete and done now. I release my intention to the Law. And so it is!

All day, I didn’t mention anything to my business partner, for I didn’t want to give her (or anyone else, for that matter) my fear. I simply went through my day, believing that all would work out perfectly that evening. I warmed up vocally a couple of times. Both times, there were about eight notes in my range that sounded as if I were singing through gravel. My throat didn’t hurt, which made me believe I could overcome whatever it was that was manifesting as fear.

I treated myself with kindness. I exercised. I did yoga. I meditated. I ate great and healthy food. I read some positive, spiritual books. More importantly than that, I took the edge off of my fear by indulging into a movie on television, sitting around in my pajamas, and drinking hot tea. In other words, I wouldn’t let my mind create the paradigm I was sick. Instead, I simply made the afternoon and morning a spa day, to prepare for the evening’s performance.

Even on the drive to the filming, my voice was still doing some strange, unexpected things, but I kept saying to myself: Everything will be fine. Once I got dressed, did a sound check, and was ready to film, my voice was completely back to normal. In an instant. I kid you not. In fact, I may have sung some of the songs better than I had in the past.

Why? Because I believed strongly that I was in control of what manifested in my own body. Fear had no place in my dream! And in that moment and throughout that day, I allowed Spirit THROUGH ME to take what looked like something negative and make it a beautiful lesson about personal power!
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You can find all of my Books by Category at http://www.bosebastian.com/new-page/ All of these books have been birthed from my own spiritual growth. I guarantee you'll enjoy how each will help you maintain a positive mind, body, and spirit. Also, if you click on the Amazon site, you'll see all of my 15 book— Cookbooks, Novels, Self-Help Books, a Yoga DVD! All great gifts from your friend—Bo Sebastian. Simply go to this link at www.Amazon.com or type in my name. Find great gifts for yourself, family members, and friends by supporting another friend in the process! Thank you.

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A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian
What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…
What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?
If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?
Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian
Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)
www.bosebastian.com

If you are a gay man or woman, you may want to direct your gaze to my newest blog: Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. This blog is an extension of my Facebook page (https://www.facebook.com/UncommonGaySpiritualWarrior/) and group meetings about the rare combination of spirituality and "being gay" defines the most important part of us, even in relationship. Join me at: http://uncommongayspiritualwarrior.blogspot.com/.
Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.
Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.
Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual WarriorGo directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]





Monday, May 11, 2015

I Have a Dream: Life Without Fear #overcominganxiety #love #spiritualadvice #psychology #martinlutherking

I say to you, today, my friends, even though we face the difficulties of today and tomorrow, I still have a dream. It is a dream deeply rooted in all people’s dreams. I have a dream that one day this nation, this world, will rise up and live out the true meaning of our spiritual creed: “The foundation of the world is love. Each of us is created in love. And we all share in this perfect creative force.”

I have a dream that one day on the red hills of Sedona or in the Communism of Russia that the former slaves of fear and anxiety will be able to sit down with our adversary of fear in peace. I have a dream that our children and our children’s children will be transformed into an oasis of freedom, always securing our faith in this one perfect Love.

Even as Martin Luther King, Jr.’s speech, to which I have alluded to above, came at a time when none of us could imagine a world without prejudice and segregation, so, too, I bring you a dream that will conquer all of our insecurities, finally giving us the peace we all deserve for all of our tomorrows.

Yesterday, something happened to me in the face of confronting my own fear of abandonment. I realized that no one could leave me if I truly believed in my spiritual creed. If the world is formed in love, then nothing and no one can ever really leave me. The remnants of love still remain in tact all around me. Even my folded-up memories hold the power of either love or fear, when I imagine those who have gone away or have passed away.

I recalled one of the loves of my past. I suddenly realized that he was the same person as my current love, not in form, but in aspect. There is no difference in the aspect of love, just in the form in which it appears. So, my father’s is my current partner’s love, who is my past partner’s love, which are the arms of security in my future. Even if alone, I’m surround by love in everything and everyone—in the abundant soil, the expanding universes, and even in the voice of a character on television. My perception of love is what needs to transform to release from today’s binding fear. Yesterday, my shackles loosened in this revelation.

I was once a slave to fear. Now, I have realized that my credo had always liberated me into the secure arms of love. It is I who must change my beliefs. When I completely disarm the power of fear, I will live in total peace. I’m sure of this, as I am sure you will, also, be liberated.
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Today's featured book is “Finding Authentic You.” It's a book birthed from my own spiritual growth. I guarantee you'll love the 365 daily readings that will help you maintain a positive mind, body, and spirit. Also, if you click on the Amazon site, you'll see all of my 15 book— Cookbooks, Novels,  Self-Help Books, a Yoga DVD! All great gifts from your friend—Bo Sebastian. Simply go to this link at www.Amazon.com or type in my name. Find great gifts for yourself, family members, and friends by supporting another friend in the process! Thank you.

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A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian
What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?
If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

hummingbirdCreate a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian
Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)
www.bosebastian.com

If you are a gay man or woman, you may want to direct your gaze to my newest blog: 
Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. This blog is an extension of my Facebook page (https://www.facebook.com/UncommonGaySpiritualWarrior/) and group meetings about the rare combination of spirituality and "being gay" defines the most important part of us, even in relationship. Join me at: http://uncommongayspiritualwarrior.blogspot.com/. 
Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]



Monday, November 18, 2013

Enthusiastically Walking on Rain Water

Enthusiastically Walking on Rain Water

I often think of what it must have been like for the disciples of Jesus to have been frighten in a perilous storm while fishing. Then, they see Jesus walking toward them on the water. One apostle is so excited he wants to walk out to greet him. Peter walks out a few feet, but fear plunges him into the water.

In most cases in life, fear keeps us from walking on water, as well as pursuing the best for ourselves.

The etymology of the word Enthusiasm is two words; en, meaning “within” and Theos, which means “God.” So, enthusiasm actually means being within God. We can’t actually be enthusiastic about anything unless our hearts are open to the love of God—that lives and moves and has our being—not fear. 

Nashville has had a prediction that we are to have wild winds at five this evening and possibly tornados. The rain has fallen sideways all day. As I got out of my car for church, I stepped into a puddle deeper than my shoes. My lack of enthusiasm about the weather kept me from walking on the puddle as Jesus did, I guess. I plunged right in like Peter and never looked back.

The truth about my life and most people I know: we spend a great deal of time in fear, popping in and out of the miraculous, healing waters of God. Most of the time, though, we flop down head deep and struggle breathing. How can we be so amiss in our thinking? Do we truly believe that as children of God, that the Creator wants anything less for us than what any earthly parent would want for his/her children?

I believe that fear dwells in the state of the Ego mind. Is it our faults, that the default mechanism in each of our brains is fear? Fear does have its purpose in the human life. If we had no fear, we would all be rock climbing, diving off of bridges, and seeing what it felt like to jump from an airplane without a parachute. Fear has its purpose. But the wiring of fear in our brains also can get reprogrammed for other important things that should be wired for enthusiasm, such as living life.

How many people are stymied by small things like talking in front of people, singing, writing a resume, applying for a job, or making that first contact with a perspective intimate partner? Adrenaline, like a cocaine junky rush causes paralysis-like symptoms that keep us from the very things we want. If God is “without,” instead of within, everything outside of you has the power. We must stay within the spiritual boundary of God’s presence in our lives to keep the sense of security and safety within reach and, more importantly, to keep fear from paralyzing us.

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Go to Week 4 of the “Year to CLEAR Challenge” at www.Bosebastian.com

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Look for MY LATEST BOOK:  “Finding Authentic You, 7 Steps to Effective Change” with a Year to CLEAR (C-larity, L-ove, E-nthusiasm A-nd R-elationship-Ready) on my Website in the Webstore. Thanks!

Below is information that I will be sharing for about a month, as not every person on my list reads the blog every day. If you have already read it, just skip over it. Thanks for understanding.

A Year to CLEAR Challenge:
(Please Know: You Can Join Us At Any Point in the Year Challenge.)

The masses search outward for things that qualify them as a person, but I always go inward for that which quantifies me for greatness. At twenty-five I preached on street corners in NYC as an in-the-closet Pentecostal minister. One day I heard a still small voice say, ‘God cannot be contained in a book or a law or even in a religion. Dig deeper, reach further to find me, and you will find your authentic Self.’”

A Year to CLEAR Challenge!

The acronym CLEAR stands for (Compassionate, Loving, Enthusiastic, And Relationship-Ready). The goal of this project is to engulf readers in a weekly study that will transform them by removing blocks, promote self-growth, and give them wings to fly freely into daily life. Each week, by going to BoSebastian.com and choosing the Year to CLEAR Challenge tab, a new challenge or thought to provoke conversation, growth, and group functionality.

My vision is to make Finding Authentic You the book to have in your Kindle or on your computer. The book is a comprehensive look at growth—spiritually, mentally, and physically.

As a yoga teacher and student of the Ayurvedic tradition, I bring to the table understanding of physical challenges, the ability to overcome mental problems with Life & Health Coaching, as well as hypnotherapy, and expertise in meditation and spirituality as a minister.

The combination of all three in one book with an interactive connection to like-minded readers, for one year, is what makes this Year to CLEAR Challenge a must-do for every spiritual seeker.

The One-Year Approach to Change

No one believes he or she can change overnight. But success in change comes from the metaphors of nature. Seasonally, life changes all around us in nature. Finding Authentic You offers a gradual change perspective, looking at the triune aspects of change as in yoga: Body, Mind and Spirit.

Accessing the ability to change and finding yourself actually pursuing change must be a daily search, which I call getting to the “observer mind.”

In this frontal cortex of the brain we find the anatomy of change and the power to counter every negative trigger of the human process. The workings of Hypnosis, NLP (Neuro-linguistic Programming) and EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) are all positive actions to help the mind and body flow to a positive space for change.

Every aspect of FINDING AUTHENTIC YOU fulfills this constant need for diffusing the negative past and dreaming of a fulfilling future.

Step 1: Recognize That Change is Inevitable
Step 2: Release from Resistance to Change
Step 3: Understanding Change and Allow Spirit to Define It
Step 4: A History Lesson—About You
Step 5: Look at Your Past with Compassion
Step 6: Making a Strong Commitment to Change
Step 7: Dream Your Fabulous Future
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Bo Sebastian is a Hypnotherapist and Life & Health Coach, available for private sessions to QUIT SMOKING, Lose Weight, New Lap-Band Hypnosis for Weight Loss, CHANGE YOUR MIND, CHANGE YOUR LIFE! at 615-400-2334 or www.bosebastian.com. Please feel free to comment and/or sign up to receive your blog sent to you directly or stream with an RSS Feed.

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Also, look for MY LATEST BOOK:  “Finding Authentic You, 7 Steps to Effective Change” with a Year to CLEAR (C-larity, L-ove, E-nthusiasm A-nd R-elationship-Ready) on my Website in the Webstore. Thanks!