Bhagavad Gita—Your Religious Right!

Bhagavad Gita—Your Religious Right!

The Bhagavad Gita, often considered the Hindu bible, is actually a poem composed between the 2^nd century BC and the 2^nd century AD. It presents as a dialogue between the warrior prince Arjuna and his divine charioteer Krishna. It stresses the importance of doing one’s duty and faith in God.

As a young Christian adult, I was taught to stay away from books such as these, because they were inspired by Satan. As I saw what Ralph Waldo Emerson, one of my favorite writers, says of the Gita, I wondered about the influence of my judgmental past: “It was the first of books. It was as if an empire spoke to us, nothing small or unworthy, but large, serene, consistent. The voice of an old intelligence, which in another age and climate had pondered, and thus disposed of the same questions that exercise us.”

Henry David Thoreau wrote a quote of the Gita, as well: In the morning I bathe my intellect in the stupendous and cosmogonal… in comparison with which our modern world and its literature seem puny and trivial.”

So, as I had seen that Thoreau and Emerson thought this a worthy piece of divine literature, I began to immerse myself in some of its pages. Though rife with terms and names unpronounceable to my western lips, I find strings of hopeful messages, especially connected to the ancient yoga practice that has changed my way of life.

Today I read from Chapter 3, Text 1 on Karma-Yoga. Karma-yoga is one of the four paths of realization. It is, in its very basic form, putting your spirit self in action! In other words, finding good works for your soul. Karma-yoga can be something as simple as going behind your entire yoga class and cleaning up the mats and blankets—refolding and straightening in a meticulous manner. It could be getting the mail for an elderly couple next door, or pulling the garbage out to the street for a physically challenged adult.

Yesterday, I talked about listening to your body. What of your soul? Does your soul and mind thirst for knowledge of a new kind? Can you find that knowledge in the source that, perhaps, wounded you as a child? I am letting go of what I was taught by people and priests and teachers. I want to let Spirit guide my soul to divinity, wherever that may take me.

I do recognize, however, that this soul search has sometimes taken me to hell and back, but as Jesus also visited hell before the ascension, I feel in good company.  I haven’t as yet said that I am not a Christian, but when compared with the bias and fractious Christian communities around me, I am certainly not that or want to be that. I desire to find a home in perfect peace and God love. Meditation has definitely precluded all of my studies. But in the quietness of divine love, I have been led to study many different scriptures and books of wisdom.

In everything that I read, I throw away that which doesn’t serve me and take to heart that which moves me forward. I would suggest the same for anyone on a spiritual path.

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Relating Illness and Relationship

Relating Illness and Relationship

For the last few days I have been helping my mother recover from a stomach virus that started vehemently and ended rather quietly in the middle of the night. I camped out by her side and got up whenever I heard her grab the garbage can by her bed. She hadn’t been this weak since she was in the hospital for a triple bypass.

What is the difference between listening to your body and having to deal with the reactions of the body post not listening? When you don’t listen in any relationship, you usually end up, first, with misunderstanding. Eventually, if you keep avoiding communication you lose an integral part of the relationship called trust. When that happens, the relationship begins to unravel or move away from your life in, sometimes, harsh ways.

I believe the body acts in the same way as a person in relationship when you don’t listen to it. The body starts off whispering its needs. When the needs are not met, it begins to talk a little louder—small pains, nausea, no energy.

When you have not listened to the body after this amount of communication, the body begins to scream. This is when you feel heart attacks, the body shuts down, parts of your body have to be removed.

The body will treat you like divorce if you don’t listen, as in relationship. “If you can’t take care of me, I will find someone else to take care of me (doctors or hospitals) or leave you (parts of the body, such as organs and cancers, having to be removed),” is the basic message.

Soon after my mother recovered, I got the same illness. Sickness didn’t affect me as it did her. I had to get very quiet and sleep a lot, but I never had the same reactions as my mother did. I felt pain in my stomach, I felt on the verge of illness, but never had the full reaction as she did. Still, as I listened to my body, I heard that I simply needed to be still and rest. As I did what my body asked, I never really had the turbulent reaction. However, I did have a few severe moments of dizziness. When that happened, I simply got quiet again.

The flu is going around these days. A great deal of my friends and clients have contracted it. I’m sure I was just in the way of some transient microbes wanting to find rest in a warm human body. I didn’t consider this an affront to my luck or my general health. I simply dealt with the present. Some moments were quite nice, as I spent a great deal of time in meditation and contemplation.

I also ended up having a few wonderful moments of intimacy with my partner, as he sat quietly with me sharing a bit of our lives we had never talked about before. Had I not listened, I wouldn’t have had the opportunity to grow, nor would I have had the moments of depth in relationship we all yearn for.

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Ganesha Meets Jesus

Ganesha Meets Jesus

This morning at Centennial Park in Nashville, a melting pot of international flavor created fragrance from India to Egypt, filling the park with sounds of tabla and Indian chanting pirouetting through the sound system to meet many welcome ears. I felt as if I was in New York City for a few minutes. The blending of religions and lifestyles felt like a much-needed balm to my heart.

Accepting cultural and religious differences often lead closed minds to open to other lifestyles and beliefs. No person at this function tried to get anyone to convert to a different way of believing. Each simply offered a taste of what the native countries offered. This made the booths and entertainment more palatable and more intriguing than ever.

In Nashville we have one of the most beautiful Hindu temples in the US. When I first drove past, I wondered how such extravagance arrived without me knowing it. I became very intrigued and visited the temple. When I arrived, a gentle woman described the traditions and customs that I should expect while in the temple. She also made it very clear that this was not a museum, but a sacred temple used by people daily for prayer and spiritual growth—that I was to honor that or I would not be welcome. She wasn’t mean, but was clear. I appreciated that.

To tell you the truth, I was a bit surprised at the statues as I walked around the inside. In my mind, I imagined classic representations as the nature of the outside of the building. But instead, the statues were ornate with bold colors, much like the colors of saris lining a rather narrow hallway. No chair or benches were present. Pillows lined the floor in the main area.  

The friend who accompanied me understood a great deal about the tradition of the Hindi culture. He shared with me many stories about the origins of the beliefs. Each statue had a name and a purpose. This culture boldly embraces the idea of giving offerings and prayers to idol representations of their spiritual entities, whom they honor and treat as deities. Much of the culture influenced Buddhism, which I didn’t know. I realized quickly that I didn’t necessarily have to believe any of what this religion offered to actually appreciate its intricacies and lovely tradition.

I grew up Catholic, so statues of the Virgin Mary and every saint available lined neighbors’ yards and the small church we gathered at on Sundays. When I drove home last month, I visited St. Philemenas to find the doors closed and the hallways vacant. In fact, two of the three Catholic churches closed in Beaver Falls, leaving only one in the vicinity.

I was surprised to feel sad. I didn’t have fond memories of my small church. In fact, the main priest was very mean, and the nice one ended up in jail for pedophilia. The nuns were so angry that one slammed my sister’s fingers in her desk when she got caught chewing gum. My brother actually had his mouth washed out with soap for swearing—real soap. Yes, that is not just a saying.

Yet, here I stood with a tear my eye and feeling off kilter. Something had passed—and it saddened me. I realized in that moment that what felt like tradition suddenly had disappeared. In my mind it was a metaphor for how authenticity had been replacing representations of almost everything in my life. Instead of statues, I go inside to find God and myself. Instead of going to a priest, I go inside to find my spiritual way.

Today I inhaled a bit of the smoke let off by the incineration of my past, like burning incense on an altar. I smelled familiar fragrances that met me with peaceful blessings.

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A Struggle to the Finish Line

A Struggle to the Finish Line

Over the course of my entire life, I have watched many people hustle and work hard toward a degree, weight loss, quitting a habit, starting a business, or unpacking a houseful of furniture and clothes. The drive to get to the finish starts off like a rocket ship jet streaming through the air toward the moon. But just as it reaches the moon’s surface, it hits some kind of extra terrestrial gravity, which pulls it away from the goal and into an “extended stay” orbit. Just enough energy keeps the person circling the moon like the Jews around the promise land.

What keep you from finishing what you start?

Will and desire often begin with a great epiphany. For instance, suddenly, you realize that you must become a registered nurse before you get too old to study. You are tired of bartending, realize that your music career may never happen, and you desire something that will give you a chance to settle in and get a pension. So, you go to back school, study hard as the teachers push you toward the finish line. Then, one final step happens: You have to pass your boards!

Amazingly, you stop in your tracks. You can’t seem to even crack one book to study. You have tried study groups, which force you to begin the process. Every time, however, the chore of getting prepared becomes more difficult.

In this kind of case, I always—always find a way to reward myself for the end challenge. I find something that I want with all my heart, and keep myself from it until I have accomplished that which I have set out to do.

Once, I told myself that I would not take another vacation until all my bills were paid off except for the house. I struggled for three years taking every extra dime to get those credit cards down and the car paid off. In the end, it was worth it. Being debt free feels incredible. I was able to save for a vacation in two months and used cash instead of depending on credit for the entire trip.

Goal setting becomes the most important facet of finishing a task. If you are not one to finish things you begin, you must create a scenario in your life that forces you to make time for your success! The challenge is a spiritual one. Your ego doesn’t want you to face change or accomplishment. It never does. Your ego would have you stymied by your indecision and ambivalence for as long as it can. The ego knows innately that you cannot find true peace until you finish your task. So, it creates an illusion to keep you from it.

I don’t care what that illusion is. God is stronger. “This isn’t an ego goal!” Say it to yourself about ten times. Now begin to believe that God wants you to be the best you can be. Spirit wants to direct your path toward peace, always. What and whom you have been fighting to finish is not yourself, it is God!

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Consolation Pizza and Momma’s Food Poisoning

Consolation Pizza and Momma’s Food Poisoning

As I watch glimpses of television shows, while I hold up my ill mother’s head, my mind sobered with ideas that this may some day be me. I sure hope a loved one will be with me to hold my head up over the commode and wipe my sweaty brow.

I come to realize, almost every day, that human life is about security and walking the authentic path of spirit every day, much more than finding my ego dream and living it fully.

The ego dream can be nice and fulfilling, but it burns out quickly. In fact, anything I’ve ever accomplished with my ego, the minute it happened, the next moment it was over. I wondered if I grieved the moment passing more than I looked forward to the present moment.

One is never quite sure that the people around him are authentic and real when operating primarily from the ego. However, I know with absolute certainty that I am surrounded with true love and friendship. For that, I’ll be happy with the consolation prize, even if it’s the pizza that you get when you help a friend move from into a new home.

I watched a funny program tonight about an overweight girl struggling to understand her strengths. I believe the reason that the program came off as funny was because it is so real for all of us. The star wanted to prove to her self that she could sing in front of people, because at a grade school talent show she had fainted. She never gave herself the chance to overcome the ancient fear. But to her discontent, when she presently got up after an amazing singer—one of her coworkers, she fainted on stage, again.

In the ladies’ room afterward, her pack consoled her, each having had suffered the likes of bullies and egotists and prima donnas, when they were all in high school and as children. I can truly identify with that premise, as I can remember a few times when I got beaten up for just being me. Fortunately, it made me stronger. Having bullies and thugs in my past made me overcome a great deal of fear. In fact, the first career I chose was to be an actor and singer, which helped me face many performance fears daily.

For this young lawyer in the comedy, though, she decided, with the help of her buddies, that she would go back out on stage and conquer her fears. Fortunately, this final try at conquering her fear, she did get through the song and nailed the last note.

She didn’t win the big trophy. But unlike the girl who did win the prize, our lawyer protagonist went home with four friends who celebrated her accomplishment with “consolation pizza.” The winner, though, had to go home alone, which, I guess, tells the story of the ego.

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Bo Sebastian is a Hypnotherapist and Life & Health Coach, available for private sessions to QUIT SMOKING, Lose Weight, New Lap-Band Hypnosis for Weight Loss, CHANGE YOUR MIND, CHANGE YOUR LIFE! at 615-400-2334 or www.bosebastian.com. Please feel free to comment and/or sign up to receive your blog sent to you directly or stream with an RSS Feed.

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Edgar Finkelstein & Making Space for Dreams

Edgar Finkelstein & Making Space for Dreams

If God gave you a dream, would you have the moxie to move forward with it, even if you didn’t understand what to do, how to accomplish it, or even have the wherewithal to begin? This is when spiritual inspiration becomes miraculous. All greatness needs is one person with a God-inspired dream to change the world.

Look at Martin Luther King. He had a dream for integration. His dream lives on because he walked forward, even when fear and forces beyond his control tried to stop him—did stop him personally. His dream, however, was God’s dream. Even his death inspired millions to keep the spiritual force of his dream moving forward all the way until today.

Often dreams start in the mind as spiritual inspiration. From there, with prayer and deliberation, these dreams start to take shape.

My latest literary idea started off as a spiritual dream to write a blog that would help people with life’s spiritual issues. Almost every time I go into meditation now, I get an idea about it. Soon after my meditation, I go to my computer and write down what I heard. I have been working for the last month on finishing all the material I need to follow up on this dream, so I can begin the process of making the vision reality. I expect it may take another four months total to finish now, because every day it seems to grow in my mind. I have a builder. I have the money. I have the inspiration. All I have to do is keep stepping forward every day into the dream to make it take shape.

I simply do what I know—write, record, market, coach, use hypnosis, and design. Almost every gift I have ever been given in life has been utilized to finish my new project. I find myself more excited about it than I have ever been. The inception of the idea, as I said, began as this blog. Now it is an 800-page book called “Finding Authentic You, 7 Steps to Effective Change” with a “Year to CLEAR” Challenge, which took me two years to write.

Every day has been an inspiration directly from God since I have heard that I was to begin this new project. The purpose and the goal of the book became completely spiritual. Most days I have had no idea what I would write when I sat down. I simply sat with space in my mind and in my life to fulfill the goal. Spirit did the rest. I had no idea what I had been composing was a book and now a new interactive website.

I try not to imagine the end results. The result is something that is up to God. I don’t want my ego to take control, as it has in other artistic endeavors. When my ego gets involved, it seems that most of my tribulation and exhausting tension comes from the end result not matching what I believed will or should happen. So, I know from past experience, much of the results of my other projects must have been ego dreams.

Ego dreams and spiritual dreams are different. If you have been inspired by spirit, you may not be in control of the end result at all. In fact, God may have a completely different idea in mind. Think of the great spiritual leaders who were led by God. Moses stuttered, but was asked to represent the nation of Israel. King Solomon was led to bring peace to the kingdom of Judea, as he kept walking forward with God’s purpose for his kingdom, writing psalms, songs, and proverbs. He had no idea that thousands of years later he would inspire billions.

With a spiritual dream, the intent is more about walking on the path while you create the goal. This is the divinity within you manifesting miraculously in the perfect present. Bless each day of hard work, because the end result is not entirely up to you. You can fuss and fret about what “should” happen at the end, but only God can define that.

Just like little Edgar Finkelstein. Edgar actually is a Mini Lop Rabbit in San Francisco that is looking to be adopted. He’s very cute—adorable, really. Someone apparently had a dream for little Edgar to have a beautiful home with a loving parent. This little bunny inspired someone to create a weird name, on-line chatter, and an amazing marketing scheme to help that perfect person find his little pet.

My dog wants to run after every rabbit and play “eat the bunny.” Fortunately, the rabbits are much faster and more attentive than Coco. Otherwise, I would be having rabbit stew a lot. I’m out of the running to be the adoptive parent of Edgar because of Coco. But that doesn’t keep me from wondering who will be the proud parent. Edgar now has endless possibility because of one person’s dream for him to have a home.

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Bo Sebastian is a Hypnotherapist and Life & Health Coach, available for private sessions to QUIT SMOKING, Lose Weight, New Lap-Band Hypnosis for Weight Loss, CHANGE YOUR MIND, CHANGE YOUR LIFE! at 615-400-2334 or www.bosebastian.com. Please feel free to comment and/or sign up to receive your blog sent to you directly or stream with an RSS Feed.

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The Bounce-Back Effect

The Bounce Back Effect

You may have recently heard about the lawsuit Apple v. Samsung. One of the issues of copyright was the bounce back effect of the IPhone. Steve Jobs said it was one of his favorite features of the newest IPhone. The feature bounces you back to the top of the page when you have to scroll down a long page of text on the web.

But today we are not talking about the IPhone or Steve Jobs, though I love my Iphone and love bouncing back every time. I absolutely hate the idea of bounce back when it refers to losing weight and then bouncing back to your original weight or higher. My clients and I both hate the human nature of homeostasis.

Several days ago I started, yet, a new outlook on losing this midsection ten pounds. Recently, I told you that unless I absolutely can say without a shadow of doubt that I am 100% committed to losing this weight, not a chance it hell will it come off. This is true, because as I had lost 4 pounds as of yesterday. Today, however, I gained 2 pounds back. Why? Because, yesterday I had to take a friend to an operation. We had to wait two hours longer than expected. Then, as we drove up to the Walgreen’s drive thru, a technician announced she didn’t have the prescription in stock. So, we had to go to another Walgreens and wait twenty minutes. Because neither of us could wait any longer to eat, we stopped at a Dairy Queen.

I sincerely thought I was being good. I would get the four chicken planks and fries, not eat the fries, and get an Orange Julius, which had some vitamin C. “Oh, Bo!” Why why why? Even I see the senseless mistake that I made. Who can stand not eating some of those French Fries? I ate about 10. But still, now that I think of it, the Orange Julius probably had enough sugar in it to counteract everything, even though I ordered the smallest size and drank ¾ of it.

When we got to the drug store, Sharon insisted on buying Mint Milanos. Well, I thought, she is going to eat them. I don’t feel responsible for a friend buying comfort food. Except, I also partook in the luscious treat eating a total of six of those. As I filled my day with “things” to do and had 2 extra hours cut out of my day, I didn’t get to do my exercises, so I did a very shortened version of it.

Even with all that, I still gained about 1 ½ pounds. Even with trying, you will bounce back. Trying, I reiterate, is not enough. Had I been committed to the process, I would have started by stopping somewhere we both could have eaten a healthy lunch. There was a Japanese restaurant nearby. Then not eaten the cookies and I would have used some television time to exercise or at least bounce on my fitness ball. What I just described is commitment. What I did was “trying” to commit.

I learn yet another lesson about how to care for my weight-loss clients in my attempt to lose ten pounds. This is very similar to the idea that some smokers come up with: “Can you get me down to just one cigarette a day?” they ask.

My answer is, “Yes, I can do that. It will last for about two weeks, then you will be back to smoking a pack or more a day.”

It’s the bounce-back effect!

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Bo Sebastian is a Hypnotherapist and Life & Health Coach, available for private sessions to QUIT SMOKING, Lose Weight, New Lap-Band Hypnosis for Weight Loss, CHANGE YOUR MIND, CHANGE YOUR LIFE! at 615-400-2334 or www.bosebastian.com. Please feel free to comment and/or sign up to receive your blog sent to you directly or stream with an RSS Feed.

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